On how to establish a good relationship between teachers and children Ding Ying [Summary] Kindergarten Education Guidance Outline (Trial) points out that teachers' attitudes and management methods should help to create a safe and warm psychological environment. The relationship between teachers and children should be harmonious. Only in a relaxed, safe, cheerful and cooperative atmosphere can children feel the love and respect of teachers, make them feel safe, feel relaxed and happy, establish self-esteem and self-confidence, greatly mobilize their enthusiasm, initiative and creativity in participating in activities, which is conducive to their physical and mental health and the socialized development of personality. [Keywords:] Teachers have equal relations and love respect and understanding. As a kind of interpersonal relationship, the teacher-student relationship is an equal relationship between people, and the teacher-student relationship in kindergarten is different from the general teacher-student relationship. Its particularity is closely related to the characteristics of children's physical and mental development and the way of kindergarten education, and it is the most basic and important interpersonal relationship in the education process. In kindergartens, establishing a good relationship between teachers and children is an important part of creating a good spiritual environment, which has a positive impact on children's cognitive, emotional and psychological health development. Only in a good spiritual environment can children live, study and grow happily and promote all-round development. On the contrary, teachers should love children. From home to kindergarten, children's living environment and contact people have changed greatly. Whether they can adapt to the new environment smoothly has an important impact on children's physical and mental health and growth. Preschool teachers are the first socialized authority that children contact. How teachers treat children and the relationship between teachers and children will affect children's future study and life. Therefore, teachers should love every child rationally. Since childhood, children have grown up under the care of their parents. When children leave their parents who live together day and night and enter a strange learning environment, they will inevitably feel anxious, worried and panicked. Teachers should understand the child's performance. Teachers should show more love and patience to children, always treat children with a kind attitude and say friendly words to them. You can't ignore the crying of young children, let alone reprimand them loudly. Like children who have just entered the park, they will cry for a long time if they don't adapt to collective life. At this time, the teacher should sit next to the child, wipe the tears for the child, even hold the child in his arms, play with the child and tell the child some interesting things. Slowly, children's vigilance against teachers is eliminated, and they will naturally integrate into the new collective life. For example, there is a child in our class who is timid and especially afraid of the sound of police cars. At first, I didn't notice. I thought I missed my mother and didn't take special care of him. But after a while, I let the children listen to this music again. He just cried when he was fine. Then I realized that he was afraid of this kind of music, so I picked him up and asked, Are you familiar with this kind of music? He sobbed and answered, and my mother called the police uncle to arrest me when she said I was disobedient. I'm very obedient and don't want the police uncle to come. It turned out that I was scared by my parents, so I told him: this is just a sound, not a real police car. Besides, police uncles don't catch children, they only catch bad guys. He looked at me with tears and stopped crying. In the future, as long as I play this song, he will come to me, and he will gradually become less afraid of this song, have a lot of courage and like to talk to the teacher. Teachers should not only love children, but also love them fairly. Children come from different families, are influenced by different family atmosphere, and have different innate genetic factors, so their personalities, interests and needs are also different. At this time, if our love for children is unfair and we only prefer those smart, beautiful or obedient children, then those children with plain appearance and average intelligence will feel inferior, and they will be afraid of going to kindergarten and teachers. Teachers should let every child feel the teacher's love and care, and then let every child identify with and attach to the teacher. In addition, teachers love children, and they can also show their closeness to children emotionally, show their care and love for children everywhere, and shorten the psychological distance between teachers and children. When the teacher smiles at the child and encourages the child with kind eyes, the child will feel kind, safe and warm. Teachers' love for children is the most precious nutrition in education. Children bathed in nectar will feel safe, adapt to the kindergarten environment and learn to communicate with their peers and teachers. Only communication can cultivate a good relationship between teachers and children. Second, teachers should respect children's early childhood is a critical period for the formation of good behavior habits, but because children's ability to judge right and wrong and behavior control is poor, they often make some violations. In children's daily life, teachers should be tolerant of children's mistakes and don't scold them. Teachers should understand that children are independent individuals, equal to teachers in personality, have their own ideas and have strong self-esteem. They want the teacher to whisper not to tell other teachers. For example, a child in our class often pees in bed while sleeping. At first, I will talk about him in front of the child and remind him that the child will laugh at him. He is also very embarrassed, so he is very careful when sleeping and never lets himself fall asleep. Later, I peed in bed again. I thought about it and didn't tell him in front of others. Instead, he quietly told him not to drink too much water before going to bed and changed his pants. He looked at me and said with a smile, teacher, I have got up in my dream. Why did I leave it on the bed again? Don't drink water before going to bed in the future. In educational activities, teachers should not always impart their thoughts, knowledge and experience to children, while ignoring their feelings. If children grow up in such an environment for a long time, they will lose themselves, and their emotions, enthusiasm and initiative will be suppressed in the manipulation of teachers, and the effect of educational activities will of course be very poor. Therefore, when organizing various activities, teachers should fully consider children's physical and mental development characteristics, interests and needs, respect children, treat children as independent personalities and protect their self-esteem. Facing every living individual, teachers should step down from the position of leader, squat down, communicate with children with a curious childlike innocence, observe children from their perspective and understand their thoughts. Only in this way can children regard the teacher as one of their own, and they are willing to tell the teacher what they really think, so as to establish a good relationship between teachers and students. Third, teachers should understand that children's preschool children are active, curious and inquisitive due to the limitation of cognitive development. They are full of curiosity about everything, always asking questions, touching here and there, and making mistakes if they are not careful. Some children in kindergarten just like to run around and attack other children. When the teacher criticizes him, he will admit his mistake at once, but he will forget it after a while. In the face of such children who are always in trouble, teachers will of course criticize, but we should appropriately criticize young children, and even punish them if they are too harsh. Then children will become more and more afraid of teachers and alienate them; Or have a rebellious mentality, and then oppose the teacher. Improper handling of children's mistakes by teachers will have a negative impact on the establishment of a good relationship between teachers and children. Therefore, teachers should treat children's mistakes with understanding and tolerance, and help children calmly analyze the causes of mistakes, so that children can accept teachers' criticism wholeheartedly. Each of our children has different talents and hobbies. Teachers must pay attention to teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, so that every child can make progress at the original level. Teachers should pay attention to children's little progress and give them affirmation, so that children will feel concerned by teachers, which will further stimulate their motivation to learn, so that they can relax and study with confidence, and deepen the relationship between teachers and children. Fourth, teachers should have good educational skills. Teachers should not only smile, respect and understand equally, but also carry out vivid educational activities to stimulate children's interest in learning. In particular, teachers' organizations should be exploratory and arouse children's strong curiosity. This can make children deeply intoxicated and ask many questions to the teacher. Teachers should listen carefully to children's questions, be patient and witty in answering questions, and never ignore or even get bored with children's questions. In this way, a good relationship between teachers and children can be gradually cultivated. We know that the process of preschool education is the process of interaction between teachers and children. In this process, teachers play the role of guidance, inspiration, inquiry and suggestion, while children selectively observe, imitate, try and operate. The teacher-child relationship formed between teachers and children in the process of education, to some extent, represents the way of early childhood education, embodies the identity of teachers facing children, and reflects whether children's subjectivity is respected. A good relationship between teachers and children not only means a harmonious relationship between teachers and children, but also means that teachers and children share experiences, information, emotions and understanding. To establish a good relationship between teachers and children, teachers must establish a correct educational concept and adopt corresponding strategies from the process of communication or interaction with children. Teacher-child relationship is the most basic and important interpersonal relationship in kindergarten education. The relationship between teachers and children directly affects the development of children and the effect of education. Good teacher-child relationship is an important condition to ensure the smooth development of educational activities 1. Guiding Outline of Kindergarten Education (Trial) issued by the Ministry of Education.

How to establish a good relationship between teachers and children? The relationship between teachers and children is the most basic and important interpersonal relationship in the process of education. The equal relationship between teachers and students has a positive impact on the development of children's cognitive, emotional and psychological health. If the teacher-child relationship is tense, indifferent and indifferent, what about a good teacher-child relationship? I think we should try our best to do the following: first, eliminate children's vigilance with selfless love. From family to kindergarten, great changes have taken place in children's living environment and people they contact. Whether it can adapt to the new environment smoothly has an important influence on children's physical and mental health and growth. Kindergarten teachers are the first social anxiety, worry and panic that children come into contact with. Teachers should understand the child's performance. Teachers should show more love and patience to children, always treat children with a kind attitude and say friendly words to them. You can't ignore the crying of young children, let alone reprimand them loudly. For example, children who have just entered the park will cry for a long time if they don't adapt to collective life. At this time, the teacher should sit next to the child, wipe the tears for the child, even hold the child in his arms, play with the child and tell the child some interesting things. Slowly, children's vigilance against teachers is eliminated, and they will naturally integrate into the new collective life. Second, respect children and treat every child equally. Children have little life experience and knowledge, but they are independent individuals. They are equal in personality with teachers, and they have their own ideas. In previous educational activities, teachers were the main body of imparting knowledge, while children were self-sufficient. Emotion, enthusiasm and initiative are suppressed under the control of teachers, and the effect of educational activities is definitely not good. Facing every living individual, teachers should step down from the position of leader, squat down, communicate with children with a curious childlike innocence, observe children from their perspective and understand their thoughts. Only in this way can children regard the teacher as one of their own, and they are willing to tell the teacher what they really think, so as to establish a good relationship between teachers and students. Third, teachers should understand and tolerate children's mistakes. Children are active, curious and inquisitive. They are curious about everything. They always ask questions, touch here and there, and they will make mistakes if they are not careful. In the face of children who are always in trouble, teachers will even punish them if they criticize them too severely. Then children will become more and more afraid of teachers and alienate them; Or have a rebellious mentality, and then oppose the teacher. It can be seen that teachers' improper handling of children's mistakes will have a negative impact on the establishment of a good relationship between teachers and children. Therefore, teachers should treat children's mistakes with understanding and tolerance, and help children calmly analyze the causes of mistakes, so that children can accept teachers' criticism wholeheartedly. In short, a good teacher-child relationship is a bridge to communicate the feelings between teachers and students, an important condition to ensure the smooth development of educational activities, and a support system to promote children's all-round development. For the all-round development of children, all kindergarten teachers should strive to create a democratic, equal and harmonious learning environment for children.

On how to establish a good interaction between teachers and children, the Guide to Kindergarten Education points out: "Teachers should be supporters, collaborators and guides of children's learning activities. The relationship between teachers and children is an interactive relationship of equality, friendship, mutual learning, interaction and growth. " In the previous concept of teacher-student relationship: teachers are the designers and executors of educational programs; Is the transmitter of knowledge and skills; Is the caregiver of children's life; Is the director of Children's Action. Children are the objects of education and the recipients of knowledge and skills. (Remaining words 16 12)

How to establish a good teacher-child relationship How should kindergarten teachers establish a good teacher-child relationship 1. Kindergarten teachers should use pure and selfless love to help children adapt to changes in the environment and eliminate separation anxiety.

Loving children is an important prerequisite for teachers to carry out education. Without love for children, there is no real education. Love is a child's urgent psychological need. Establishing a good emotional relationship between teachers and students can make children have positive and happy emotions. For example, children in small classes have just entered the park, leaving their parents who live together day and night and entering a strange learning environment, which will inevitably lead to anxiety, worry and panic. Whether they can adapt to the new environment smoothly has an important influence on their healthy physical and mental growth. Teachers should understand this kind of performance of children, show more love and patience to children, always treat children with a cordial attitude and talk to them kindly. We should use selfless love to eliminate children's vigilance and let them naturally integrate into the new collective life. Do it: (1) greet every child with a smile every day, because the praise, encouragement and affirmation contained in the teacher's smile can definitely make the child happy all day. (2) Understand the situation of new children as soon as possible. Such as: children's names, hobbies, advantages and disadvantages, etc. If a child has just arrived in the garden, the teacher can call out his name, which will definitely bring the distance between the teacher and the child closer. (3) Know and keep childlike innocence. Only in this way can we understand children, communicate with them in time and gain their trust. Some crying children won't let their parents go, and when their parents leave, they only follow a teacher. This "chasing people" phenomenon shows that children will naturally transfer their attachment to their relatives at home to their teachers in the new environment, thus reflecting the urgent need for love. It can be seen that in the establishment of the relationship between teachers and children, the influence of emotion is great.

Second, teachers should respect children, treat every child sincerely and equally, and achieve children's self-confidence with love and recognition.

The "Outline" points out: "We should respect children's individual differences in development level, ability, experience and learning methods, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, and strive to make every child satisfied and successful." Children come from different families, with different personalities, conversations and performances. They are smart, stupid, naughty, boring, healthy or disabled. They are all eager to get close to their teachers and get their attention and love. When they get the teacher's attention and affirmation, they will love, trust and attach themselves to the teacher more, and they will form a good emotional interaction. There are no children with poor education, only poor education methods. Teachers should treat every child with the same love and respect, the only difference is the way of love and communication: for smart and fast-developing children, they should give affirmation and praise while putting forward higher requirements; For ordinary children, pay attention to increasing incentives to stimulate their enthusiasm and initiative in learning; For children with many "problems" and slow development, try to tap their bright spots, provide them with more opportunities to show their strengths, and enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Children are active, curious and inquisitive. They are curious about everything. They always ask questions, touch here and there, and they will make mistakes if they are not careful. Therefore, teachers should understand children's physiological and psychological characteristics and the laws of children's education, treat children's mistakes with understanding and tolerance, and calmly help children analyze the causes of mistakes. Teachers should make children feel psychologically safe and emotionally satisfied through care and consideration, thus laying the foundation for establishing a good relationship between teachers and children.

Third, teachers should be good at communicating with children, establish an equal relationship between teachers and students, and be children's "big friends".

In kindergarten, children need teachers who know how to love and guide, and teachers who know how to be childlike and keep childlike. Teachers and children are equal, and teachers should respect them while taking care of them. In the communication with children, teachers should step down from the position of leader, squat down, look into children's eyes, listen to them and touch their heads or small hands, which can not only give children visual equality, but also give them spiritual equality. Communicate with children with a curious childlike innocence, observe children from their perspective, understand their thoughts and play with them. Only in this way can children regard the teacher as one of their own and be willing to tell the teacher what they really think, so that it is easy to close the distance between you and your child and establish a good relationship between teachers and children. For example, children should say "please" and "thank you" when doing something, and bend down to say "sorry" when doing something wrong, because teachers' words and deeds are imitated all the time. For young children, actions are easier to understand than words, and the communication methods of nonverbal information such as facial expressions, postures and body movements are more important. Teachers can convey their love, care, support and encouragement to children through nonverbal means such as eyes, smiles and intonation. Because teachers smile, nod, touch, cuddle, squat down to communicate with children, look at children's eyes and listen to their attitudes, etc., it is far easier than language to express teachers' respect, care, love and affirmation for children. For a child who knows that he has done something wrong and is full of fear, it is far more reassuring for the child to hug him affectionately and touch his head than to say "I forgive you" and let the child know that "the teacher forgave me". Look at them more, whisper to them, listen carefully to children's joys and sorrows, give them appropriate advice and help, and play games with children ... The best way is to get along with children with childlike innocence, understand the world with childlike innocence, walk into their lives, mingle with them and play together. Teachers often nod, touch the child's head, pat the child on the shoulder, give a thumbs-up, hold the child's hand and other actions, as well as some gestures and code words made by teachers and children collectively or privately, all of which can convey specific information to each other. These are the most convenient and effective ways to establish a good relationship between teachers and students.

In short, the relationship between teachers and children is an important factor in the existence and development of early childhood education. A good teacher-child relationship makes children feel the teacher's attention and respect, and have a full sense of acceptance, so as to obtain a safe and happy emotional experience, which is conducive to the formation of children's healthy personality. To establish a good relationship between teachers and children, love is the core, respect is the foundation and equality is the key. Only by treating children with sincerity, love, care, patience and perseverance, and with the cooperation of teachers, parents and children, can we truly establish a good relationship between teachers and children and set up a spiritual rainbow between teachers and children.