Although some people say that money can communicate with gods, true friendship is priceless. You can't buy and sell directly with money like all kinds of goods, you can only use true love. Money can sometimes be used as a carrier of friendship, and it can play a lot of roles when used with language, expressions, movements, intonation and other factors under appropriate circumstances.
Love words are beside the heart, and friendly words are beside the words. It can be seen that friendship is first from the heart and must be expressed through language. A cordial greeting, a few patient instructions, a pertinent and well-intentioned criticism and a unique and warm compliment all contain sincere friendship. A gentle touch, a warm hug and a timely helping hand are all body language to express family affection and make people feel the warmth of friendship. In most cases, friendship and money are two different things. An insatiable, selfish and stingy rich man with only money left, his friendship is far less than that of a wage earner with high emotional intelligence. Under what circumstances can money buy friendship?
First, at the right time. For example, when the other party and their relatives are sick and anxious to collect enough money, your generosity and selfless assistance will certainly win the gratitude and respect of the other party. But this situation often has certain risks, not only the investment is large, but also the time for gratitude and respect varies from person to person. So you have to look at your personality first. If the other person is sick, you can buy some gifts to visit, which can also give comfort. If you can send the right medicine or health care products, no matter how much you spend, people will feel your deep friendship. If you remember each other's birthdays or wedding anniversaries, sending appropriate gifts, warm congratulations and the same warm purpose can also bring people deep feelings. It's not about spending money, because remember that special day is friendship that money can't buy.
Second, in an appropriate form. There are always few suitable times and occasions for giving money, and money is too general, has no characteristics and does not show unique wisdom and significance. What's more, money is just a few sheets of paper, which are often forgotten after being spent, and cannot receive long-term results. If you buy carefully selected targeted gifts, the effect will be very different. If you add your own creativity and processing, it will be even more extraordinary. If you give your child a book that is more suitable for him to read, it will be more delicious than giving candy and snacks. A birthday card bought at a high price is not as good as a creative card with pictures. If you can write a literary and emotional birthday greeting, a 20-cent cardboard can carry it. This is the light ceremony and heavy affection. There was no TV drama about the birthday of Prime Minister Liu Luoguo and Emperor Qianlong. Liu Yong wrote a long birthday word with a brush dipped in honey, which attracted many ants as birthday gifts. I have to say, even ants have come to celebrate the emperor's birthday. His unique creativity delighted the emperor and dwarfed those precious gifts. Gifts are carriers of friendship and wisdom, and how much money is spent is not directly proportional to the friendship carried. If your gift giver is a money addict and only values money, that's another matter. People like that don't have to pay.
Third, gifts, no matter how much money they have, should be the carrier of people's true feelings, not charity on high or bait with ulterior motives. If people feel humiliated, flattered, bribed or perfunctory, then they won't get real friendship, and at most they will get some false friendship faces.
In a word, money can't simply buy friendship directly, but it can only play an auxiliary role in the process of cultivating and exchanging friendship, and friendship depends on friendship and wisdom.
Author: Feng Xuesong
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