.. secondary vocational and technical school.

? Shy roses bloom quietly? The age of students in secondary vocational schools is the age of seeds of love. Children of this age are generally mature physically, in psychological weaning period, and begin to take an interest in the opposite sex. Puppy love is nothing new in vocational high schools. What are the benefits of this phenomenon that happens from time to time in our campus? Teachers and parents object. Why are students extremely interested in it and relish it? In view of this phenomenon, we conducted a survey of vocational high school students.

1. investigation time: February 10, 201~ April 20th.

Second, the investigators: ...

Team leader: ...

Questionnaires and interviews: ....

Data collation and analysis: ....

Third, the instructor: .....

Four. Survey object: Vocational high school students.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) Purpose of investigation:

Based on the accurate understanding and statistics of the data of vocational high school students' puppy love, this paper objectively and concretely summarizes some methods for the reference of vocational high school students and parents, so that parents and children can treat the phenomenon of puppy love of vocational high school students with a correct attitude. We also want to take this activity to improve our social practice ability and analytical judgment ability.

Six, survey methods:

Online inquiry; Visit; Questionnaire survey, etc.

Seven, the investigation process:

20 1 February1day, we received the task assigned by the teacher, and we started to take action, including making plans, conducting questionnaires and determining interviewers. From February 5 to February 28, relevant information was obtained through the Internet. March 8-March 15 questionnaire survey, March 20-30 interview survey, April 5 to start sorting out materials, writing survey report, April 20 to complete.

Puppy love questionnaire for middle school students

1. What do you think of puppy love?

It doesn't matter if A is positive, B is negative and C is negative.

2. Do you have puppy love around you?

Lots, lots of b, lots of c.

D is rare, e is not clear.

3. Do you have puppy love?

Answer yes.

B I used to like it, but I'm not going to.

C never, but I have this intention.

D it doesn't matter, let it be.

E resolutely don't.

How do you feel if your classmates or friends fall in love early?

A agrees and strongly supports B. Turning a blind eye will not affect yourself.

C thinks they don't love themselves. D has no feelings.

5. Have you planned the future for your love?

A did it and made a detailed plan. B thought about it. C never thought about it.

Tip: fill in the form of puppy love behavior.

6. Do you think the current love will last?

It's hard to say whether A will be B or C.

7. Do you think falling in love is: [multiple choice questions]

A yearning for and pursuit of sacred love

Out of curiosity about the opposite sex

C looking for spiritual sustenance to motivate yourself.

D In comparative psychology, others can't fall behind me.

Sexual desire

F others

8. Do you think puppy love will promote the sexual behavior of minors?

A will have a great influence, B a little, C won't.

9. What do you think parents and schools should think about puppy love?

A, support B, resolutely oppose

C, correct guidance, make clear the harm of puppy love.

D, let nature take its course

10. Do you think the obstruction of parents, teachers and other elders can inhibit puppy love?

A is B, it's impossible, and C can't solve the problem fundamentally.

D can have some effect. E it's none of my business that I don't fall in love early.

Eight. Analysis of survey results

Puppy love questionnaire for middle school students

1. What do you think of puppy love?

A positive (38 people) B negative (18 people) C indifferent (64 people)

2. Do you have puppy love around you?

A (58 people) B (22 people) C (34 people)

D Very few (4 people) E unclear 16 people)

3. Do you have puppy love?

The answer is (40 people)

B I used to be, but I'm not going to (14 people) now.

C never, but I have this intention (18 people).

D Never mind, let nature take its course (38 people)

E resolutely don't (4 people)

How do you feel if your classmates or friends fall in love early?

A agrees and strongly supports (8 people)

B turning a blind eye will not affect yourself (24 people)

C thinks they don't love themselves (10 people)

D No feeling (72 people)

5. Have you planned the future for your love?

Yes, and made a detailed plan (10 people).

B yes (42 people)

C never thought about it (34 people)

Tip: fill in the form of puppy love behavior.

7. Do you think the current love will last?

A will (6 people) B will not (40 people) C is hard to say (68 people).

8. Do you think that falling in love is: [multiple choice questions]

A yearning and pursuit of sacred love (60)

B out of curiosity about the opposite sex (40)

Looking for spiritual sustenance to motivate yourself (22)

D because of the comparison psychology, others can't fall behind with me (2)

E requirements of sexual desire (2)

F. Others (26)

9. Do you think puppy love will promote the sexual behavior of minors?

A will have a great influence (56 people), B a little (38 people), and C won't (18 people).

9. What do you think parents and schools should think about puppy love?

A, support (2 people) B, resolutely oppose (23 people)

C, correct guidance, clear about the harm of puppy love (74 people)

D, let nature take its course (25 people)

10. Do you think the obstruction of parents, teachers and other elders can inhibit puppy love?

The answer is (4 people)

B Not at all ((10 people)

C can't solve the problem fundamentally (72 people)

D can have a certain effect (18 people)

E puppy love has nothing to do with me (8 people)

This questionnaire survey * * * sent out 120 questionnaires and recovered 1 14 questionnaires. Judging from the survey results, puppy love is a common phenomenon among vocational high school students. 39.56% are in love or have been in love, nearly half of the students have the tendency of puppy love, only 3.5 1% are not eager for puppy love, and 50.9% think that most students around them are in love, which shows that the proportion of puppy love among secondary vocational school students is very high. For the phenomenon of puppy love among classmates around us, 63.2% people think it is normal, and some support it, which shows that everyone basically recognizes puppy love; Students think that there are many reasons for puppy love, and the yearning and pursuit of sacred love accounts for the largest proportion, which shows that students attach great importance to this pure feeling; Most students think that puppy love will encourage sexual behavior of minors; As for the phenomenon of puppy love among students, students all think that parents and teachers should adopt correct methods to guide students. Most students think that we should teach well, not take coercive measures, otherwise it will be counterproductive. It can be seen that what students want is the understanding and enlightenment of parents.

Step 2 interview the teacher

Question 1: Is there puppy love in your class?

Answer: Yes. From senior one to senior two, there are more and more people who are in puppy love, and some of them turn from darkness to light. Sometimes, pairs of students who are in puppy love will be seen on campus, parks and streets.

Question 2: What do you think of puppy love among students?

Teacher's opinion 1:

Students can't fall in love. The influence of puppy love on learning is inevitable and enormous. I will stop students from falling in love and let them concentrate on learning cultural knowledge and professional skills.

Teacher's point of view 2:

Boys and girls at this time, there must be affection. This is a normal phenomenon. I won't interfere too much with students' puppy love, and students can grasp it themselves. Just grasp the scale and be careful not to affect their study.

Step 3 interview parents

Question 1: Is your child in puppy love?

A: I don't know (mostly)

Question 2: What happens if you know that your child is puppy love?

Parent view 1:

Resolutely oppose it! How can students do this these days! It's so early to say that men and women don't even know one thing when they fall in love, which harms others and harms themselves. If you really do something out of line, no one can afford it! If my children are like this, I will kill them!

Parental view 2:

I don't agree, but I am helpless! Children should not fall in love at this time, but should focus on their studies. We'll talk about falling in love later, but puppy love is very fanatical. If the child falls in love early, I have to persuade him or her not to fall in love so early, otherwise it will affect his or her future. Dare not severely deny and criticize. Nowadays, children are very rebellious! The harsher you criticize, the more he (she) opposes you! Therefore, I can't say more. If the child insists on puppy love, I am also helpless!

Parental point of view 3:

It doesn't matter now, children's sexual consciousness has been formed long ago, and love is very likely to happen. In fact, children will grow up in the process of love. I just need to guide them to prevent them from going astray.

Parental point of view 4:

Yes Children have the consciousness of falling in love, which shows that they mature early and are close to adults. This is comforting. Sometimes I do? Make fun of? Child:? Do you have money to love? Ask me for it if you have no money?

Judging from the interview results, teachers have noticed the common phenomenon of puppy love among secondary vocational school students, but they hold different views and methods in dealing with the problem of puppy love among students. Parents and children lack communication, are not clear about children's inner thoughts, and it is unscientific to deal with puppy love.

X. Our suggestions:

Puppy love is a sensitive issue in today's society and can not be ignored. Faced with more and more puppy love, parents, teachers and classmates seem to be at a loss. In view of this, we give some suggestions to parents, teachers and classmates according to the results of questionnaires and interviews.

(a) said to parents

Parents are the first factor that affects the healthy growth of children. Parents should guide their children to correctly understand the changes in feelings, tell them what responsibility is, and then learn to grasp and sublimate feelings to create a tolerant and harmonious atmosphere for their children's growth. Communicate with children more, respect their personality and give them positive guidance. This may be more instructive than simply beating, cursing and banning. Moreover, parents should know how to help their children turn their attention to their studies in a unique way, do well in their studies, and tell their children that they can do more things they like when they are upset, or talk to their intimate friends, but don't think wrong. We should also help them to set ambitious and practical short-term goals and devote their time and energy to the pursuit of the goals. Encourage them to participate in more group activities and enrich themselves in the activities. Make more friends, be considerate of others and read more excellent literary and artistic works.

Parents should treat the puppy love of middle school students with patience, tolerance, reasonable guidance and scientific youth education in combination with the characteristics of their psychological development. Many middle school students only see the side of the opposite sex that excites them, but they often don't see the side that is also buried? Beautiful trap? Therefore, it is also important to guide them to learn to look at their emotions in two ways. We must also face up to the fact that sexual maturity and sexual instinct impulse have an impact on teenagers' psychology and behavior. As long as we can clearly understand the nature of puppy love and try our best to focus on learning and healthy social activities, teenagers are fully capable of avoiding puppy love.

First, let children get into the habit of telling their parents when something happens. This can make children feel that you can understand them, stand in their position and analyze the situation with their views and ideas. Parents must adopt democratic education methods, so that you can know what they really think. This is very important for cultivating children's cheerful personality and creativity.

Second, parents should acknowledge their children's physical and psychological state in adolescence and give them necessary guidance. When you have a harmonious relationship with your child, it will be easier to communicate with each other, and the child will tell you his own thoughts. What about the changes in adolescence? Tear down the peep show? Letting children know that their privacy is such a thing will reduce the interference of intentional or unintentional avoidance on normal education.

Third, teach children how to identify others, especially the opposite sex. People say that first love is beautiful, and it is a game for boys and girls. In the eyes of children, the object of first love is an overly perfect person in the eyes of the other party, because the special feelings for the opposite sex blind the truth. Therefore, teaching children how to get rid of subtle emotions to identify the opposite sex and encouraging them to make more friends with the opposite sex will help them identify the opposite sex and grasp themselves.

Fourth, understand society and marriage. Because of the sensationalism of romance novels and movies, children often lack understanding of the real society and marriage. For example, they can take children with puppy love tendency to observe the families of relatives and friends, go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce procedures, understand what a real marriage is like, and then discuss it together. Perhaps most children will come out of their beautiful dreams.

For teachers,

As teachers, students who are good at finding signs and preventing puppy love generally show some differences: they are distracted in class and often distracted; Late for no reason, absent from school; Dining and bedtime are not synchronized with other students; I always seem to have done something wrong and my eyes wander; Received more short messages; Significant decline in academic performance and so on. Teachers should have a deep understanding of students. Once they are found to have signs of puppy love, we should attach great importance to them, talk to them more, be cordial and sincere, and respect their personality. The conversation should be targeted, avoid rude attitude and simple method. Especially not in a big way, in a big way.

Puppy love is a normal phenomenon for secondary vocational school students of this age. Don't make a fuss, invite your parents over at every turn, and don't treat these students as an alternative in the class, treat them differently and isolate them. Don't expose it in public, it will hurt their self-esteem and arouse students' disgust. Rebellious psychology will be deeply imprinted in their hearts, but it will be counterproductive. In fact, they need more care and guidance. After the teacher found the problem, students all wanted to communicate with the teacher alone. Teachers should respect students' personality and their pure feelings. The head teacher should treat boys and girls differently when doing his work. Generally speaking, girls' psychology is more complex and sensitive, and they need careful guidance. Boys, on the other hand, need teachers to open their hearts like friends, treat each other sincerely and meet their own hearts. In addition, teachers can use lectures, consultations and other forms to educate students in adolescence from a psychological point of view and help them understand the doubts of youth with scientific knowledge. Organizing students to participate in colorful campus cultural life can also play a positive role in dispersing their single emotional orientation.

(3) tell the students.

From the day boys and girls enter puberty, they are born with a hazy vision. Maybe there will be vigorous love at that time, maybe there is only pure attraction of the opposite sex at that time, maybe he will leave yearning memories in the hymn of life, and maybe he will only leave regrets. But in any case, only by treating this special impulse with a scientific and rational attitude can we have a smooth sailing in the ocean of flower season and draw a beautiful end to our youth. To this end, we should pay attention to the following points:

1, we should clearly understand the harm of puppy love and overcome this immature feeling with reason. The most direct harm of puppy love is that it seriously interferes with learning. Because you think about the opposite sex you like all day and all night, it will make you have no mind to study and it is difficult to concentrate in class. Because you don't listen carefully, your academic performance will get worse and worse. Some people say that the attraction of career, the drive of love and the reaction of discrimination and oppression are the three major driving forces of life. Therefore, puppy love can be produced if it is handled well. Together? . Relevant statistics show that most of those who had intimate relationships in middle school were neglected in their studies, failed in love and even had some reasons? Deep love? Become? Hate it? . On the contrary, most teenagers who bury their love in their hearts and concentrate on their studies not only have a successful career, but also get the favor of heaven. Therefore, teenagers should take a long-term view and overcome their feelings with reason. The true meaning of persistence is to conquer yourself. If you can beat yourself, you will get rid of puppy love.

2, to correctly understand the difference between puppy love and normal communication, to prevent the evolution from normal communication to puppy love. In adolescence, both boys and girls have the desire and impulse to associate with the opposite sex. As long as one aspect of the opposite sex is attractive, they will find various reasons to associate with it. Russell said: Adolescence is an open-minded period, and we should use this period to develop our open-minded character. ? It is undeniable that communication is a psychological and developmental need of human beings and cannot be stopped blindly. Communication with the opposite sex will also be beneficial to the development of study and personality. We shouldn't give up eating because of choking.

Although healthy sexual intercourse has many benefits for our growth, we should grasp the scale of sexual intercourse and take precautions. Pass? With what? Less than? . Too close communication can easily lead to puppy love. If you often miss each other in your study and life, and miss each other's smiles and every move, it must be that you are in love. Puppy love among middle school students not only affects their study, but also may be detrimental to their psychological healthy development. There are many tragic cases of emotional disputes among middle school students, which we should take as a warning.

3. To set up lofty ideals and have clear goals. Avoid emotional distraction and waste the good time of reading and studying. Under the guidance of lofty ideals and clear goals, we will spend more time studying and avoid falling into the trap of puppy love.

4. Treat emotional problems calmly. Rebellion and curiosity are the inevitable mentality of teenagers in the process of growing up, but they should learn to control their thoughts and feelings rationally. Learn to think twice before you do anything, and don't act rashly. Puppy love may be full of temptation and expectation for teenagers. However, if we can think calmly and understand that we should focus on our studies now, I believe we can resist all kinds of temptations and not fall in love early. According to the survey, many young people who fall in love with each other are derailed because they can't get over that hurdle. It can be seen how important it is for teenagers to look at problems with a calm mind.

5. Expand the scope of making friends, find happiness in friendship, and don't focus on one opposite sex, because in this way, the advantages of other opposite sexes will turn a blind eye. Learn more about the opposite sex and learn more from them. Let your judgment be improved, and you will be more discriminating, more responsible for others and more responsible for yourself when you choose the right person in the future.

6. Try to get rid of puppy love. When the two sides have feelings, you can take the following measures:

1. transfer method: transfer energy to study and replace immature feelings with the fun of exploring knowledge.

2, cold treatment: gradually alienate each other's relationship to cool the hot relationship.

(3) Shelving method: stop the relationship, so that the hearts of both sides are not open to each other, while maintaining a pure and precious friendship.

In short, the problem of puppy love is not terrible. As long as we treat it calmly, objectively and scientifically, we can solve it well and spend this wonderful youth time smoothly.