If you think this is evidence of intimate relationship between husband and wife, you are all wet. The ancients were really smart. Idioms like "follow Qi Mei's example" and "treat each other like guests" are clever ways to tell future generations that husband and wife should never be intimate, and say what they should say and not say what they shouldn't.
You should be familiar with Qi Mei's story, but for those unfamiliar readers and friends, as well as my following explanation, I think it is necessary to repeat it:
Hongliang, a scholar in the Eastern Han Dynasty, returned to his hometown. Many women wanted to marry him, but he refused. There is a woman named Meng Guang. She is short and fat, but she has a good moral character. After rejecting many people's door-to-door marriage proposals, she married Hongliang in her thirties. After marriage, the two made a living by farming and weaving, and their lives were happy and harmonious.
Later, because Hong Liang offended Zhang Han in a poem, the couple had to live in Wuzhong. Every day when Hongliang comes back from helping people finish their work, Meng Guang always lowers his head and serves her husband with the prepared food on the tray.
The idiom "case" is a tray. We are used to using this idiom to describe mutual respect between husband and wife.
Besides quoting Qi Mei, there is another idiom to describe the good relationship between husband and wife: feel at home. This idiom comes from Zuo Zhuan's Thirty-three Years as an Official. The original text is as follows: When you visit Ji, you will see that Ji is short of money, and your wife will marry you, respect you and treat you like a guest.
When the husband comes home from work, he lifts the prepared food to the height of his eyebrows with a tray and waits for him to eat. Husband and wife get along well and love each other like guests. Can this explain the relationship between husband and wife? Why can it spread for thousands of years and become the standard vocabulary of husband and wife harmony?
In these short idioms, there is actually a mystery that couples get along with: they can't be intimate. If you become a transparent glass in front of your lover, that's not a good thing.
First of all, it is impossible for husband and wife to be "intimate", and many things before they know each other can never be said after marriage.
Cousin Xiaowen suffered a big loss in this matter.
Xiaowen is quiet and beautiful. After she married her college classmate Gangzi, she settled in the provincial capital, which made her relatives and friends envious. But soon, the young couple who were originally in love began to divorce. Xiaowen went back to her family in tears, but didn't say why she divorced. My younger brother, Xiaohu, studied in the martial arts school for several years and was strong. He wanted to take his sister back to the provincial capital to settle accounts with his brother-in-law. The whole family thinks that it must be just that our son got promoted and became Chen Shimei. Such a bad person can't stand it. Xiaowen saw that his brother really wanted to find his ex-husband. I'm afraid something will happen, so I have to tell the truth.
It turned out that Xiaowen and Gangzi were carried away by happiness after they got married. On a moonlit night, they told a mistake they made before meeting their son: at a high school reunion, they met their first love, drank a few more drinks and made a mistake they shouldn't have made.