Yu Boya, a musician of Chu State, is good at playing, but he has high and low. Woodcutter Zhong Ziqi is a good listener and can understand Boya's thoughts. The two became bosom friends like "high mountains and flowing water" and became brothers. The next year, he died of illness. Boya broke the piano to thank his bosom friend and stopped playing. The story of bosom friends has been circulated for thousands of years and has become a model for mutual appreciation of "heroes know heroes". It tells us that learning to appreciate others is also a supreme realm of life, and appreciation is as happy and successful as being appreciated.
People often use the stories of Bole and Maxima to illustrate the problem of being good at discovering talents. However, talking about appreciation is another matter. There are always talents, and there are often talents who have been discovered, but few people really appreciate them. Appreciation is a heartfelt feeling, a heart-to-heart communication, the driving force of "a scholar dies for a confidant", which is beyond flattery. Of course, no one is perfect, everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages, and talents are no exception. The story of bosom friend explains our real appreciation, that is, we can look at the advantages and disadvantages of others objectively, "choose the good and follow it, choose the bad and change it."
When I was a child, the story of "Yan Zi makes Chu" made me understand the truth that "oranges are born in Huainan and oranges are born in Huaibei", and the role of "soil" in people's growth and progress. It also made me know that people should not wear colored glasses. Sometimes, from another angle, there may be another scene. We know that behind every successful person, there will be a little-known story and their own "noble people". It is precisely because they encourage you, support you and appreciate you in the process of your struggle, so that you can understand your personal value, regain your self-confidence, give play to your personal potential and finally achieve yourself. On the contrary, if no one appreciates you and finds you, you may remain depressed. If gold must shine, someone must extract it from the dark mine and put it in the right place!
To learn to appreciate others, you must be generous, be able to read and tolerate others, enlarge their advantages and ignore their shortcomings. This will not only make others feel their own value, but also benefit themselves. This is also the so-called win-win situation. People who appreciate others are those who are good at discovering "class". He who sees a sage thinks strangely, because he thinks that heroes have the same interests. But those who really appreciate others should also appreciate "non-me" people or enemies, respect their opponents, appreciate their respectable points, and make others flattered, so as to win their real respect. Sometimes, it can achieve the effect of turning hostilities into friendship, and the contradiction of talking and laughing disappears. Why are you unhappy? However, a chicken intestine and a small belly can't hold people, and they can't achieve anything, and ultimately they can't achieve themselves.
Appreciating yourself is narcissism, while appreciating others is picky. Only by holding the mentality of "giving someone a rose and leaving a lingering fragrance in your hand" can you really learn to appreciate others.
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