Benevolence and righteousness must be happy, otherwise it is against human nature, not true benevolence and righteousness. True meaning comes from the heart, so you will be truly happy. True success in life is bound to be accompanied by happiness. If a person's wealth, fame and achievements can't bring you happiness, what is the value of these things? Therefore, we should learn from Confucius' hedonism and his happy outlook on life.
The United Nations 2 1 Century Education Committee put forward that the four pillars of 2 1 Century education are: learning to seek knowledge, learning to do things, learning to get along with others and learning to be a man. Learning to be a man is the key and core of the four pillars, and it is also the purpose and foundation of education. Learning to be a man is a problem that every one of us has to face. No matter how much wealth and knowledge a person has, if he doesn't know the truth of being a man, he won't get real success and happiness in the end.
So how should each of us learn and practice the truth of being a man in our daily life and learn Confucius' outlook on life?
At different times, I studied The Analects from different perspectives, which also taught me a lot about being a man. For example, people encounter many difficulties and disappointments in life. How to treat them can be found in The Analects of Confucius.
In this life, people will always encounter such unpleasant things: "The Analects of Confucius" said that one day Sima Niu, a student of Confucius, said sadly: Everyone else has brothers, but I don't. Xia Zi, another student of Confucius, said: "It is said in business that life and death have a life, and wealth is in the sky." A gentleman treats others with courtesy, and all men are brothers within the four seas. Why don't gentlemen have brothers? "This represents a value concept advocated by The Analects of Confucius: First, people should be able to face life's regrets correctly and accept them in the shortest time. Everyone is inferior to others, or something unpleasant will happen to you one day. For example, last year's earthquake in Yushu, Qinghai, and the catastrophic mudslide in Zhouqu, Gansu. Some of them lost their parents, children, brothers and sisters and other relatives in an instant; Some people suddenly lost their familiar home. What kind of mentality should they (they) face at this time? ! Natural disasters are unpredictable and sometimes inevitable. When a natural disaster happens, we must accept it. Don't dwell too much on this. It will only aggravate your pain, just like Sister Xianglin in Lu Xun's works.
The Analects tells us the second attitude towards life, that is, try your best to do things with your own ability to make up for the regrets you encounter.
Disaster happened and tragedy was staged. Face these hardships quickly and correctly, think about how to reduce losses and get back on your feet. At this time, what supports us to stand up is inner peace and calmness. In reality, we can see that after the reconstruction of Wenchuan, people are busy: people commemorate their dead relatives, reorganize new families, repair damaged houses and give birth to new lives. People in Wenchuan have gradually healed their wounds and alleviated their pains by "doing things" with their own abilities. Through labor, Wenchuan gained a new life. The Analects of Confucius says, "The benevolent is not worried, the wise is not confused, and the brave is not afraid." If you are open-minded and kind-hearted, you will have the courage to face sadness and regret calmly. When misfortune comes, sadness is inevitable. The best way is to let it go as soon as possible, so that we can spare more time to do more valuable things, and we can live more efficiently and feel better. This is the "magnanimous" state of mind advocated by The Analects of Confucius.
In addition, we should strengthen our self-cultivation. Besides setting clear goals, we also need good habits as a means to restrain ourselves and improve ourselves.
Ceng Zi said: "I save three times a day; Is it cheating for others? Don't believe in making friends? Can't you learn? " In other words: I must reflect on myself with three things every day. Is there anything I don't try to do for others? Is it dishonest to associate with friends? Have you reviewed the teacher's teaching? "Ceng Zi's" three provinces "have two aspects: one is to cultivate one's morality, and the other is to treat others. Be honest with people. Honesty is a sign of distinctive personality. You don't cheat others or yourself. Doing things for others wholeheartedly, doing one's best, and not perfunctory are the basic virtues of being a man. Cultivation can't be achieved at one time. Self-cultivation should run through life. We should always review old experiences and gain new knowledge. We can't stop. Once we stop, we will become rigid. All this is supported and maintained through the habit of "daily reflection", so that personal cultivation is improved day by day.
When a person's accomplishment reaches a certain level, his thoughts and life will change from ordinary people. Confucius said, "It's better to keep pace with the times, isn't it? Is it not delightful to have friends coming from distant quarters? People don't know, but they don't care Isn't it a gentleman? " Isn't it pleasant to sum up the experience in life? Isn't it very happy to get together with like-minded bosom friends? No one knows himself, nor worries or complains. Isn't that a gentleman? What a noble realm this is! All this is not illusory, but can be achieved by improving one's self-cultivation.
The improvement of ideological literacy is not only related to individuals, but also closely related to society. "He is also a filial brother, but few are good at offending people; It is not easy to make mistakes, but people who are good at making trouble are not there. " A man who is humble and friendly to others seldom does anything that makes him guilty of rebellion. Everyone can do this, then our living environment and social order will undoubtedly be very stable.
No matter how big the matter is, the governance and stability of the country are also related to people's basic cultivation. "One country is a thousand times, respecting things and believing, saving money and loving people, making people timely." In other words, to govern a big country, we should take our work seriously and be respectful; Keep your word, save money and avoid extravagance and waste; Be kind to the people and mobilize different people to do different things at the right time. In addition to the special position of the ruler, many elements (preciseness, trustworthiness, frugality and kindness) are closely related to personal cultivation. It can be seen that governing the country is also based on the basic point of improving self-cultivation, which is indeed a major event worthy of attention.
How to be a man is a lifelong subject. The Analects of Confucius tells us a lot about being a man and is a treasure house of thoughts. Study hard, experience carefully and practice hard. Our realm will definitely improve, and our life will definitely have positive changes.
Reading of the analects of confucius has benefited me a lot. In the future, I will read the Analects of Confucius more carefully, read the wisdom of China for thousands of years, experience the principles and methods of doing things, and taste this warm heart.
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