Keywords: skills, parents, preschool teachers, communication, family education
First, the analysis of the current situation of communication between preschool teachers and parents
Preschool teachers should not only face different children, but also face different parents. It is really important for kindergarten teachers to get along with so many parents. Moreover, the frequency of contact between kindergarten teachers and parents is much higher than that of primary and secondary school teachers. Kindergarten teachers meet their children's parents at least twice a day, which is an essential procedure. Children's education is three-dimensional, in which the influence of family is very important. Teachers should first understand the children's family situation, including the economic situation of the children's family, the political outlook of family members, the cultural and moral cultivation of parents and the educational requirements for children. This has a subtle influence on children's world outlook, outlook on life and outlook on learning. What are the differences between teachers and parents of young children? How should we deal with these differences?
1) Face up to the difference
(A) the differences in the evaluation of children
In one case, parents' evaluation of children is higher than that of kindergarten teachers. These parents regard their children as flowers and jade is flawless; And kindergarten teachers, when looking after children, are not perfect or outstanding. It is not excluded that the kindergarten teacher neglected some advantages of the child, but the parents overestimated the child, but the teacher reflected that the child's performance in kindergarten was ok, but the parents said that the child was useless. "Hate iron not to produce steel", criticizing and reprimanding children all day.
(b) Differences in children's expectations
Teachers' expectations of children are generally general and objective. They expect every child to make progress and grow up healthily. Parents' expectations of their children are often specific, with obvious directionality, and sometimes it is inevitable to have subjective elements. Some parents are eager for their children's success and often put forward unrealistic expectations for their children. The difference between preschool teachers and parents' expectations of children will lead to the difference between training objectives and education implementation.
Differences in child care
Parents' care for children has two obvious characteristics. One is individual directivity, and the other is nuance. Parents' care for their children points to their own children. Undoubtedly, this kind of care is very meticulous. Teachers work with dozens of children in the class. It is inevitable that they have to take care of dozens of children instead of one child or several children.
(d) There are different opinions on the attribution analysis of children's stunting.
When children grow up smoothly, the relationship between kindergartens and parents is often harmonious. However, once children encounter some problems in the process of growing up, education is difficult and satisfactory results cannot be achieved, the two sides may blame each other and have differences. Parents complain that kindergarten teachers have not done a good job in education, and kindergarten teachers complain that parents do not cooperate with their work, and they all have grievances. This resentment is expressed in various forms, whether audio or silent, causing psychological estrangement.
Differences in attitudes, ways and methods towards children's education
This difference exists in daily education. One side is strict with the management of children, and there is love in strictness, while the other side indulges and dotes; On the one hand, it pays attention to the development of ability and intelligence, on the other hand, it requires literacy and knowledge; On the one hand, it pays attention to the cultivation of independence, labor concept and ability, on the other hand, it is afraid that children will be tired and moved, and it is simply overprotective; On the one hand, we pay attention to children's games, let them learn in games, on the other hand, we force them to have formal learning and training. ...
2) Reasons for differences
(A) the relationship with children is different
The relationship between teachers and children is mainly the relationship between teachers and students. Teachers are educators and children are educated. Teachers care and love children out of a sense of responsibility, with a strong rational color. The relationship between parents and children is not only the relationship between educators and educatees, but also the parent-child relationship between parents and children, which is a strong emotional relationship.
The teacher-student relationship between teachers and children is temporary. Once a child enters higher education, this relationship between teachers and students has actually ended, leaving behind the friendship between teachers and students, rather than the real relationship between teachers and students. The parent-child relationship between parents and children is lifelong. The growth of children affects the hearts of parents and affects the harmony and happiness of the family. This long-term and closely related relationship makes parents have to pay more attention to their children, sometimes even to the point of "going too far".
(2) Observe children's different time and space conditions.
Parents mostly observe their children at home. There are few members in the family, and the children are in the position of being taken care of. Teachers mainly observe children in kindergartens. In kindergarten, many children live, play and study together. Children are not only under the care of teachers, but also in the interaction of children of the same age. Children encounter many contradictions in kindergarten that they cannot meet at home. In kindergarten, these smart children know that their behavior is restricted, so they are more able to control their behavior. This leads to the situation that parents are not sensible and obedient when looking after their children, while kindergarten teachers look after their children very well.
Different educational levels
Preschool teachers are generally professionally trained and have certain educational attainments. Parents' educational literacy varies from person to person, some are high and some are low, which often shows a big gap. Teachers and parents have different educational attainments, so there will be differences in the perspective of observing children and the degree of understanding children, the evaluation of children will be different, and the educational methods and means will be very different.
(D) lack of timely contact and communication
At present, kindergartens generally attach importance to parents' work and maintain close relations with parents. However, the work of some parents of preschool teachers is often general and lacks in-depth and meticulous work. This makes it impossible for teachers and parents to exchange views on children's education in time. If we can contact and exchange views in time, this difference will be gradually eliminated, so that the views and education tend to be consistent, or basically the same. However, if teachers lack contact with their parents, especially frank conversation, they will deepen their differences and expand their psychological barriers.
3) Resolving differences
(A) empathy, mutual understanding
The world needs to understand, the more it understands, the more harmonious it is, and the more it trusts. If kindergarten teachers and parents can take a look and think from each other's standpoint, they will have more understanding and consideration for each other.
(two) to master the knowledge of family education and improve their prestige.
Education is a systematic project. To achieve the educational goal, teachers should not only understand the kindergarten education theory, but also understand the corresponding family knowledge. Teachers with knowledge of family education will better report their children's growth, development and shortcomings to parents, answer parents' questions about children, publicize some knowledge and methods of scientific parenting in a targeted manner, analyze and point out some problems and doubts encountered by parents in the process of educating their children, and make suggestions to help parents solve specific difficulties, thus improving parents' scientific parenting level and improving parents' respect and trust in teachers.
Conduct a comprehensive and impartial assessment of children.
From the perspective of preschool teachers, we should overcome prejudice and prevent overestimation of well-developed and well-behaved children in the class and underestimation of introverted, slow-developing or undisciplined children.
In order to evaluate children comprehensively and fairly, kindergarten teachers and parents should learn and master the content and evaluation index of children's development, and comprehensively evaluate children from the aspects of body, intelligence, morality and beauty. Overcome the one-sided practice of evaluating children only from cognitive aspects and even from the degree of knowledge mastery.