The so-called communication means that both parties can connect. It is not easy to use words that are easy to understand and achieve meaning. In modern social activities, especially in the reform and opening up and the construction of market economy, people need to communicate with each other, people with things, and people with nature. Communication is an important way to build a bridge of friendship and lead to the other side. It covers all aspects of society. Even when you are alone, you can communicate with yourself and the environment. In modern society, the word "communication" is especially cherished and affordable. What I want to say is interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication is very important, it is the foundation of all career success. Communication ability has two related parts: one is external skills; The second is internal motivation. Get along well with colleagues, friends, relatives or family members, get along well with leaders, businesses and markets, have a good relationship and work smoothly. I think this person has external skills and internal motivation. People with average performance will call various technical experts for help when they encounter technical problems, and then wait for their reply, but they often can't wait, wasting their time. People with outstanding achievements rarely encounter various situations, because they have established a reliable network of contacts at ordinary times, and they will respond soon when they want to find someone. In interpersonal communication, people who are good at grasping other people's emotions naturally occupy a dominant position, and the emotional state of the other party will be at their mercy. In fact, interpersonal skills are based on other abilities. For example, people with good social skills must be good at controlling their emotional expression and accurately grasping each other's emotions, so as to adjust their performance at any time and achieve the expected results. Bad personality, rude attitude, condescending, domineering, out of context, stealing the beam and replacing the column, arrogant, disrespectful, divorced from reality and environment, can you communicate well? I don't think so. If you want to communicate well, you must give the impression that you are a person with a good personality, knowledgeable, polite, disciplined and good at judging the strength of good and evil. One of the new communication concepts is not to think that you are always right. The second is to have a correct attitude. Be equal to others in mental state, don't overestimate yourself and don't blindly raise others. As long as you communicate with others, you must believe in his sincerity and ability, and believe that his ability and level are not lower than yours. Even if there is a beggar sitting in front of you, you should understand that he is something you don't have. The third is the correct behavior. When communicating, we should listen to others' opinions carefully, which is the most essential principle that every communication skill book must advocate. Knowing others by listening is equivalent to laying a good foundation for others to listen to you. In the act of listening to each other, you will find that while seeking common ground while reserving differences, different ideas often unconsciously merge with each other and become the same point. Correct attitude and behavior can easily solve selfish problems and make communication easier. Knowing this truth, we will have proper limit in our communication, be considerate of others and get along more harmoniously. You will no longer be arbitrary because of selfishness, but discuss with others, and each has a sense of participation. Different views can be carefully scrutinized, and finally both sides can accept the same point and reach a consensus. In social reality, some people always think that endless words are communication, and that they can persuade cats to lick peppers with their tongues, which is really ridiculous. They think that communication is talking, but forget that the meaning of communication is their relationship. Communication between people is not words, speaking is just a way. When they are in harmony with each other, they can communicate with each other almost without talking. A gesture and a look can convey the complete meaning. It doesn't matter if you are wrong. Smile at each other and still understand the meaning. People are really strange sometimes. Obviously, the bull's head is not right, but the other person can understand what you really mean. Why? Empathy, of course. On the contrary, when the relationship between them is not good, a thousand words mean nothing, and obstacles are still obstacles. Communication is to establish a relationship with each other, and it is very important to attach importance to the relationship. When the two sides are in emotional conflict, they must carefully consider the words in their own language to avoid embarrassment and humiliation, and at the same time avoid misunderstanding. Communication is the pursuit of mutual recognition, giving up your own insistence, understanding problems from others, patiently making you listen carefully, accepting others' wishes, and others are willing to accept you. How to communicate, how to communicate well, I think the following points are worth thinking about: 1. No matter how bad the communication conditions are, we should control ourselves and not hurt others emotionally. 2. Communicate with others patiently. 3. focus on things. 4. Help quietly. Providing help without asking others in return is a manifestation of personality and tolerance, which gives others a sense of trust. 5. Active communication. 6. Keep your promise. Being able to promise and keep your promise is an excellent performance of your confidence and sincerity. Keep your promise, and others will be influenced by you. 7. Have confidence in yourself. Let your personality spread to others on things you can control. 8. Be caring. Care for others with love. People who lack love, even the touch of gold can't achieve the purpose of communication. 9. Understand people first, and then let people understand. 10, don't judge at will. 1 1, let others argue the truth. 12, able to carry out criticism and self-criticism, dare to admit mistakes and seize opportunities to correct others' mistakes. 13, respect others' status quo and never give up their individuality. 14. Invite others to participate in meaningful things. 15. Use emotion and reason to guide the lost sheep. There are many things in life, either emotionally or intellectually. When communicating, the two should be separated and treated reasonably. For important decisions, don't rely on impulse, but rationally consider our possible scenarios and help others find comprehensive solutions. People who look around at the crossroads are generally people in urgent need of help. Please give me some advice. Therefore, accurately grasping communication skills is of great significance to a team, a unit and a society, which can promote team harmony, economic development, people's prosperity, people's health, career prosperity, team unity and enhanced combat effectiveness. Whoever has mastered communication skills can seize the opportunity and win the greatest benefits brought by communication.