People have been exploring love since ancient times, but the special research on love from the psychological point of view only began in modern times. From ancient times to the present, the psychological thought of love has been manifested in many literary and philosophical works, such as the description of love in The Book of Songs, Plato's Literary Dialogues, and Stendhal19th Century's On Love, all of which contain certain psychological views of love.
what is love ? It is generally believed that it is a noble emotion based on sexual desire and produced in the process of two-way communication between men and women. It consists of two parts: first, love based on sexual desire, admiration and cherish for the opposite sex; The other is the love sublimated from the attachment between the opposite sex and complex factors such as ideal, sentiment and personality pursuit. Love is a combination of sex and love, and love without sex is deformed; Only the whole face of sexual desire, without the sublimation of feelings, can not produce true love. At the same time, love is produced in two-way communication between men and women. One side has feelings, and the other side's unintentional feelings are things other than love.
Men and women who love each other are eager for their love. To get a happy love, you should have the following psychological conditions: First, don't be too infatuated, don't be aggressive, don't show your exclusive love alone, and fully respect each other. Happy love requires that people only regard love as a part of life, not the whole. While exploring and appreciating your own life, you should attach importance to each other and not interfere in each other's activities, but it is not indifferent. We should leave enough room for personal freedom of both sides. Secondly, when you give each other love, you will feel happier and more satisfied with each other's happiness than when you ask for love from each other. Is to have a selfless spirit. Thirdly, happy love is the combination of independent personalities of both parties, that is, both parties in love do not exist as accessories of the other party, but give both parties room to develop their own personalities. Fourth, find and cherish the psychological harmony of both sides. Happiness and love lie in spiritual harmony and spiritual communication.
The characteristic of human love is that the brain can store the feeling of love, and under certain circumstances, appropriate external stimuli can repeat this feeling. That's why people can only feel good when they go to the sunset and relive their past love. This is the essence that distinguishes man from animals. The role of consciousness can make love get rid of the bondage of the body to a certain extent, and the use of it can make love more manifested as spiritual attachment.
In a word, the motive force of love is not only sexual desire, but also a series of internal psychological and spiritual factors, such as caring and being cared for, missing and being missed, respecting and being respected, giving and accepting, being recognized, affirming and supplementing while knowing, appreciating and being appreciated, which urges people to look for their other half tirelessly.
College students are called the most popular people. They are young, energetic and generally have strong desires, but they often can't handle the relationship between study and love well.
The psychology of college students in love can be divided into the following categories:
Trial type: after being admitted to the university, I came to a world that looks like an adult and came to a university campus that strongly regulates self-management and self-education, thus appearing the desire to approach the opposite sex; There is a mystery of "heterosexual communication", and I want to try my life and enjoy myself in the emotional world.
Emptiness: when you are far away from your parents, relatives and friends, you often feel lonely and confused, that is, apart from studying, you will have some time to yourself from time to time, so some students have to enrich their spiritual life by falling in love.
Affordable: Some college students think that many things are true only if they can afford them, so they focus on pursuing personal material and spiritual interests and see if he (she) has money and the right to decide whether to fall in love with him (her).
Phenotype: Some college students think that falling in love can reflect their own value and prove their strong attraction. Seeing that classmates and roommates all have their own lovers, but they don't, seems to be very humiliating. So, seeing that another classmate had his lover, he quickly searched among his classmates and fellow villagers. In order to fully show themselves, some college students deliberately cuddle with each other in public and make intimate gestures.
Sensory satisfaction: Some college students rely on their own capital to express spring, either to dispel depression and loneliness, or to satisfy sensory stimulation, or even to satisfy sexual desire, and try their best to win the favor of boys or girls and fully achieve psychological and psychological pleasure. If there are students in the classroom, the canteen will cuddle and touch each other.
Grave-robbing talent type: Some college students fall in love because they envy each other's knowledge and talent. For example, a gentleman in the Chinese Department of a university is ugly and short, but he is loved by many beautiful women because he is good at writing poetry and prose as well as calligraphy.
In a word, college students fall in love for various reasons.
Love is an eternal topic, and it is very important to have a correct attitude towards love.