Schopenhauer, a famous German philosopher, said: "The disadvantages of social life are deeply hidden: recreation, small talk and other fun of interacting with people hide huge and usually irreparable harm." The first lesson for young people is to be able to stand loneliness. "Because loneliness is the source of happiness and happiness. (central argument)

There are countless people who claim to be happy in the world, but not many people think they are lonely. "Happy" people are often cheerful, talkative and sociable; Loneliness seems destined to be just a term accompanied by gloomy, unfortunate and even abnormal attitude towards life. In fact, the real loneliness is the awakening of Lu Xun's "sending a message to the cold star", Bruno's belief that "later people will understand me ……" before he was burned to death, and his inability to choose the lofty born Su Shi. (explain the argument)

Loneliness means being broad-minded and indifferent beyond ordinary people, which is the premise of happiness. (Sub-argument 1 "What is it")

Loneliness is an attitude towards life that comes out of endless boring social intercourse, gossip and mediocrity. It removes the superficial glitz and pursues the inner magnanimity and indifference. (Comment) When Zhuangzi refused to be Chu Xiang while fishing without looking back, what we experienced was loneliness. The extremes meet, and all the celebrities in the world like it, except Zhuangzi (for example). This kind of loneliness is actually an open-minded and indifferent beyond ordinary people. However, Zhuangzi is happy. His silent refusal brought loneliness in his official career, but in exchange for a high standard in the eyes of countless literati. (discussion)

Loneliness gives us time and space for introspection, which is the condition for enjoying happiness. (Sub-argument 2 "Why")

With the abundance of material and the impetuousness of people, more and more people are eager for quick success and instant benefit, the relationship between people is becoming more and more snobbish, and happiness is getting farther and farther away from us. (Discussion) Confucius said: "A gentleman is knowledgeable and saves himself from Japanese ginseng, knowing what he knows and not doing wrong." All the wise sayings in The Analects of Confucius are self-portraits of Ni who is lonely and troubled. When you are lonely, people have time and space to think about life and pursue their own survival value. Only by staying away from the hustle and bustle, seeing your heart clearly, keeping calm and clear about your direction of progress, is the condition for enjoying happiness. (discussion)

Loneliness requires us to keep a proper distance from reality, which is the way to enjoy happiness. (Sub-argument 3 "How")

Keep a proper distance from reality and open up a lonely little world of your own. Do a lot of things you want to do, expand your once limited imagination and creativity, and stop being disturbed by mediocre things. (Discussion) Dai Wangshu, a representative poet of modernism, wrote the loneliness of "sitting at night listening to the wind and sleeping at night listening to the rain" in his collection of poems "The Years of Disaster". This kind of loneliness is a happy state, which makes him realize that "the months are short and the days are old". Away from reality, your situation is lonely, but your heart is quiet and full. Your heart no longer cries because of loneliness, but reflects happiness because of loneliness. (discussion)

Facing the reality, today's younger generation, as an only child, undoubtedly often has a lonely psychology. They named themselves "Fenqing". Some young people enjoy playing online games, fighting and making trouble, and are even more proud of taking drugs and killing people. It is undoubtedly a great sorrow that they lose their sense of happiness because of loneliness, and then their mentality is unbalanced and they have nowhere to vent. (Connecting with practice)

So face up to loneliness and enjoy happiness! This kind of loneliness is not passive seclusion and self-enclosure, but the loneliness of "everyone is drunk and I wake up alone", a kind of broad-minded loneliness and great loneliness. (Dialectical thinking) Facing loneliness is not only a philosophical speculation, but also a feeling of life and a pursuit of true happiness. (conclusion)