Yan Zheng

(Foundation Group of Weihai Maritime College of Shandong Jiaotong University, Weihai, Shandong 264200)

One evening, while walking in the seaside park, there were some stalls along the park road, and they stopped selling gadgets. At this moment, from a distance, a little boy rolled on the ground and came in crying. It turned out that he took a fancy to a remote-controlled electric plane and insisted on pestering his mother to buy it. The boy's mother said, "There are all kinds of toys at home, and there are many remote control toys." But the little boy just wouldn't listen, and he was really determined not to give up until he reached his goal. Boys and mothers bought them because more and more people watched them. Ungrateful, the boy got up, hugged the plane and said bitterly, "Hum! If you don't buy it, you will throw all your toys into the sea when you go back tonight! " Hi! The child became a "little devil". At this time, I carefully looked at the little boy in front of me: eleven or twelve years old, dignified and strong, with big and bright eyes, very cute, but this behavior is disgusting.

Chatting with the boy's mother, I have to know that they are Koreans and have been in Weihai for five years. The boy's mother's surname is Park, and the boy's name is Jin Zaiwen. She and her husband opened a Korean restaurant in the city, and the business was very prosperous. It is because the business is too busy that the children are given to grandparents who can't even speak Chinese. Old people spoil their children so much that they can't even help with their homework. Zaiwen's academic performance in school is extremely poor, and class discipline is also a headache for teachers. He beats and scolds his classmates and gives teachers nicknames. ..... It can be said that this is really a headache for parents and teachers.

I heard that I am also a teacher, living in a community, and Zaiwen's mother is very happy. After talking a lot about educating children, Xiao Pu held my hand and tentatively asked me, "Teacher Zheng, Zaiwen finishes school early every afternoon, and my restaurant is busy. Can you ask him to come to your home to do his homework and educate him ... "Supposedly, parents are the children's first teachers and can't push their children's education to others. ) reflects the success or failure of parents in educating their children.

Looking at Xiao Piao's expectant eyes, I hesitated for a moment, and then I thought, I have this "little devil" in my hand. See how I can teach you manners! Actually, I'm not sure. I said with a try attitude, "well, let me have a look these days." Small park happily bother to thank.

The next Saturday, Xiao Piao came with a message. As soon as he entered the door, Zaiwen took off his shoes, jumped on my sofa and lay down again, like nobody's business. Xiaopu frowned helplessly, scolded me a few words and said, "Jaewen, mom is leaving!" " ""goodbye! Get out! "Alas, the child, said do too rude. I am determined to educate him well. His character is not formed in a day or two, and it is not so easy to reverse. But he is a child after all, and I think it will change as long as the method is proper.

I thought to myself: I can't be completely harsh on such children. I took out a box of chocolates. "Zavan, try this chocolate?" I tried to speak in a friendly way. Without hesitation, he picked up a piece and wolfed it down, then took a second bite and said, "Well, yours is not as advanced as ours!" " "I am eating while holding an article, while thinking about things. Education should begin with "being a man", followed by academic performance. Knowing the truth of life, other things will be much easier to solve. Therefore, knowing how to be a man is the foundation of educating children!

It is not easy to correct a person's behavior. First of all, I let Jae-wen sit in my small chair, hold his chest up, and can't shake his head from side to side. Tell him to have a sitting posture when sitting and a standing posture when standing. Be polite when answering questions. I still tried my best to ask kindly, "Jae Wen, what should you say to the teacher when he gives you candy?" "Thank you, teacher!" "Then why didn't you say anything?" "Forget it!" What should I answer when the teacher hands you something? Hands connected. "Cough! Children know everything but can't do it well! " Well, Zaiwen, don't forget next time: thank you from the bottom of your heart for helping others, including your parents. Don't forget, OK? "Good!" "It's best to give something to your elders with two hands, ok?" Wen didn't speak, just nodded heavily.

Taking Disciple Rules out of the bookcase is actually a very thin booklet, but I think this Disciple Rules, which has been circulating for a long time during the Kangxi period, still has a great educational effect on our modern children.

Although there are some traces of feudal society in the book. But "filial piety, kindness, honesty, diligence ..." is the eternal truth. Disciples' Rules is an easy-to-understand book to regulate children's behavior. I even think it is good for adults to read it and compare their own behaviors.

"Wen, should we study Disciples Rules? "What book is Disciples Rules?" Disciples Rules is a book that teaches us how to behave. The teacher didn't do well either. Let's study this book together, shall we? "Good!" Zaiwen promised quite loudly. This helped me build confidence in my educational articles.

On the first day, we learned the Book of Filial Piety, which is the first lesson of Disciples' Rules. "Filial piety" means being kind to parents at home. Good deeds, one is the heart, the other is waiting. Heart is the heart that never forgets parents' kindness to us, and service is to take care of parents. We all do it with such a heart, that is, to be good to our parents, which is the foundation of being a man. Zhu Dexiao comes first.

This lesson is mainly to tell children to respect their parents, and of course to have a new understanding of society, because it is 2 1 century and we are a democratic country. Families should also talk about democracy. But there is still a premise, that is, children should have due respect for their parents, and the younger generation should have due respect for their elders.

On the first day, I asked Jae-wen to go back and say hello to Mom and Dad. When mom and dad come home from work at night, they should go forward to meet them, take clothes and slippers and say, "Mom and dad have worked hard!" " "or" mom and dad, I miss you! "Mom cooks a good meal and praises" It's delicious! " Or: "Mom has worked hard, take a rest!" " "Wait a minute.

Mom and dad should say "goodbye" to their parents when they go to work in the morning. When you get to school, ask "good morning, teacher!" " I asked Jae-wen, are these all right? Zaiwen thought for a moment and said, "Yes!" "Is it difficult to do?" "It's not difficult!" "Well, this boy is good. I think it's better than the teacher's request ... "

A few days later, Zaiwen came to my house and asked, "Hello, teacher!" " "I gave him slippers, and Zaiwen would say, thank you, teacher, I'll do it myself. "Although it is very common, it is not simple for the article.

One day, my voice was a little hoarse. Zaiwen said, "Teacher, have a rest and drink some water. I have a' golden scorpion tablet' at home, and I will bring it to you next time. " Ah! Moon Jae in knows how to be grateful and care for others. I'm really happy to see Jae-wen's love, and my throat doesn't hurt anymore.

While teaching composition, I also communicate with my mother who recited the composition in time, appreciate and affirm the progress of the composition, and meet his requirements appropriately. If it is unreasonable, I will tell him the truth and resolutely refuse to promise him. Xiao Piao was reluctant at first. I said to her, "You spoil your child too much. You actually hurt him. How to make children behave is the most fundamental thing for mothers. " Zaiwen's mother promised to cooperate with me. And told me that things have really changed in Wen's home these days. Dad took the initiative to bring slippers and bags to his father after work. Dad kissed Zaiwen mercilessly and said, "What a good son!" " Zaiwen is also very happy. This has never happened before.

The next week, I learned the second lesson, "When you leave school, you will be brave." This is about harmony, respect and care for your brother. Zaiwen's generation has many only children. Although Koreans are not restricted by family planning, Xiaopu doesn't want it. She said, "This one is so tired that I don't want to regenerate." Zaiwen once said such a thing. "If my mother has another little brother or sister, I will strangle him (her)!" Although it is a joke, it also reveals the "selfish and exclusive" mentality of this generation of children. It is extremely unfavorable to the family and society.

They may not have brothers and sisters, but they still have cousins, no cousins, classmates and friends. They are all members of society, and they should respect each other, love each other and help each other, so that our family and society can be stable and peaceful.

In this class, I asked Zaiwen to get along well with his brothers and sisters. Don't swear. If you are uncivilized, don't beat and scold your classmates. After a long time, your classmates and teachers will also like you.

The third lesson "sincerity" is specific to many behaviors. After listening to the article, "Oh, teacher, there are too many, I can't remember clearly." I told Jae-wen: "As long as you remember one thing, you won't do what you think is wrong!" " So it is very important for children to distinguish right from wrong. But at this point, it is not easy to do it, and so are adults.

The fourth lesson is "faithfulness", which means that one should keep his promise. Tell him to be responsible. This is also very specific. Of course, children can't learn everything and do it well. Educating children is also a step-by-step process, gradually infiltrating and consolidating. Through learning, children will feel that they have not done well in many places before and will feel ashamed.

The fifth lesson is "Love the masses". In this lesson, I mainly talk about "love" for children. People should be caring, compassionate and kind. I told Zaiwen many stories in this class, and he was very willing to listen and easy to accept. Let children raise some flowers, plants and small animals, which can not only acquire knowledge from nature, but also cultivate children's sense of responsibility and love.

Lesson 6 "Pro-benevolence" and "Pro-benevolence" are close, and "benevolence" refers to a moral and learned person, that is, to be close to the benevolent and learn from him. It's a question of choosing a teacher. The benevolent is invincible. Get close to people of noble character and you will improve yourself. It can be said that "pro-Zhu Zhechi, close to Mexico is black."

For today's children, we ask him to talk about unity. We just need to follow his example when we see who is virtuous and excellent in learning. Moral standards should be in line with people with high standards; Eating, drinking and dressing are all compared with people with low standards. Give some examples from life and the children will understand.

Although it is a "disciple's rule", many of us adults may not do well. I also learned a lot from telling Jae Wen about the rules of my apprentice.

After more than two months of study and practice, Zaiwen has made great progress, and Zaiwen's mother also said that Zaiwen seems to be a different person. No matter at school or at home, I am very polite to teachers, classmates, grandparents and parents. I also help my mother do a lot of housework within my power. The teacher also reported that Wen had made great progress and was recommended as the group leader of this semester by his classmates.

Not only has he made great progress, but sometimes he has to correct his family's norms and tell them something about Disciples' Rules. ...

Xiaopu came to my house to hold my hand and let Zaiwen continue to study and do his homework. I also promised her: "ok, as long as Jae Wen likes it, let him come!" "

I am also happy to see the progress of the article. In fact, I want to thank the book Disciples Rules. Parents and teachers should buy a copy of Disciple Rules to tell their children and students!

Jae-Wen's mother said she would treat me to Korean food this weekend. In fact, seeing children make such progress is happier than anything I eat.