(1) Unintentional Lying Rich imagination is one of the characteristics of mental development of children aged 3-6. The child's lying shows that he has imagination. In order to meet some psychological needs, they often lie unconsciously and unconsciously. [3] Unintentional lying is a normal psychological phenomenon in early childhood. Mainly because children make mistakes in memory, imagination, association and judgment, and say things that are inconsistent with the facts. For example, in kindergarten, a child told me that a car hit me today, and I was fine, but the car broke down. It turns out that he just watched the Transformers cartoon. This is the imagination that children have their own knowledge structure, and it is an independent creative imagination. This is a special form of creative imagination. Lying refers to a "lie" that deliberately deceives and does not tell the truth. It is called a "lie" because it is false, untrue and deceptive. There is also a psychological illusion caused by inadequate understanding and misunderstanding, and the imaginary plot is used to replace the plot with inaccurate memory. For example, if some children obviously do something wrong, we will guide them to say, "If you do something wrong, you will be a good boy if you change it later." After the child came home, he happily reported to his parents, "The teacher praised me as a good boy today!" " "Children don't understand the true meaning of what we call a' good boy', which is the psychological illusion of understanding caused by children's lack of experience. (2) deliberately lying Sometimes, children will deliberately lie for a certain purpose (true lying). This kind of lying is related to morality. Although it can't be said badly, it reflects the problems existing in children's moral development. This kind of lying is a problem that our teachers and parents should pay attention to, which will affect the children's future development. It is something made up by children to achieve a certain purpose and desire, which is not in line with the actual situation. Its performance is as follows: 1. Imitating adults to lie is influenced by inappropriate attitudes of adults, and some children lie, which is often related to the influence of adults. Especially the lying behavior of children's parents is often the direct cause of children's lying. For example, in daily life, children often hear their parents say that you are obedient and buy you KFC. As a result, their parents are busy with work and forget things. Or just say something casually and let the children obey. Then children will learn to lie, or lie for rewards. At the same time, what teachers say to children is not fulfilled, and is often regarded as "cheating" by children. Children in early childhood like to imitate the actions or words of adults or companions. 2. The distrust of parents and teachers will also make children lie. Today, many parents and teachers care too much about their children and worry about their personality development. Never trust children. Every time a child says something, you always say, "Did you lie to me? "Children will naturally lie when they hear such words. They think you all think I'm lying. It doesn't matter whether I'm telling the truth or not. 3. The misleading words of teachers and parents lead children to lie intentionally. We have heard at home and kindergarten that children who dare to admit their mistakes are good children. As long as you admit your mistakes, you will be praised. I have read such an interesting story that there are many regional activities in kindergarten, among which the plant area is the day of planting flowers. Dongdong and Beibei were playing, and Beibei accidentally broke the flowerpot. Generally, children who do something wrong are nervous and scared. When the teacher asked who broke the flowerpot, Beibei never dared to look at the teacher. Finally, the teacher said, "The child who admits his mistake is a good boy, and the teacher rewards him. "At this moment, Dongdong stood up and said," Teacher, I broke it. " Finally, Dongdong was praised. Beibei looked at Dongdong stupidly with a puzzled face. From then on, Dongdong will help others admit their mistakes whenever possible. This prompted Dongdong to habitually lie. 4. Improper family education also makes children lie. Family is the place where children live. Except kindergarten, children spend their time at home. Parents' improper education methods can also lead to lying. Some parents don't think that children need to be corrected for lying. Children are very happy when they lie to others, thinking that children can do things and are very smart. Only when children are dishonest with themselves will they be regarded as lying. There are also some adults who take children's lying too seriously. Children will be severely punished and even abused every time they lie. Distrust between parents and children can also lead to lying. Adults should not rashly doubt what children say. Sometimes, adults are also lying, for example, they casually promise their children to be the first to pick them up at night, but the result is the last. Don't promise your child anything easily, which will easily lead your child to lie. In short, there are five main reasons why children intentionally lie: 1) inappropriate attitudes of adults lead to lying; 2) lying to avoid responsibility; 3) lying to gain appreciation; 4) lying to satisfy vanity; 5) Lie to attract others' attention.