1. Modesty, as a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, seems to be increasingly questioned by people in the modern society where competition is everywhere. People who advocate modesty say, "Modesty and forbearance are not only self-cultivation, but also great wisdom." Those who oppose modesty say, "Modesty has long been out of date. The law of the jungle, competition should be. " However, it is undeniable that things like humility seem to be difficult to happen around you and me. Whether it is by bus, shopping, queuing, buying tickets, or cooperating with others, giving priority to personal interests is not only human nature, but also human survival instinct inspired by real life. Liang Shiqiu once wrote in an article: "When I was a child, I read the story of Kong Rong letting pears, and I felt really commendable and ashamed. Some people suspect that Kong Rong may have a bad stomach and was afraid of eating raw cold, so he was happy to humble himself. I dare not speculate. However, we have to admit that interests will make people get carried away, and humility is not an easy task. Kong Rong's "The Story of Pear" does have educational value, but unfortunately it has little practical effect: it is rare in Kong Rong today. " Is modesty really out of date? Of course not. Modesty is a kind of mind, a kind of virtue, a kind of grace, a kind of wisdom, and more importantly, a kind of cultivation. We need the spirit of humility, and this era also calls for the spirit of humility. Today, modesty is out of date. In the Qing Dynasty, a big family wanted to build a courtyard wall to separate themselves from their neighbors. There was a serious conflict between the two houses on the position of the wall base. Although a large family has deep pockets, it has suffered immediate losses because its children and grandchildren without neighbors are rich. Deeply ashamed, he immediately wrote a letter to his son, who was a big official in Beijing, detailing all kinds of troubles at home, and asked his son to return home quickly, trying to punish his neighbors and find face for his family. After reading the letter, the senior official in Beijing sent an urgent letter to his family, which earnestly explained the truth that a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor, and wrote four sentences at the end of the letter: "A thousand miles to pick a book is just separated by a wall, why not let him be three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. "Everyone read the letter and was deeply educated. They quickly repaired with their neighbors and decided not to build a wall between the two families and never separate! As the saying goes, "take a step back and broaden the horizon", modesty is not a loss, but a room for yourself. There is a public service advertisement, except for people crowded in front of the bus, which has always been a voice-over. A man and a woman fought each other in order to get on the bus first. An old man calmly advised two young people to "relax and don't squeeze". Both of these stories reflect the important role of humility in life. Discuss humility with an extremely optimistic and open-minded friend. She said that humility is actually a philosophy full of wisdom, because humility can sometimes not only resolve contradictions, but also reflect a kind of grace and self-restraint of human beings. " "indisputable" is a state of mind. Modern society requires people to be proactive, and no one is willing to give their own interests to others. Modesty doesn't mean that you can't face the really cruel competition, which has nothing to do with personal ability, but because modesty seeks an inner peace, and inner peace will make you quiet, and peace will breed great wisdom. Aside from haggling over every ounce, humble cultivation and personal charm will increase your popularity and gain more trust and goodwill. Who says you don't leave yourself more room and opportunities for development? Of course, modesty is also selective. Some things, even if we are humble, can't see the slightest self-cultivation, and after we are humble and polite, the collateral impact of the incident is incalculable, and the bad factors it produces will haunt us and linger. For example, love is completely selfish, and love may need genius and minutes to play. Lovers can be humble in getting along, but love itself can't be humble. Don't think your modesty is great. In fact, it not only hurts yourself, but also disrespects each other. Another example is a task at work, but you must show humility. I push you, you push me, but you know you have to step back from the background if you can do it well. It seems to have become a hypocritical attitude towards life, conniving at false deception. This is not self-deception. "supercilious, does not mean making trouble, or to outdo each other in the work that needs coordination, secretly making discovery ambushes. No humility, more spiritual self-confidence, I can do it, I can do it, not personality atrophy. The coordination and cooperation of work is the organic combination of countless people who are not humble, not the scattered sand of humble people. "Therefore, there are some things that should be done. Does this conflict with the humility we advocate? Actually, it is not. " Modest love may mislead others and yourself, and even make yourself regret for life. When an enterprise or a collective needs coordination and cooperation in its work, its employees show strong behaviors of not giving in to each other everywhere, then any work of the enterprise or the collective will increase the cost because of internal friction. "Modesty is not a trading principle, but always looks at personal interests from the perspective of overall interests. When there is a contradiction between the overall interests and personal interests, we should consciously sacrifice personal interests and safeguard the overall interests. When educating children, my friend once said that as long as you like what you want, don't give it up easily and don't humble it to others. Yes, modern society requires us to learn to fight for ourselves. But in fact, humility is more about consciously obeying an order for modern people. And the observance of this order will bring convenience to people and themselves. Generally speaking, everything in the world is not enough to fight, but enough to let go. Do you think modesty is out of date?