Zhou Zhenguo

Pan Yue, a writer in the Western Jin Dynasty, wrote in the "Western Expedition": "A gentleman carries things with kindness." Learn to be tolerant when you are alive.

The English proverb vividly says, "There is no garden without weeds." The Arab said humorously, "The moon also has freckles on its face." In the final analysis, people are not sages, to err is human, gold is not enough, and no one is perfect.

Learning to be tolerant is the need of being a man. Sages of all ages advocated forgiveness and tolerance as important standards of ideal personality. There is a saying in Shangshu that "tolerance is great", and Zhouyi puts forward that "a gentleman carries things with virtue", and Xunzi advocates that "a gentleman is tolerant with virtue, knowing is tolerant of fools, knowing is shallow, and refined is tolerant of miscellaneous". According to Sima Guang's History as a Mirror, Mr. Lou Deye, the prime minister of Wu Zetian era, was famous for his kindness, generosity and diligence. Sima Guang evaluated him as "generous and prudent, ignorant and ignorant in committing crimes". Li Zhaode, assistant minister of Fengge, called him a hillbilly. He smiled and said, I'm not a hillbilly, who is? At that time, Di Renjie, a famous minister, also looked down on Loude's moral character and wanted to crowd him out of the court, but he was able to shrug off it. Later, Wu Zetian told Emperor: I know you because Mr. Lou recommended you to me. Di Renjie felt ashamed.

Learning to be tolerant is the need of life. There is no absolute good or bad in the world, and good and evil are often intertwined, so we sometimes have to be elegant and tolerant in the world. Don't rub sand in your eyes, be careful. It's not worth fighting for blood and gas, just like selling flour and lime. Not only embarrassing, but also causing hatred. "The heavens and the earth are wide, and the light ones are narrow." This sentence is a warning in Tan Can. Therefore, Shen Juying in Qing Dynasty said, "You should have a clear mind, but you should also be generous and not too picky." Master Hongyi put it more directly: "Smart people will not make people lose patience." This is also the reason why we often say "be lenient with others, be lenient with others". In fact, tolerance does not mean incompetence. It is just the embodiment of a person's knowledge, mind and personality strength, which is the so-called "tolerance greatness".

Learning to be tolerant is the need to achieve your career. Cao Zhi, who was quite frustrated in politics during the Three Kingdoms period, said a philosophical sentence: "If heaven is called the highest, it cannot be recovered; Don't pretend to be wide; The sun and the moon say bright, so everyone takes pictures; Jianghai calls it big, which is unacceptable. " If a person wants to achieve something, he must have great tolerance, which has always been the case. According to Song Li Banknotes, when Lv Mengzheng first entered the imperial court, a scholar pointed at him and said, "Does this boy also participate in politics?" Lv Mengzheng pretended not to hear. The man in the same column as Lv Mengzheng asked Lv Mengzheng to ask who that man was several times. Lv Mengzheng refused, saying, "If you know his name, I'm afraid you won't forget it in the future. It's better not to ask." Lv Mengzheng finally became the prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty.

Jin Ying of the Qing Dynasty put it well: "People who want more are narrow-minded, while those who want less are broad-minded." In Zhu's "Zhuzi School", he said: "The mind is just relaxed and easy to get bigger, so don't let a personal intention get in the way first." To learn tolerance, the key is to get rid of inner selfish desires and distractions, indifferent to one's own ambitions and pursue something; At the same time, we should push ourselves and others, complain directly and be kind to others. Here is a sentence from Zhu's poem "You Qi Xing Yan": "The world is wide in the belly, and people often cross the boat."

Tolerance is sunny.

David Jun, selected from Bing Fu's Make a Sea for Yourself, has always been very hard on himself and his friends around him.

In fact, he is very smart, enthusiastic about people and likes making friends very much. It can be said that he simply can't stand the loneliness and loneliness without friends. However, he doesn't allow any shortcomings and faults in his friends, even in his character and way of dealing with people. Some friends can keep friendship with him for a period of time, so they should always suppress themselves. However, suppressing yourself is a very painful thing, and no one can persist for a long time.

As a result, while making new friends enthusiastically, he eliminated and lost old friends in picky. Over time, he didn't even have a friend.

There is such a man, no matter his appearance, manners, family conditions or career, who is excellent in the eyes of women, even very amiable and lovely. However, on the issue of marriage, he has never succeeded.

The first wife, because he was lazy, was chased out of the house; The second wife, too selfish and greedy, was also chased out of the house by him; The third wife was "kicked out" by him because of extravagance and waste. Kind friends acted as matchmakers for him. The fourth lady he approached said, "This man is ill." There is no "door" in his house.

There is such a young man who entered the university from the countryside and was assigned to be a teacher in a high school in the county after graduation. It can be said that he is a person who knows how to make friends.

There is a friend who is addicted to alcohol. He always drinks alcohol, and he is always drunk after drinking. He often makes people restless all night because he is out of control after getting drunk. Because of this shortcoming, many former friends are afraid to run when they meet bees and scorpions. Only this teacher can accompany him to the end every time, try his best to limit all unreasonable behaviors after drinking, and send him home safely.

Among his friends, one is extremely irritable and his language is extremely sharp and mean. Often, when friends get together, I don't know who casually said a word, which will make him furious, even overturn the table and break the teacup; Or suddenly say a few ugly words to make someone lose face and feel ashamed. Later, many friends also "stayed away from him". Only this teacher still keeps a good friendship with him.

Some people don't understand him very much, and there are often words of blame behind him. Some people even said, "If you can be good friends with that kind of person, you must have that kind of personality factor." But no matter how others understand it, he always says, "Each of us has our own personality, and each of us has something that others don't like. But we can be friends, because we all have things we like. Why not be more tolerant! Tolerance we don't like, cherish what we like ... "

Because of his tolerance, there will be more and more friends around him. Whenever there are new opportunities in society, whenever he has any major personal actions, these friends will actively gather around him. Rich, hard-working, giving advice, social activities are never complacent, which makes his life go smoothly and colorful.

It is impossible for each of us to go through our lives independently. As long as other people's personalities don't directly hurt us, why not be more tolerant?

Forgiving others is actually forgiving yourself.

Be more tolerant of others, in fact, our life will have a little more space.

On the road of life with friends, there will be care and support, and there will be no loneliness and loneliness; Life with friends will be less stormy and more warm and sunny. In fact, tolerance is always sunny.