I always thought that people like Chai Jing, because of their feelings and love for journalism, chose to go to Beijing when they were already famous, while studying and starting all over again. This is just drifting north, drifting. This is a gesture. Before taking root, overlooking every corner of the city, like a glowing Nightcrawler, they tried to find a place that shines like themselves, and when they found it, they could land, be grounded and truly integrate into the city.
I have several college classmates and have a very good relationship. After graduation, they went to Beijing in succession. Some people want to achieve something, others just want to see the outside world, instead of finding a similar job in a small town, marrying a similar man and living a similar life.
After all, only by boasting mountains and rivers, crossing the sea of people and having everything, are you willing to take the ordinary road. Hot-blooded young people are curious about everything. Who doesn't have a restless heart?
Many girls have similar intentions to Chen Ke. They are afraid to go to work on time every day. Before the age of 30, they were busy dating. Boys of similar age around me have been introduced, or even repeated. After the age of 30, they spent all their time and energy on their children, frantically enrolled in interest classes, picked up housekeepers, weighed their meager wages, and worked out their pre-retirement wages by several calculators. Year after year, they get old in the blink of an eye.
Not willing to be so dull, we should consider how much we have, so some people just left college without hesitation, and some people stamped their feet to quit their iron rice bowls to work and travel.
We always think that first-tier cities are the most accurate yardstick.
The latter is more determined and purposeful, knowing what they want, what they don't want, and what the direction of their efforts is, and making preliminary plans instead of being pushed forward step by step. Because of this, we dare to cut off the back road and go forward with the highest success rate.
Obviously, Chen Ke in Beijing Women's Picture Book decided to go to Beijing because of an unwilling heart. It started well. My boyfriend broke up because he couldn't go to Beijing because of family changes. She went to Beijing alone, lonely and helpless. She was wronged and helpless when she encountered many unfair treatments and emergencies. She also suffers from insomnia because of loneliness and despair because of frustration.
She has a bad cold and has to take off her pants when she wants to go to the toilet. She cried for help from her aunt next to her. The woman may feel serious and melodramatic when she sees this bridge. As for it?
Maybe it's not just asking for help, but if all your girlfriends have found happiness and dependence, and you are alone, struggling, being driven out by the landlord, moving with illness, and the house has been leaking rain, all negative emotions will erupt, and grievances and helplessness will be infinitely amplified until it collapses. Just like you have encountered several setbacks recently, which makes you wonder if you are sailing against the current.
I can understand that kind of helplessness, because I have experienced it and I will feel the same.
In my second year of work, I shared a room with my landlord, an old woman in her seventies. One winter night, I came home from work and there was no one at home. It was dark and there was no electricity.
At first, I was just afraid of the dark. When I saw a portrait of a stranger in the living room, I completely collapsed. The door was open and there was a little light in the corridor. The landlord was old and didn't need a mobile phone at all. I couldn't contact her, and I didn't bring my wallet back that day, so I was embarrassed to disturb others at night.
It happened that a friend sent me a WeChat message, and when he knew my situation, he immediately called me to accompany me to stabilize my mood. Calm down, remember that the house was introduced by my colleague, whose classmate is the daughter of the old lady, so I found my colleague, who contacted her classmate and her classmate found her mother.
Finally, I learned that the old lady didn't go to her son's house until she knew there was a power outage at home.
Her daughter knew that I was afraid at home alone, so she took the children to stay with me for one night.
That kind of experience is like a road idiot suddenly facing countless forks in the road, surrounded by no one, making people anxious, confused, afraid, and even beginning to doubt life. Why did you choose this life in the first place?
At this time, you need to fill yourself with a bowl of chicken soup to suppress the shock. For example, "Don't forget why you started just because you walked too far."
Maybe 100% people who wander in first-class cities will say, of course, it is because of dreams!
Then I will sit on the tutor's bench and ask: What is your dream?
For example, Chen Ke's dream is not a certain industry or a certain position, but a foothold in Beijing and a better life. What is a better life?
She doesn't know, so she is a bystander. While learning from others, she becomes vain and wants to compare with others, thinking that she really likes it.
What I like is not my own style, but big names, and luxury goods are my own aesthetics. Others have bought lv bags, and they have to apply for a credit card to buy one. The surrounding sisters got married and gave birth to a second child, and began to get married in a hurry. Send friends to ask for marriage when you are lonely at night. By the way, if conditions are equal, they accept flash marriage.
The real satisfaction is not that you have what I have, but that you cherish yourself. You have your own preferences and persistence. This is your personality. Blindly following the trend will only turn your desire into a bottomless pit and fill your dissatisfaction.
In one wrong goal after another, she realized what was inappropriate and what she didn't want, and then ticked off those wonderful sugar-coated shells that had been fantasized, but what exactly did she want? She was still confused, and confusion made her helpless, so she made mistakes again and again.
The root cause of unhappiness is that you don't even know what you want. How can you have a direction? Going in the wrong direction one by one, paying for mistakes again and again, how to get out of the maze of the Forbidden City?
Until I look back, what I shouldn't have missed has already been missed.
She doesn't know what kind of marriage she wants. Unlike Wang Jiajia, she wanted to find a well-equipped family from the beginning, so that she could be a carefree housewife. Finally, I really married a man 30 years older than her and went to Hong Kong.
Her failed relationship is like a comic book. This example is not the history of struggle, but the history of people. Men of all kinds are more diligent in changing men than in changing jobs. One type is different every year, spanning the whole city of Beijing! We moved in together after dinner. The classmate I met at the driving school got married as soon as he got his driver's license and left without saying a word. I don't know what kind of person the other person is, and I am eager to throw myself at him. After getting along, I found that we were not suitable. What did you do in the early days? This is a test error in practice. How wrong is it?
Did the failed love affair prove that all those men were love rat? No, the man who kept telling her that he didn't want to get married, had a flash marriage with another woman. A struggling young man wants to marry her. She hates other ordinary people for no reason.
This play is really carefully painted through three views. What kind of struggle is this? Obviously, it is up to men to gain a foothold and climb up step by step. The first job was introduced by a male classmate who almost molested her, and the second job was bought with a man who had met her once, so it was easy to quit, or because there was a second job on my resume.
During this period, many of her achievements were also made by men. Men's struggle is pure struggle. Is there a man behind a woman's struggle?
Chen Ke's so-called struggle is not only to accompany the wine, but also to get drunk with customers. I can hardly see her outstanding work ability. Her dedication only means "I am so busy, really busy".
I can't see the breath of hot-blooded young people looking for their dreams, which is the plus version of the movie "If You Are the One". A person who doesn't know what he wants from beginning to end is a shallow attempt. Others follow the postgraduate entrance examination, others take the civil service examination, and it doesn't matter if they fail. They continue to follow others to explore the possibility of life in first-tier cities. This half-hearted life has nothing to do with the size of the city, but at most it is just a stranger.
Peace and joy, don't forget peace of mind.