Humans are the most common species in the world. 2 1 century today, there is always mutual suspicion and comparison between people. Most people live with a civilian mentality, and their parents' shortcomings reflect the fun between neighbors.
However, many people have one thing in common: they like to listen to others' praise, and it is often difficult to accept others' well-meaning criticism. Even children of several years old know that only when they are coaxed by adults can they be obedient.
Nowadays, many people have this view, often because a bad word leads to a war. As a result, my good friend for many years suddenly became a stranger. Sometimes when I see others whispering, I feel that I am speaking ill of myself. Over time, thoughts will become more narrow-minded and unable to get along with others.
We must correct this bad habit first. Communication with others should be based on mutual trust, and don't contradict others because of their views on themselves. You should know that only your parents and your real friends will tell you about the shortcomings and deficiencies that usually happen to you, but those ordinary friends will not tell you about them. All they have is courtesy and flattery.
The reason why a country can't last long is that its rulers are close to villains and far away from virtuous officials. We can't misunderstand the kindness of real friends just because we feel humiliated for a while.
Secondly, we should accept others' opinions about ourselves with an open mind. A true confidant doesn't care what the other person says to himself. We can't just listen to good words and not accept our own shortcomings. Then the friendship between two people may drift away. Old people often say that advice is hard to listen to, and that's true. How many promising young people are ruined by this flattery and unwilling to accept it?
Once we are deceived by such a beautiful lie, we will be trapped in it and will not change our shortcomings.
Third, learn to look at what others think of you. Others can point out our shortcomings, and only true friends can do so. Even if what our friends say is wrong, we can't refuse others' kindness at once. Listen to others' corrections with an open mind first, and then analyze what friends say is wrong. You can't kill others for being good to yourself, because your immodesty will eventually lose more.
Let's all learn to respect what others think of us. No one is perfect, so people can't find any shortcomings. Even great scholars can fully listen to other people's opinions and correct their own shortcomings with an open mind. Why can't we? Only by learning to respect others' views on yourself can you get others' respect.