In the real society, everyone is unique, and everyone has their own reasons for existence. We can't ignore it at all Life is precious to everyone, which is the premise of empathy. Empathy is a psychological experience process between people. Empathy is an indispensable psychological mechanism for understanding. Objectively, we are required to connect our inner world, such as emotional experience and way of thinking, with each other and experience and think from each other's standpoint, so as to communicate with each other emotionally and lay the foundation for enhancing understanding. It is both an understanding and a concern.
I remember hearing a story: a shepherd kept a pig, a sheep and a cow in the same corral. One day, the shepherd took the pig out of the corral, only to hear the pig barking loudly and resisting strongly. Sheep and cows hate its bark, so they complain, "We are often caught by shepherds, and we don't bark like you." The pig replied, "catching you is completely different from catching me." He only wants your hair and milk, but it's killing him to catch me! " "Visible, different positions, different environment, it is difficult to understand each other's feelings. Therefore, how important it is to put yourself in the other's shoes and understand and care about each other with a tolerant heart!
Interpersonal communication is a psychological two-way interaction process. One person's behavior is both the cause (stimulus) and the result (reaction) of other people's behavior. Therefore, people can understand and trust each other, and empathy can cause positive similar reactions of the communication objects, and can establish more and more intimate and harmonious interpersonal relationships with the increase of communication frequency and depth. So, how can we achieve empathy?
We should start with the daily trifles. For example, do good things for classmates and the community, and consider problems from the perspective of others. Try our best to make ourselves a warm-hearted person. Everyone has his bright spot, and sometimes other people's views are unique. When you help them, you can also gain knowledge and learn from each other.
Be sincere to others. It is a normal need for people to hope for the care and attention of others. When a person feels that people around him care about him, his heart will feel warm and safe. Since a person is cared for by others, he will also care for others. In this way, there will be a close and friendly relationship between them. We should care about the people around us enthusiastically. When others want something from themselves, as long as it is legitimate, they should try their best to meet each other's requirements. Help others without asking for anything in return. If a person is not sincere, even if he is proficient in many communication skills, he will not be popular. Sincerity is a kind of cultivation. "Ma Quan is far-sighted, and people have seen it for a long time."
Respect the values of others. People are complex, everyone's value orientation will be different, and there is no need to be the same. Respecting each other's values is an important aspect of making friends. Learn to understand others, and be sure to remind yourself not to be a disgusting person in interpersonal communication.
Try to understand each other's pain. When you disagree, you should try to explain your thoughts to him calmly, so as to enhance mutual understanding, which is a harmonious relationship between us. Remember not to be rude or contradict, which will hurt the self-esteem of friends around you. Always consider the interests of others. When you make mistakes, you should take the initiative to admit your mistakes and apologize, and be tolerant of your classmates' shortcomings. Usually take part in more group activities and socialize with classmates. Turn war into friendship.
Bai Juyi has a poem that says, "Life is full of affection, and you should think about it when you encounter something." This means that people's respect, love, sadness and anger are all caused by things, not inherent in their hearts. In this sense, interpersonal communication is a psychological communication process and harmonious feelings can promote communication. If we want to make the relationship between the two sides harmonious, we should learn to put ourselves in the other's shoes in interpersonal communication and keep a peaceful mind. Only in this way can we take into account the feelings of both sides, give ourselves a correct position and exercise rational restraint in interpersonal communication.