Recently, a parent reported that his children were scared to see their older teachers and elders. No matter how he preaches, it's hard to change. In daily life, this parent is strict with his children. Every time a child does his homework, he will watch the child finish it. Because children are naughty and sometimes disobedient, this parent will strictly discipline them and insult and accuse them. "I don't know if this is the reason, let him dare not see adults. Until now, children have been careless in doing things. You said, what should I do now as a parent? " The parent said.

I think the negative psychological impact of corporal punishment on students should not be underestimated: corporal punishment is not a good way of education.

Both parents and teachers are adults, who have an absolute advantage in physical strength, and the child's body is not yet mature. Therefore, a slap or punch from an adult is a huge blow to children.

In addition, parents and teachers usually have great psychological advantages, so that after children are insulted and hurt, it is basically impossible to release psychological harm through equal dialogue, consultation and mediation, but all of them are transformed into internal mental pressure.

This kind of mental stress generally has two trends: one is that it evolves into an impulse of revenge from the inside out, including hatred for the perpetrator or the whole society; The other is the great destruction of self-psychology and body, resulting in various psychological diseases and psychological obstacles.

Corporal punishment is not the best way of education. Although some bad practices of children can be corrected in some cases, because corporal punishment can't teach children to distinguish right from wrong, children will obey the rules in the presence of their parents, but they will still act recklessly when they are sure that they can escape punishment.

In addition, it may make children tend to attack or even abuse in adulthood. Some parents and teachers always have the old idea of "killing a dutiful son with a stick", but corporal punishment does great harm to children. They will feel ashamed, some people will feel inferior, and some people will become rebellious. If you say you go east and I go west, it will be more likely to go wrong.

Just like this parent's child in this article, he is afraid and careless. It should be said that to a large extent, it is the negative impact of corporal punishment such as parents' beating and cursing.

I think it is the key for parents to enhance their personal charm. The child's mistake was unintentional. As parents, you must not get angry at will, let alone punish your children at will. We should work hard on educational methods. Parents can go to parent school and so on. And try to understand some knowledge and experience in children's education and study counseling; We should strengthen the cultivation of our abilities and qualities, especially in improving our authority and charm. In other words, children admire you and like you, so why worry about not calling him and teaching him badly?

In addition, if parents really want to "corporal punishment", they can also take another form, and they must not take the form of making their children cry. For example, children can be "punished" for their work, such as doing some housework to make up for their "work", but parents should pay attention to their children's speaking skills, and don't let their children think that labor is punishment, and they will be disgusted with labor in the future. After the punishment, you must convince the child and let the child know where he is wrong. At the same time, if "corporal punishment" is to be effective, it can't be abused, and it can't punish children every day.

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