In a mid-range residential area in Beijing, the children of three families have entered the preparation period for the college entrance examination. The TV series tells what happened to these three families in the third year of their children's senior high school.
? This drama is true and delicate, which pokes the educational status of many families. Many netizens can find the shadow of their home in this drama. Among them, what impressed me the most was Joe, the mother and daughter.
? Song Qian is a single mother. She regards her daughter Joe Ruth as everything to her. After the divorce, Song Qian did not hesitate to quit her stable job and took care of her daughter's life and study wholeheartedly. She looks forward to her daughter and thinks that Joe's wish must be Tsinghua Peking University. In order to get her into a famous school, she cooks and cooks soup in the morning to make up for her health. Going to the movies with my daughter and talking about the plot of the movie are also related to physical knowledge. At the swearing-in meeting of the college entrance examination, Joe wrote (China National Space Administration) on the wishing balloon, but threw cold water on it and forced her to revise it. What is even more chilling is that she also made a soundproof room at home. Under the transparent glass, her daughter's every move is under her control.
? Song Qian takes care of everything for her daughter, but this love full of strong control is suffocating. So there is a story that Eiko will report to Nantah even if she cheated her mother. Children want to report to Nantah, not only to realize their dreams, but also to leave their mothers. Song Qian's love and arrangement became Eiko's biggest trouble and burden.
? Children have obviously reached the stage of independence, but parents are unwilling to let go of anything and do nothing, which is also the reason why many contradictions in parent-child relationship come from this. On the road of children's growth, parents should know how to let go in time, which is an important lesson.
? Yin Jianli wrote in his book that the most beautiful education is the simplest.
The primary task of parents is to be close to their children and care about their growth; The second task is to separate from children and promote their independence. If the order is reversed, you are doing something unnatural, which not only makes the child childless in childhood, but also suffocates the child's adult life. The deepest fate in life, only in this drifting away, tends to be true. Excessive control and carelessness will only backfire and hurt each other.
? In the latest episode of "Little Joy", Qiao Yingzi kept her mother in the dark and begged her father Qiao Weidong to sign the application form for the Nantah Winter Camp and was admitted. When Song Qian learned about it, Song Qian collapsed. They had a big fight and their emotions broke out in the confrontation.
? Parents around their children are also prone to lose themselves and feel sorry for themselves. Only by understanding the boundary between care and control and withdrawing from children's life properly can we have a comfortable parent-child relationship and grow up with children better.
How many parents still treat their children as property, meddle in material matters and strictly imprison them mentally. How many times have they learned from their children and made life decisions instead of them?
Parents' companionship with their children is limited after all. One day, children have to go alone and face the world alone. Learning to let go in time is the deepest love of parents for their children. This is actually conveying trust and encouragement to the child, believing that he can constantly surpass himself.
? Intensive reading jun also mentioned in the dictionary entry "106: Rosenthal effect" that in an environment full of trust and appreciation, people are easily inspired and encouraged, have good self-awareness, and their enthusiasm for action is getting higher and higher, and finally make better achievements. If you deliberately control your child's growth, the result will get worse and worse.
? Sylvia, a psychologist, said that all love in this world aims at aggregation, and only one kind of love points to separation, that is, parents' love for their children.
In the final analysis, parents can't accompany their children through life, and knowing how to let go is the greatest fulfillment for their children and themselves. May all parents in the world learn to let go at the right time, release true love and let their children grow up healthily in a relaxed and loving environment.
? Finally, attach a poem, "To Children" by Ji Bolun.
Your children,
In fact, they are not your children, they are children born of life's desire for themselves;
They are by your side, but they don't belong to you;
You can give them your love,
Not your thoughts, because they have their own thoughts;
You can shelter their bodies,
Not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow that you can't reach in your dreams;
You can do your best,
Become like them, not like you,
Because life will not go backwards, let alone stay in the past.
You are a bow,
The child is your arrow,
Archers look at the target on the way to the future,
He tried his best to pull you away and let the arrow shoot fast and far;
With a happy mood, bend over in the hands of archers!
Because he loves the arrow that flies all the way, and he loves the bow that is extremely calm.