I often tell jokes to young friends. Where is jealousy? Women are the most obvious. If you look on the street, one woman walks down the street and another woman comes over, either dressed better than her, or looking better than her, or holding something different in her hand, she will squint and then' break' and be jealous. People walking in the street are more beautiful than you. What does this have to do with you? She doesn't like it either. Jealous. Women have a lot of similar psychology, or something, or a certain point, as long as people have a little benefit, she must be jealous.
Men seem to be more jealous than women. Actually, it's the same, just different. In Vanity Fair, colleagues get promoted, or managers and bosses treat someone well, so they are extremely jealous. Lao Tzu, what is he? "Bah!" That's it, spit! Jealousy, and many more!
Envy is also innate, and there are many phenomena. These two mentalities are poisonous! According to Buddhist scriptures, jealousy is the fundamental cause of the transformation of male body into female body, which is very clever. Everyone checks himself. When I was a child, my classmates wrote better than themselves, wrote better articles and did better homework. Do you really admire him? You don't hate him either, but you have a mentality:' I have a strong self-esteem!' My self-esteem was hurt. What is self-esteem? Jealousy, to put it mildly, is self-esteem, to hide one's shame, and that is prickly heat powder. The so-called self-esteem is slowly increasing, and I am slow, so I changed my name to self-esteem. Why do you have to respect yourself? Self-centered, self-boasting, the world is big and I am big, watching myself become more and more great under the moon. Is that self-esteem That's my slowness, because I am slow and become jealous.
We see many people and friends in history. When we talk about history, we will accidentally think of a question. People in China talk about five ethics: monarch, minister, father, son, brother, husband, wife and friends. The first four ethics are ok. Why add friends? Friends are still important. Friends are sometimes more important than parents and brothers. Why? People sometimes encounter something and have some kind of psychology. Parents, brothers and couples may not be able to help, only friends can solve it. However, in the history of China, only the stories of Guan Zhong and Bao Shu Ya were publicized as friends. Are they the only ones who have had friends in China for thousands of years? Of course not. Besides them, there are many non-intellectuals, but it is not easy for intellectuals to do this.
Based on my decades of experience, I now even admit two words of the ancients:' Everyone who beats dogs is a scholar.' I recently wrote a couplet about this matter to others, saying that' few people report good news, but many people report bad news'. Nowadays, no matter how much you pay, all you get is resentment. The ancients also said,' Every time you kill a dog, you can really help others in society. The poor sympathize with others, and the poor will sympathize with the poor. Only those who suffer will sympathize with those who suffer. Dog butchers kill pigs and dogs, and have not read any books. Most ungrateful people are scholars. The more knowledge an intellectual has, the more he can explain his thoughts. When he doesn't want to do it, he will explain it deliberately; People with low knowledge can't explain, my friends! Why not go? As a friend, there is no reason not to go because his ideas are not complicated. The higher the knowledge, the more complicated the thought, and the person who becomes simple and single-minded with high knowledge is the first person in the world, from brilliant to ordinary.
Guan Zhong and Bao are the friendship of intellectuals, and they have never been jealous. Why? When Guan Zhong was down and out, they cooperated in business. Guan zhong's character has always been like this, and he always takes more when he checks out. For example, if he earns100000, he wants to take 800000, so he can take it. It's not easy! Guan Zhong became prime minister and was dying. Qi Huangong asked him what to do if he died. Who is the Prime Minister looking for? In our opinion, Guan Zhong must recommend Bao. Qi Huangong also asked Guan Zhong whether Bao Shu Ya could take his place. Guan Zhong replied that he couldn't, because Bao's personality was too old-fashioned, too perfect, too demanding, and his mind could not be all-inclusive and he couldn't be a prime minister. So I stopped looking for Bao as prime minister and recommended others.
Where is the so-called confidant? If you were someone else, you would think: I have been friends with you for decades. I trained you when you were poor, and I helped you move up politically. When you commit a crime, I also protect you from decapitation. Since you have been a prime minister for decades, you should let me sit in this position after you die. Even the emperor motioned me to do it, but you objected. Most people will definitely scold Guan Zhong for being hateful. But when Bao heard Guan Zhong tell him not to let him be the prime minister, he was very grateful. Only Guan Zhong knows me'. In fact, Guan Zhong loves him. The prime minister can punt in his stomach, his personality is too square and his mind is too narrow. If he sits in the position of prime minister, he will screw up by himself. Guan Zhong opposed Bao as prime minister in order to save him. Only Bao understood that Guan Zhong's psychology was to love him. There is never jealousy between them, which is quite difficult.
Envy is terrible. In my opinion, there is jealousy between men and women, and newlyweds are the best! We are jealous of each other, believe it or not? If couples go to a certain occasion, many people praise their wives, and their husbands are very uncomfortable, not to mention that men praise their wives too much, but women praise their husbands too much, so it's really tasteless to sit there. On the other hand, if you praise your husband on a certain occasion, although your wife is happy, her heart is not the taste. This' not a taste' mentality is jealousy. Do you think couples are not jealous? Do you think brothers are not jealous? Even father and son, teachers and students are jealous!
If people can get rid of greed and jealousy, what is its opposite? Only help others, only compliment others, only cultivate people, we all hope others are good, and all the glory belongs to you, brother, that is to say, we are not jealous. What is learning Buddha? This is learning Buddha! Do you think that kowtowing to Buddha, chanting scriptures and being a vegetarian, and asking for Buddha's blessing are just learning Buddha? You'd better ask these four words to bless you better. If you really remove these four words, you will be half successful in becoming a Buddha.
Of all human passions, jealousy may be the most tenacious and enduring person. Therefore, the ancients once said: "I don't know how to rest when I am jealous." At the same time, it is observed that compared with other feelings, only love and jealousy are the thinnest. This is because nothing lasts longer than love and jealousy. But jealousy is a despicable lust after all, so it belongs to the devil's quality. The Bible once told us that the devil wants to plant barnyard grass in the wheat field in the dark just because he is jealous of Bieber's bumper harvest! Indeed, just like destroying wheat, jealousy always destroys the beauty of the world secretly and quietly.
It is unfair to say that human nature has the above weaknesses. After all, there is also a negative selflessness, openness, honesty and trustworthiness. Because of the contrast between these people, the ugliness of the former is revealed. If they are selfish, greedy and jealous, then they are not called human weakness. * * * Some things are not called their characteristics and weaknesses, just like everyone works and everyone gets paid. Who can say who is selfish and greedy? The weaknesses and strengths of human beings are just.