Parents are not rights. Respect is one person's equal right to another person, and there is no unfairness for any reason. So when we decide to respect our children, we should know that in front of them, we are not arbitrators, but guides. Parents are not threatening their children's position and have no right to force them.
Step down from the leading role. Why do you say that? Many people, after becoming parents, will have many regrets and want to make up for them from their children. A lot of people are saying that if mom didn't do it before, you must do it. Dad didn't pass the exam before. You have to pass it. In fact, our unfinished business is over. Now in children's lives, the protagonists are all children. Don't burden them, and don't hope to finish what we haven't finished.
Be a listener. From babbling, to reading word by word, to chatting with us about his heart, it seems to pass quickly. When the baby grows up and has his own opinions and opinions, parents should also know that they should learn to listen to the baby's wishes and let the baby speak, dare to speak and be willing to speak. In this way, the relationship between parents and children is a relationship of respect and mutual trust, and then there is little rebellion of children. Because they will think that you are willing to listen to his reasons and explanations.
Let the children see farther. When we have conflicts with our children, the first thing to do is to help them correct their cognition. Of course, if the children are wrong. Because there are contradictions, it is inevitable that there will be differences in the perspective of seeing problems and the criteria for judging. Then children's judgment and vision are limited. We can help children to recognize and help them see further. Instead of directly denying their views, for example, when children are young, they can't see the bustling street view blocked by the crowd, and the father will give up his shoulders to let the children sit, so they will see farther. This is the meaning of parents.
Only analysis does not decide. When children encounter difficult decisions, they sometimes ask their parents for help. At this time, if you are tough, forcing them to do so may be counterproductive. It is better to tell him how to look at things, how to analyze advantages and disadvantages, and help them clear their minds and open their eyes. After the analysis is clear, the child will naturally have ideas.
Be guided, not forced. Parents can tell their children what to do better and what not to do. What will he lose when he gets what he wants? Let children have a space to think for themselves, not a child who only listens to his parents or is only led away.
Allow children to make mistakes. For a child who can't make mistakes, it won't succeed. In the face of children's mistakes, the first thing is to make them realize that they are wrong, instead of telling them that they are wrong, and let them know that the matter itself is wrong, instead of reluctantly admitting mistakes because their parents are unhappy. There is nothing terrible about making mistakes. Let the child have his own way to correct it, and then guide and encourage him to complete it. And tell him to remember this mistake and not to make it again next time.
Keep your child's preferences. There are many people who want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. They are not allowed to play and study their hobbies. They must race against time to learn something useful for the future, or something good for the future college entrance examination. Such a child's childhood is not perfect. He lost an irreparable childhood and grew up to be an irreparable defect. This is the failure of parents, so we must understand that children can study hard and have hobbies. This is a completely satisfactory way, as long as parents have correct guidance and time planning.
Parents argue with their children. When children insist on one thing, it is suggested that parents and children sit down and argue on an equal footing, give children time and opportunities to defend themselves, and then let parents throw off their airs and tell their reasons and opinions with their children. I believe that at this time, your hearts must be close, because he will think you are friends.
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There is severity and warmth. Parents should have strict advice when their children are biased and know how to heal when their children are sad. They are the dependence of children and the partners who accompany them to grow up. They are as educated as teachers and equal as their partners. Parents still need to learn the size together.
Excerpt from Baidu experience