Three years ago, it was also winter. A thin woman came to my door.
Her hair is unkempt and her face is sallow. She was wearing a tattered cotton-padded jacket, a pair of faded grey trousers and a white cloth pocket in her hand. She gently pushed open the door left unlocked in my house and put her head in. i stand in front of the window.
"Madam, I'm not a beggar. I just want to eat some rice. My child is hungry and crying! " Before I could answer, she introduced herself: "I graduated from college, too." Well, look. " She shook her hand and took out her ID card from her underwear pocket. "It's all written on it. This is my previous photo! " "
Out of curiosity, I took her ID card. This is a picture of a rich middle-aged woman: bright and exquisite curly hair, neatly tied on her head, light eyebrows bent over her satisfied eyes, and an iris button on her skirt.
I looked at the photos carefully, and she continued alone: "My husband is in prison, and I have four children alone. I have been hungry for a whole day." I wash people's clothes, pay for the room and drink porridge! The children were so hungry that they hugged me and cried, so I had the cheek to come out and ask for some rice. I just want rice, not money. I am not a beggar. I eat with one pair of hands! Ma' am Alas! I'm sorry, I can't talk. I've been there several times, but I can't tell. I quit again! How did I get here today! "She lifted her skirt and dried her tears.
I filled her pocket with a bag of rice. She shook her chapped lips and said, "How dare you? You gave me so much! This how not bashful! Thank you, madam. I don't know what to say. I-I want to cry! " She left with a bag of rice on her back in tears.
Today, three years later, I saw that woman again. She stood in front of a house in the corner, and I passed by. She's getting drier and smaller! Squatting down, leaning against the door frame, his face is no longer as shy as it was three years ago, grinning darkly, and shouting in a skilled pleading voice: "Madam, do a good deed and enjoy it!" Madam, do a good deed and reward a little! There was a tinkling sound inside the door, the sound of metal falling to the ground, and then a cry: "Take a dime! Go, go, who told you to come in? You're a woman. You used to make money by washing clothes yourself, but now you don't even wash clothes. Still convenient! "
The woman smiled: "give me some more, madam, a dime is not enough to buy a biscuit!" " ""Hey, how can a beggar bargain? Go, go, what's it like to complain here? " The woman's mouth widened: "Give me a little more and leave, lest I get your place dirty. Give me more! " "
The door was kicked open with a bang. The woman turned around, sneered and gave me a cold look. She didn't recognize me!
Personal dignity
Author: Yu
Kindness and love are easily misunderstood as indispensable software, and they lose their personal dignity. On the other hand, personal dignity can easily be misunderstood as extremely sensitive, awe-inspiring and inviolable.
These two misunderstandings have caused the world to be congested by two categories: "swearing people" and "thorny balls". One side can't be abolished, and the other side can't be close. It's terrible. Is it good to have no personality? Love without dignity is not love. Any low-level metamorphosis of kindness and love is a self-destructive form of kindness and love. Let good voice and love be visible and tangible; Let kindness have dignity and love have respect. Let kindness and love no longer be a kind of hope, a kind of chanting, but radiate from a person with backbone and physique. Therefore, they are mutually causal with personal dignity. You have broad shoulders to lean on, firm eyes to trust, and the world is at ease because of you.
My friend died during my long journey. He found a lot of people for something not too big. Most of the people he is looking for are important people. For them, it's just a piece of cake to solve that matter, and it's obviously unfair.
However, no one wants to "raise their hands" because they are worried that there may be a little uncertainty behind that not too big thing. Their friendship and commitment with my friends have long been confirmed, but they have disappeared for the uncertainty that has not yet appeared.
Right and wrong, also all return to zero.
Their indifference and refusal deprived my friend of his personal dignity. If you do this to defend your personal dignity, that's fine, but it's not. They don't care much about the personal dignity of themselves and others from beginning to end. They gently warned my friend: "This is a principle of China officialdom today. You have been outside for a long time and don't understand. "
The friend understood that he vomited blood and died. Of course, not only because of this, but also because of his poor health.
This is a very classic story. There are always some noble people who associate the truth of life with personal dignity.
Some people say that things are too small to risk their lives. But they don't understand that the size of things can't just look at the surface plot. An old man in Shanghai was abused by the conductor for no reason, and he was furious on the spot. This is the same reason. My other friend is still alive. His name is Zhou Tao.
He wrote that it was so cold in the north that people had to hide in the cellar for months. Fortunately, there is a bird on the glass window above the cellar, which teases people through the window every day. People can't live without that trustworthy bird for a day.
When spring comes, the first thing people do when they remove the glass window is to hold the bird in their hands. When the palm of your hand slowly opened, they found that the bird was dead-it was so angry! Personal dignity is the strongest and most fragile: strong is weak and weak is strong.
For excellent people, if this paradox is too sad, then use numbness instead of fragility. We will not show vulnerability to evil forces that violate human dignity.
Of course, you can also show contempt and anger when necessary.
Bow your head and hold your head high.
Franklin was called "the father of America". When talking about the road to success, he said that it all started with a visit. When he was young, an old-timer invited him to meet him in a low hut. Franklin is here. He puffed out his chest and walked with great strides. As soon as he entered the door, his forehead slammed into the door frame and suddenly swelled up, which made him laugh and cry. Seeing him like this, the old-timer smiled and said, "Does it hurt? Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? This is your biggest gain today. If a person wants to gain insight into the world and cultivate human feelings, he must always remember to bow his head. "
Franklin thought this visit was an enlightenment. He firmly remembered the teachings of his predecessors and made modesty his life rule.
To succeed, we must first learn to bow our heads. This is like a high-priced song, which tends to be low-key at first. Bowing your head is not only a correct understanding of yourself, but also a respect for others. Always hold your head high, in fact, is to raise yourself and look down on others. If you look down on others, why should others look up to you? Therefore, no matter how excellent and famous you are, no one wants to cooperate with you.
Of course, bowing your head does not mean treating yourself as a person. Bowing your head should not be running water, but getting lower and lower. The lower you sing a tune, the less you can sing. Some people interpret bowing as submission to Nuo Nuo, enduring everything, obedience and humility, which is incorrect. There is such a story: a company recruits employees and there is a long queue outside the door. Applicants went in one by one to take the exam. Every time a person goes in, the examiner can't help but say, volley a slap in the face. The examiner asked, "What's this smell?" Those who came out with their faces covered lost the election. They bowed their heads. Later, a young man went in and the examiner slapped him in the face. The examiner asked, "What's this smell?" After a pause, the young man slapped the examiner with the same speed and strength and said, "That's the smell." Surprisingly, the young man was hired.
Franklin succeeded with his head down, but the young man was hired with his head held high. Is this a contradiction?
No, in fact, the real rule of dealing with people is to put yourself in a suitable position: when putting yourself in a position, be Franklin; And when we place our hearts, we must be that young man. In other words, we should bow our heads and be human.
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