Interpersonal relationship refers to the interdependent and interrelated social relationship formed between social groups through communication, which is an important part of people's real life. It is a process of dynamic change and development, which requires people to constantly adjust their ideas and behaviors in life practice to adapt to the new social environment. The adaptation of interpersonal relationship has become an important part of mental health. Good interpersonal relationships can help teenagers better adapt to physical and psychological changes. If college students want to adapt to the ever-changing times and real society and make a difference, they must constantly strive to cultivate their communicative competence. The cultivation of college students' interpersonal skills should pay attention to interpersonal cognition, interpersonal skills and practical participation.

First, form a correct interpersonal cognition.

The cultivation of ability should be based on knowledge, and the mastery of knowledge is helpful to the improvement of individual ability. Therefore, college students should form correct interpersonal cognition.

(A) a correct understanding of self and others

Correct self-evaluation is an important condition for college students' mental health. College students should know themselves correctly, put themselves in a correct position, be neither humble nor supercilious, face setbacks and difficulties, be self-satisfied, respect themselves, face reality squarely and be proactive. Look at others objectively and fairly, neither exaggerating their shortcomings nor narrowing their advantages. "In a threesome, there must be a teacher." In communication, we should pay more attention to and appreciate the advantages of others and learn from them.

(B) to master certain principles of communication

Without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang. If you want to establish good interpersonal relationships, you must follow certain principles.

1. The principle of equal respect. Everyone in society is an independent individual with equal rights and obligations. In communication, we should treat others equally and respect their personality and behavior habits, so as to establish effective communication channels and form good interpersonal relationships.

2. The principle of treating others sincerely. Doubt, fear and lack of trust are the main obstacles that affect college students to establish good interpersonal relationships. Therefore, to establish a good interpersonal relationship among college students, we must adhere to the principle of treating others sincerely. Sincerity to people is mainly manifested in the consistency of words and deeds and appearance. Only in this way can we gain the trust of others. In communication, we should keep our words, keep our promises, be sincere, criticize and suggest with a good attitude, and sincerely encourage and praise, not hypocritical flattery and flattery, not rude satire and attack.

3. Be tolerant. College students come from all over the country, and there are differences in personal growth environment, personality and living habits, which are prone to contradictions and conflicts. Learn to understand and tolerate, don't haggle over unprincipled issues, seek common ground while reserving differences, repay kindness with kindness, tolerate the faults and shortcomings of others, face life with a grateful heart, and help and tolerate others with good behavior.

4. Help each other. Interpersonal communication that begins with help and mutual assistance is easier to establish good relationships. College students should not only be good at discovering the strengths and weaknesses of others, but also learn with an open mind, sincerely understand and enthusiastically help others' shortcomings and deficiencies. In communication, mutual help, care and support make the relationship more stable.

Second, learn communication skills.

(1) Learn to listen. Listening is an art of interpersonal communication. Listening attentively to each other's conversation is a courtesy and respect to each other, and it is also a compliment and compliment to each other. The other party will also like you, trust you and be willing to associate with you. To really listen, you have to listen with your heart, eyes and ears. Therefore, college students should master listening skills in communication, listen patiently, carefully, modestly and knowingly, and give each other enough respect.

(2) learn to express. Expression is an important skill in interpersonal communication. Language is an important tool for directly expressing ideas and transmitting information, and the effect of language expression directly affects the quality of interpersonal relationships. In language communication, college students should be good at finding topics of mutual interest, pay attention to each other's reactions and seize the opportunity of conversation; Learn to express your thoughts and feelings in clear, accurate, vivid, concise and organized language; Learn to distinguish occasions, times, people, etc. And master proper limit to express; Also pay attention to tone, intonation, etc. Learn to use humorous language to enhance others' appreciation of themselves, so as to communicate better.

Silent language, expressions, eyes, gestures, etc. Can express the meaning and emotion that is difficult to express in spoken language. A good communication image, while expressing emotions, should learn to control expressions; Eyes should be calm, kind and thoughtful; Gestures should be polite, civilized and generous.

(3) learn to appreciate. Appreciation is a great art with incredible power. Appreciation includes both recognition of others and appreciation of others. Everyone's deepest and most persistent desire is the desire for praise. Learning to praise others is the secret weapon in daily communication. Praise should be sincere and heartfelt; Praise should conform to the actual situation and be specific and clear; Praise needs to start with subtleties and grasp the characteristics that distinguish it from others.

(4) learn to be grateful. Gratitude can promote mutual trust, understanding and respect, and help to establish good interpersonal relationships. Only by knowing how to be grateful first can we know how to care and repay. College students should have a grateful heart, experience the help and happiness brought by others, cherish everything they have in life, and learn to pay, respect and care for others in communication.

Third, improve communication skills in activities.

Activity is a bridge to form interpersonal relationship, and good interpersonal relationship needs to be realized through a series of social life practice activities. Campus is the main activity scope of college students, and they have plenty of spare time. Therefore, college students must enrich campus life and expand their social circle.

(A) to create a good dormitory culture

Dormitory is the base of college students' study and life, and the most intensive and frequent place for communication. A positive and healthy dormitory culture helps to establish a good and harmonious roommate relationship, and members become more familiar and intimate through constant communication. Therefore, dormitory staff should strive to establish a good dormitory culture in their dormitory. College students can formulate the name, style and rules and regulations of this dormitory according to their own personality, national customs and lifestyle. Carry out some group activities regularly; Actively participate in the construction of school dormitory culture and enhance communication, coordination and cooperation.

(2) Actively participate in class collective construction.

Class collective is the basic unit of college students' study and life. Each member plays his own role in the class, and members should adapt to each other and cooperate with each other to establish a harmonious class group. Every member of the class collective should actively participate in various activities of the class collective, strengthen mutual understanding and communication, establish a correct public opinion orientation, and form a positive class style and study style; Members should respect each other, care for each other and help each other to form a stable interpersonal relationship; Strengthen exchanges and communication with counselors, teachers and leaders.

(C) to participate in community activities to improve communication skills.

Various associations of college students enrich their spare time, provide places and opportunities for students to exercise, and also help to improve their interpersonal skills. After class, college students can choose appropriate club activities according to their interests, personalities and majors. , actively participate in community activities, further expand the scope of communication, fully exercise and tap their interpersonal skills; You can also strengthen communication with other members of society through a series of social practice activities, such as summer social practice.