As Ji Bolun said, a great man has two hearts, one bleeding and the other forgiving. Whether it's anger or hatred, whether it's selfishness or evil thoughts, these cancers of the mind should be eliminated with tolerance, and what the earth can't bear can only be accommodated by the mind!
As Han Ying said, if people are good to me, I will be good to them. If people treat me badly, I will treat them well. Qi Huangong didn't care about Guan Zhong's revenge, so he became his overlord: Emperor Taizong didn't care about the past and valued Wei Zhi, so he could achieve "the rule of Zhenguan"; Teacher Lou put aside his grievances and elected De as the prime minister, which made Datang flourish again. Tolerance is a kind of tolerance and a virtue. It is not as luxurious as jewelry, but as noble as the sky. Only by tolerating other people's faults with a broad mind, eliminating grievances and restraining one's jealousy of talents can we get the support of all. If talent is compared to the left wing, then the mind is the right wing, which will help you ride the wind and fly easily.
We may not be able to let go of the deep hatred easily, but there are not so many deep hatred in life waiting for us to resolve. More often, all we need is a smile and tolerance from Premier Zhou in the face of the barber's unintentional mistakes. I remember a story: Su Dongpo once played with a monk in Hui Chong. Su Dongpo said, "I think you look like cow dung." Hui Chong said, "I think you look like a Tathagata." Su Dongpo doesn't understand, how can this monk return good for evil? Su Xiaomei said: "You have cow dung in your heart, and people are like cow dung;" The heart is like a Buddha, and people are like a Buddha. " Although this is just a joke between friends, we can still see how broad-minded monk Hui Chong is. If he is narrow-minded, how can he be so kind and tolerant of returning good for evil?
There is a saying that life is like a play. It is not easy to meet and get together. Why bother to think about a little thing? Anger is just punishing yourself with other people's mistakes. In the face of other people's different views or mistakes, it is better to smile indifferently than to haggle over every ounce and argue endlessly; In the face of other people's tit-for-tat, why not temporarily avoid sharp edges, so as not to intensify contradictions. In the crisis-ridden political arena, Lincoln faced his political enemies with a tolerant attitude and destroyed them by making friends. In ancient times when the ethical code was strict, Chu Zhuangwang could still forgive those who died in the temple. Why can't you brush away the shadows in your life with a tolerant heart?
Of course, tolerance is not a unique virtue of sages, nor is it born so broad-minded. Just like everyone's heart, it takes exercise to become strong. The more things the mind carries, the broader the mind, and the more tolerant people naturally are.
If the world changes, even if the sky is angry, even if the earth cracks, even if the ocean rolls, please don't forget that we still have a broad mind!