China is a country with traditional etiquette. The idea of "respecting the old and loving the young" has been instilled in our minds since childhood. Today, however, for those of us who live in a new era and society, "respecting the old and loving the young" has already gone beyond the scope of "respecting the old and loving the young". In addition to respecting the elderly, we should also respect everyone around us: whether they are old or young, rich or poor, good or bad for ourselves ... we should respect them equally, because when we respect them, they will repay us with the same respect. I know the allusion that "a drop of charity brings a gush of water", and I am willing to use this allusion to "respect others", because I think people are emotional animals, and they will definitely think of giving when they are rewarded.
Respect for others in life is dribs and drabs, all the time. Perhaps, respect is just an encouraging look for a friend who is struggling in trouble; Perhaps, respect is just a glass of light water handed to travelers trudging in the desert; Perhaps, respect is just a kind greeting to lonely wanderers in a foreign land; Perhaps, respect is just a shy smile when receiving the test paper sent to you by the teacher ... respect is actually very simple and often happens in our casual actions. However, it comes from your love for others, society and the world. Because of love, the world is vast; Because of love, people's hearts are broad. Every hand, every gesture, every look, every smile ... is full of seeds of respect.
Respecting others is also being kind to yourself. We often inadvertently hurt others, but also hurt ourselves, because others will also say a "casual" word. We will also make a trivial move. If we lose the performance of respecting others, there is no reason for others to respect us.
Love, tolerance and understanding constitute a vast ocean, which is called "respect". People live in such a vast ocean, enjoying the pleasure of body and mind, and creating one myth after another. People can live here, without mental disorders and communication barriers, and everyone respects each other. Because it is full of love, tolerance and understanding. ...
I once heard a story: a businessman suddenly felt pity when he saw a pencil salesman in rags. Without thinking, he stuffed 10 yuan into the pencil seller's hand and walked away without hesitation. After a few steps, he suddenly felt that it was inappropriate to do so, so he quickly came back to apologize and said that he forgot to take the pen. Finally, I hope you don't mind. They are all businessmen. "A year later, in a warm and grand social occasion, a salesman in a suit and tie met the businessman and introduced himself gratefully:" You may have forgotten me long ago, and I don't know your name, but I will never forget you. You made me regain my self-esteem and self-confidence. I always felt like a beggar selling pencils until you told me yourself.
I didn't expect such a simple sentence to make a person with inferiority suddenly build up self-esteem and make a person in trouble regain self-confidence. It is with this self-esteem and self-confidence that he saw his own value and advantages and finally succeeded through hard work. It is not difficult to imagine that without this respect and encouragement, even giving him several thousand yuan would not help, and there would never be a huge change from beggar's self-awareness to self-confidence.
Respect is a kind of cultivation, a kind of character, an equal treatment of others, and a full affirmation of others' personality and value. No one can be perfect. We have no reason to judge others blindly, and we are not qualified to laugh at others with a careless expression. If others are inferior to ourselves in some ways, we can't hurt others' self-esteem with arrogance and disrespect. If we are inferior to others in some places, we don't have to replace our due respect with inferiority or jealousy. A person who truly knows how to respect others is bound to face the strong and weak in all undertakings, all the luck and misfortune in life with an equal attitude, a normal attitude and a calm attitude.
Respect is a spring breeze, a clear spring, a warm sleeping pill and an inspiring tonic. It often complements sincerity, humility, tolerance, appreciation, kindness and friendliness, and is incompatible with hypocrisy, arrogance, harshness, ridicule, malice and snobbery. Giving respect to successful people is admiration, praise and pursuit of others' success. Giving respect to those who fail is sympathy, comfort and encouragement to others after their failure. As long as there is respect, there is true feelings in the world, and there is hope in the future. After success, there will be continuous progress, and after failure, there will be a comeback.
Respect is not blind worship, nor disgusting flattery; It is not unprincipled humility, nor is it condescending without self-esteem. Knowing the importance of respecting others does not mean learning how to respect others. In this sense, respect is also a science. If you learn to respect others, you will learn to respect yourself, and you will learn and master a major meaning of life.
Let's savor and explore slowly on the road of life.
Only when people respect each other can they get along well.
Respect is affirmation to others, friendship and tolerance to each other. It is a lubricant of friendship, a harmonious regulator, and fresh air that we can't live without for a moment. "How dare you propose a toast, Chairman?" "Respect for the elderly, you should!" * * * and national leaders are open-minded about their teachers, which is respect; Facing Ms. Xu Guangping, Premier People's Republic of China (PRC) called her "Aunt" generously, affable and respectful.
Respect others, we win friendship; Respect others, we gain sincerity; Respect others, and we ourselves are respected; Mutual respect will make our society more harmonious.
Respect can not only make people feel happy and breathe smoothly, but also change strange or sharp relationships, just like Lian Po and Lin Xiangru.
Lian Po is dissatisfied with Lin Xiangru, making things difficult everywhere. However, Lin Xiangru had the overall situation in mind, respected Lian Po, and finally won the heart of Lian Po. They became friends and * * * helped the prince of Zhao, making Qiang Qin have nothing to do with Zhao. The mutual respect between Lin Xiangru and Lian Po has made this story of peace worshipped by countless descendants for thousands of years.
There is a saying that "give me a peach and return it to Qiong Yao", which means that when someone gives me a peach, I will return it with Qiong Yao. Respect is even more so.
Whitman said: "disrespect for others means disrespect for yourself", and "without self-esteem, there is no moral purity and rich human spirit. Homlinski also said that respecting others means respecting yourself. What is the difference between people? Only by respecting others can people admire them. Should we admire them and enhance our own connotation at the same time?
Martin? Luther King was worshipped because he respected all races equally. In their minds, everyone is the same. I wonder if we should treat everyone with equal heart in our daily life. Beggars have their own difficulties, and even if they can't help, they shouldn't condescend? Cleaners are people who care about money and beautify our city with their own labor. Don't pollute our environment even if we don't have time to help them? They are all like us. Respecting them means respecting ourselves.
In that case, how can we respect others and be respected by others?
Respect needs to put down airs, show sincerity, give up small profits and grasp discretion. Confucius asked Lao Dan for gifts, and the most wise teacher of the Chinese nation was even more talented.
Respect is not unprincipled concession or unprincipled flattery. Respect is mutual communication and mutual comity. If the other party has lost the minimum respect, we will lose the minimum self-esteem if we blindly compromise and give in to please. Comrade Mao Zedong said: "If people don't attack me, I won't attack; If people attack me, I will be a prisoner! "
Each of us lives in this society and in a big family. We hope that our personal existence, our achievements and our personality will be fully affirmed by others. So, how can we get the respect of others? In short, learn to respect others. So, how can we learn to respect others?
First of all, learn to appreciate. Appreciation is a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, and an excellent quality based on being good at discovering and abandoning bad psychology such as jealousy and pessimism. We should learn to appreciate the beauty, good health, clear voice, beautiful bones, rich knowledge and culture of others ... appreciate the rich experience of the elderly, the youth of the middle-aged people, the youthful vitality of the young people and the innocence of the young people. In short, as long as
The second is to have a good mentality of "three people, there must be a teacher". There are many learning modes around us and in the collective we live in. The beauty of others' appearance, soul, language and quality are all good examples for us to learn. They have profound knowledge, agile thinking, eloquent eloquence, outstanding talent, exquisite art, perfect personality and rich love. Professionalism and so on are all worthy of our admiration and study. Only by always maintaining a modest attitude and establishing the concept of "a threesome, there must be a teacher" will we learn to respect others, learn from others with an open mind, learn from each other's strengths, and then enrich and develop ourselves, and our artistic life will be full of artistic atmosphere.
Third, learn to use common civilized terms. People are emotional animals, and human emotions are largely communicated through language. So learn to use common civilized expressions, such as "Hello", "Need help", "Sorry", "Never mind" and "Goodbye". Don't look at these short civilized expressions, learn to use them. Sincere greetings and best wishes have brought others closer to you many times. "Can I help you?" It shows your friendship and your ability. If you have any difficulties with others, you are willing to extend your warm hand. A "sorry" is to save one's unintentional mistakes, or to sincerely apologize for one's mistakes, which not only shows respect for others, but also shows one's frankness. A "never mind" is to forgive and tolerate other people's mistakes, and it also shows your open mind.
Fourth, don't swear. Swearing and swearing not only reflects our own uncivilization, but also shows our shallowness and ignorance, and also seriously hurts the self-esteem of others. If we hurt others with swearing and swearing, others will fight back at us, and we will lose our self-esteem.
Fifth, don't disturb others' study, work and rest. When others are studying, working and resting, we try not to disturb them, knock on the door or shout a report before entering the house, and then go in after getting permission from others. These are concrete manifestations of respect for others.
The ancients said, "I respect people one foot, and people respect me one foot." In other words, as long as we learn to respect others, others will certainly respect ourselves more. If you want to be popular everywhere, you want to be respected by others, and you want to make your life more perfect, please learn to respect others from today on!