Correctly handling children's negative emotions also requires certain skills. First of all, when the child expresses negative emotions, the mother's listening attitude will have a certain impact on the child's emotions. If the mother listens attentively to the child's talk, it will make the child have a great sense of identity, thus reducing negative emotions and solving problems. In this case, even if the mother doesn't give the child any advice, the child knows what to do. If the mother is absent-minded when listening, it will make the child lose the desire to speak and aggravate the child's negative emotions. However, if the mother shows great interest in the child's words and listens to the child carefully, the child will get less and less negative emotions because of her concern. Maybe when the child has finished speaking, his negative emotions will completely disappear.

As an adult, a mother should sympathize with her children's feelings. When you think it's the size of sesame seeds, it's not the case in the eyes of children, because children don't have so much life experience and can't understand so much. But when they are unhappy, they will cry, and when they feel uncomfortable, they will become very naughty, which is in line with their growth law. However, many mothers always try to get rid of their children's negative emotions, but it often backfires. Children's negative emotions are getting stronger and stronger, and the frequency of children expressing negative emotions is gradually increasing.

If the mother sympathizes with the child's feelings, she will inadvertently send such a message to the child: Your feelings are reasonable, which can quickly calm the child's excitement. Mothers always want to comfort their children and let them get rid of the interference of negative emotions, but they don't understand that only after their emotions are recognized will they listen to all the comforting words.

Compassion is like a magic key, which can open a child's heart and make him easy to accept comfort and guidance. Therefore, when a child is in a bad mood, please identify with his mood and express sympathy for his experience before you try to comfort him or give him advice to get rid of it.

When children express negative emotions to their mothers, some mothers are too busy talking to comfort their children. I wonder if language pause will have a better effect? This time is reserved for yourself and your children. The "pause" mentioned here is only a pause in language, not a pause in facial expression and thinking.

When a mother immediately reacts to a child's negative emotions, the child usually tries his best to defend his emotions and behaviors. And if the mother stops trying to convince the child, but tells the child with facial expressions or simple words, such as "Oh …", "Um …" and "So …", the child can spend a few seconds sorting out his feelings and prepare the child to accept your suggestions.

When a child makes an impossible request, the mother should accept the child's emotions and use her imagination to help the child realize an impossible dream.