Rule number one: what dad likes is actually not that ugly.
Growing up, my mother begged me not to play games, and my grandfather begged me to play erhu with him. It's just that my dad never begged me.
Only one day, only once, he begged me to read.
I remember when I was about ten years old. At Xinhua Bookstore, he smiled tentatively at me, almost flattering: "I'll buy you a Lin Yuan, ok?" I won't do it. The name of this book is so stupid that whoever looks at it is stupid. What I want to buy is another book, Fu Hao Fairy Tales. The yellow cover is painted with fairy tale villains, which is very cute.
He said, "Then I'll buy it for both of you, and I'll also buy Lin Xuehai Yuan, ok?" I still remember his eagerness. After repeated entreaties, I finally gave in. He took the book from the salesman as if he had taken a solemn sacred object. He had to look at it carefully, saying that he wanted to see if it was the same as the previous version, and murmured, "The first blood debt ..." After looking at it carefully, he made sure it was exactly the same as what he saw in that year, and then handed it to me with satisfaction: "It's really nice and beautiful."
After I bought it home, the book fell asleep for a long time. I don't think I'll watch it before I die. I would rather read Xinhua Dictionary than read it. Moreover, soon I will have Jin Yong again, and it seems that this book will be put in the cold.
But the truth is, somehow, I really read it. You may ask: Is it nice? Let's just say that the most positive characters in in the name of people, such as Hou Liang Ping and Lu Yike ... compared with the positive characters in this book, they are not upright people at all, but just young pioneers. When it comes to artistic standards, this book is really trite and rough.
But I have to admit, this book is ... really good. However, there is still a little doubt: my dad likes it himself, why do you have to sell it to me humbly?
Many years later, I had a career-reading Jin Yong's martial arts novels. In the lecture, I asked the following young students: which version of Jin Yong's original work are you reading? Is it a triple edition? Is it newly revised? Then I felt that the air was wrong, which was a bit strange. They blinked and looked at me with complicated eyes, like a fossil monster. At this time, I realized that, yes, when Jin Yong published the triple edition in 1994, they were not born yet!
An inexplicable loss surged up, and I almost had an impulse to grab their clothes and shake them: "Alas, why don't you read such a beautiful book?" If you don't watch, how can we talk? "At this moment, I suddenly remembered my father at the counter of Xinhua Bookstore many years ago. He looked at his son sadly, hoping that he would accept the book Lin Yuan. At this time, I realized that Lin Yuan was a martial arts novel of his time! He was in the same mood as I am now
Jin Yong is my childhood memory, just as Lin is my father Yuan's childhood memory. He tried desperately to recommend this book to me before, and I was disgusted. Just like today, I talked endlessly about the version of Jin Yong's novels, and the young students below looked ignorant. We all want to pass on some things and memories. But we all met a kind of resistance-the resistance of the times.
What dad likes is actually not that ugly.
Material application
In order to make his son fall in love with his beloved book, the father begged piteously. This kind of scene makes people laugh. However, the author didn't really understand the meaning behind this move until he was about the same age as his father. What we ignore may all be true-two times, two books, two mentalities and two memories, which are thought-provoking.
The rapid use of famous sayings
1. The love between father and son lies in the heart, not in the love of flesh and blood. -Schiller, German writer
2. A father's virtue is his son's legacy. -Spanish writer Cervantes
The benefits of reading the right topic; Generation gap; Father-son relationship; Understand; understand
Rule 2: Don't be fooled by subtle influences.
When I was in college, I studied English, saved TOEFL listening in MP3, and listened to it all day. After listening to it for more than ten hours every day, the whole person wants to vomit, but he still doesn't understand.
Why don't you understand? Because I didn't recite the words. How can you understand a sentence if you don't even know the words? However, I believe in the subtle power, and it is always good to listen more. Later, every time it said a word, I knew what the next syllable was, but it was useless. I still didn't know what it meant.
Memorizing words, for convenience, only recite the first meaning, and only remember spelling, not phonetic symbols. This is why I recite many words, but I don't know how to read them because I don't look at the phonetic symbols. I still can't hear it when I listen, and I can't see it all. Results There was a five-year gap between CET-4 and CET-6. I have been studying English hard and taking exams hard for these five years. Why is the effect so bad? Because I regard evil as the right way and evil as the right way.
Today, many people still believe in subtle power. For example, as long as you study well, you can't go wrong. Even if you don't understand, there are subtle benefits. Sounds good, but it's not like that. It's just that this explanation makes you feel more comfortable That kind of subtle influence is like listening to TOEFL for ten hours in my ear.
You can't look at things in fog, but study the reasons and reasons behind them. It is the same as going to school. It is the same as sitting in the classroom for seven or eight hours a day listening to the teacher. Some people get 90 points, others get 20 points. Some people are admitted to the university in the third year of high school, and some people have to review to the fourth and fifth years of high school. The person who scored 20 points is also subtle! It will take longer to review the senior four and senior five!
It has a subtle effect, but it needs to distinguish between different situations. When should we talk about osmosis? "don't do it small." When you do something bad for the first time, you will be very nervous and afraid. You won't be so nervous and scared when you do it again. You do a hundred things, and the whole person changes completely. This matter must be talked about in a subtle way.
But people often don't like to talk about this kind of thing subtly, but like to talk about something else: reading a book without understanding-"I am subtle"; Do one thing, the chain is broken-"nothing, learn from experience, imperceptibly."
Why is this happening? If you do something evil and useless, you can treat the big fault as a small fault and the fault as no fault. If you get something for nothing and talk about it imperceptibly, you can regard no progress as progress and no credit as credit. People are actually very slippery, and they always like to think about things where they are comfortable.
Confucius said that "studious" means "never get angry and never fail". If you screw up once, you will screw up in the same place next time. This is "not easy to learn". Under the guise of "it plays a subtle role anyway", it is slack, laissez-faire, and ambiguous.
Material application
"imperceptibly" has always been a wonderful word, which means that you always improve and enrich yourself inadvertently. I firmly believe that with that feeling, there will be a bright future. Exquisite products make you sweat: the subtle influence of not distinguishing right from wrong and lacking rationality turns out to be a chronic poison. Think rationally, distinguish right from wrong and never take it for granted.
The rapid use of famous sayings
1. Willpower is the source of happiness, and happiness comes from self-discipline. -American aesthetician George? Santayana
Most of our pride is based on our ignorance! -Lessing, German playwright
Rational thinking on practical problems; Can't take it for granted; The way of doing things
Chapter III: Poor personality
12-year-old son and 10-year-old daughter had an argument over something, and we had a lively argument. Slowly, the more you fight, the more fierce you are.
The son scolded his daughter: "You have a bean brain on your head, not a brain. My brain is as small as a bean and I can't think at all! " The daughter retorted, "What are you calling me?"
The son was so angry that he moved out of his semi-impassable "logic": "If I become a millionaire in the future and call you poor, will I really become as poor as you?"
The daughter responded unhurriedly: "If you are a millionaire and your words hurt people, then you are really poor. It's not that you have no money in your pocket, it's that your character is poor! "
Ah, bad character!
I have been "watching the fire from the other side" and secretly stunned.
The promise of childlike innocence is full of incredible philosophy. Yes, even if you have all the wealth in the world, if your character is riddled with holes, then from another perspective, you are still poor.
Material application
Material abundance can never make up for the lack of spirit. Even children know that a person's temperament and personality can't be measured by his wealth, otherwise even a millionaire will have a "poor" personality if his exports hurt people. Writing brush requires bones and muscles, painting Chinese painting pays attention to charm, and being a man should also pay attention to the cultivation of sound personality. There are innocence, kindness, Excellence and virtue in the world.
The rapid use of famous sayings
1. The most terrible thing for a person to live in this world is spiritual emptiness. -Contemporary writer Ding Ling
2. First, the noblest thoughts, followed by money; A rich society without the noblest ideas will collapse. -Russian writer Dostoevsky
Applicable topics material and spirit; Temperament and character; (childlike) innocence
Article 4: People's obligations do not come from generations.
I have always believed that friends are those who have choices. We owe each other an obligation.
As for those students who were forced to be in the same class, roommates who were assigned to the same dormitory, and childhood neighbors who had to play together ... To be honest, I didn't choose them.
Get along, just because I have no ability.
Therefore, in the face of those who use hats like "friendship of classmates for many years", "After all, we shared a room" and "Don't forget that we used to play with mud" to bind you to do your duty, my tolerance is particularly low.
In my opinion, what everyone can accept is not their own choice, but must be completely coordinated with fate ... for the sake of family, it has come to an end. Therefore, once you can choose your friends, your former classmates, roommates for many years and childhood playmates should not be compared with your current friends.
Because people's obligations come from choices, not from generations.
Material application
What is a true friend? A friend is a person's free and voluntary choice, a bitter pursuit of his own spirit, beliefs and values, and definitely not a passive "accidental encounter." So, don't kidnap friendship, learn to distinguish true friendship from the truth of feelings. Life is the same, we should learn to choose actively instead of accepting passively.
The rapid use of famous sayings
1. Those who are willing to join hands are not far from mountains and seas; People who follow the rules are not close at hand. -Ge Hong, a Taoist scholar in the Eastern Jin Dynasty
The real value lies not in the stage of life, but in the role we play. -German poet Schiller
Applicable topics; Freedom; Emotional kidnapping; Active and passive
Chapter 5: Reading is also a scholar.
Man is a book.
Reading people is more difficult than reading books written in other languages. I have read it carefully, and I have read it for most of my life, but I still don't understand this "People's Tales".
Some people are willing to lend you their umbrellas on sunny days, but when it rains, they leave quietly with umbrellas. Don't blame him when you read him. Because he doesn't want to get wet in the rain (let alone someone else's umbrella) and he doesn't want to share other people's difficulties. What can you say? Keep an umbrella for yourself.
Some people, when you have power and influence, run around you, you leave your job, or you have no power and influence, but he hides far away. You must understand him when you read him. Because he used to praise you for a certain need, and now you don't have that ability, there is no need to sing a hymn for you. Here, you need to calm down and reflect on whether you used to trust others too much.
Some people, in the face of your affection, the expression of language is like a clear and sweet river, but there is a dirty undercurrent under the riverbed. Don't hate him when reading him. Because anyone who deceives others with hypocrisy as a mask, his life is very difficult, and maybe he will be punished by the same hypocrisy. You should understand his lifestyle and wait for his return and reflection on humanity.
Some people, when you sow hard, stand by and watch, but when you harvest, they share your fruit without shame for various reasons. -when you read him, don't be disgusted. Because someone is willing to share the sweetness of your harvest, no matter what kind of psychology he is, he should be welcomed. You made a little sacrifice, but you fulfilled a person's desire for performance. Slowly, he will learn some self-esteem and self-love.
Some people pay attention to the decoration of appearance, and their clothes show a luxury, but their hearts are full of emptiness, ignorance and ignorance. That kind of uncultivated form is often unconsciously revealed in his speech and actions. Don't despise him when reading him. Because he doesn't know that clothes are made by tailors, and they are only signs of money, but knowledge, morality and temperament are a person's real life value. For vulgar people, you can compare your own behavior.
Reading others is actually reading yourself, truth, goodness and beauty, as well as hypocrisy behind hypocrisy, ugliness behind beauty and cunning behind smiles. ...
Reading people, the most important thing is to understand how to be a person.
Reading people is to be a real person.
Therefore, when reading people, we should learn to be tolerant and generous, so that we can read something beneficial to ourselves, noble, happy and happy.
Although I haven't finished reading People's Tales, I will always try to read it from all aspects.
Material application
The purpose of reading is to seek knowledge, and doing a good job is the most important knowledge between heaven and earth. A person is a book and a mirror. The flaws or defects of others can help us prevent small delays and cultivate our own self-cultivation, because we are by no means perfect. People need to constantly improve, and learning or research is a shortcut. Only by clarifying the meaning of reading can we become a happy person.
The rapid use of famous sayings
1. See the sage Si Qi, but not the sage. -Confucius, an educator in the Spring and Autumn Period
2. Take learning as the first step and take learning as the basis. -Zhu, Neo-Confucianism in Southern Song Dynasty
Suitable for the field of subject reading; Books and people; Enrich yourself