Etiquette is a pearl in the treasure house of traditional virtues in China and the essence of ancient culture in China. Being in the state of etiquette should be the people of etiquette. Knowing books and being polite to people should be the basic qualities of contemporary college students. However, there are still many impolite, impolite and uncivilized behaviors in the university campus, and there are many phenomena that are extremely disharmonious with college students' etiquette cultivation and spiritual civilization construction. It can be seen that the social etiquette education of college students has special significance across the times and centuries. Because social etiquette education is not only the need of quality education, but also the strong requirement of social civilization and progress.
1, social etiquette education is conducive to college students to establish good interpersonal relationships with others, form a harmonious psychological atmosphere, and promote college students' physical and mental health.
The communication activities of any society are inseparable from etiquette. The more human beings progress and social life becomes more socialized, the more people need etiquette to adjust social life. Etiquette is the premise of interpersonal communication and the key to communicative life.
With the growth of age and the change of living environment, the self-awareness of contemporary college students has made new progress, and they are very eager to get real friendship and have more emotional exchanges. College students are generally far away from their parents in their hometown, live a collective life, and are on an equal footing with other students, losing their previous dependence on their parents' "blood relationship" and "unconditional". Therefore, it is necessary for college students to get friendship through interpersonal activities, adapt to the new living environment, develop from a "dependent" person to an "independent" person, and successfully enter the society. In fact, during college, whether you can establish good interpersonal relationships with others has a very important impact on a person's growth and study.
Longing for friendship and emotional communication is an important psychological feature of college students. But there are also many college students who show the tendency of "self-isolation" to varying degrees. There are often emotional experiences of "loneliness" and "no friends". There are many reasons for this. There are two common reasons. On the one hand, I didn't really understand what friendship is, and I didn't really get out of the interpersonal communication mode of "dependence on others" and "inequality" formed in the early interpersonal communication process. In the process of interpersonal communication, I show the tendency of "attaching to others", "using others", "taking the individual as the center" and "seeking perfection and blame", which deviates from the fundamental principles of friendship "selflessness, equality and respect". On the other hand, they lack social skills, are not good at expressing their feelings and ideas, are not good at understanding others' feelings and ideas, and lack the same hobbies, which leads to frustration or narrow communication scope. The result of long-term development is loneliness, lack of friends, and some psychological obstacles, which are not conducive to the healthy development of psychology. Let college students learn the basic norms and knowledge of social etiquette, help students master communication skills, accumulate communication experience, learn to follow the principles of mutual respect, honesty and sincerity, and moderate words and deeds in communication, so that they can quickly approach the communication object and feel your familiarity, understanding and respect for them.
Practice shows that good interpersonal communication helps to improve college students' self-confidence and self-esteem, reduce frustration, relieve inner conflicts and anguish, vent anger, depression and pain, and reduce loneliness, loneliness, emptiness and praise. These are very beneficial to the physical and mental health of college students, and will also enable college students to avoid the generation of bad emotions to the maximum extent. If they have bad emotions, they can effectively persuade them to leave.
At the same time, social etiquette itself is a special language. If college students learn and master the basic knowledge and norms of social etiquette, they can successfully open the door to various communication activities and establish harmonious interpersonal relationships with them. In this way, it is not only the main way to form a good social and psychological atmosphere, but also has an extremely important psychological health care function for college students.
2. Social etiquette education is conducive to promoting the socialization of college students and improving their social psychological endurance.
People need to learn a lot in the process of socialization, and social etiquette education is an indispensable and important content in the process of socialization. Because etiquette is a compulsory course in the whole life journey. Anyone who lives in a certain etiquette, customs and normative environment is consciously or unconsciously bound by etiquette. People who consciously accept social etiquette constraints are recognized as "mature people" who meet social requirements. On the other hand, if a person can't abide by the etiquette requirements in social life, he will be regarded as a "heresy" by people in society and will be rejected by people, and society will restrain him by means of morality and public opinion.
College students can be called "quasi-social people", but they are not real social people. They have a strong need to go to society, but at the same time there are some psychological puzzles, such as how to get along with leaders and colleagues, how to establish good interpersonal relationships, how to design self-image, how to adapt to social life as soon as possible and other social communication problems. However, the social psychological endurance of college students directly affects the quality of communication activities. A person with good psychological endurance can always maintain a calm and stable psychological state when encountering various situations and difficulties in communication activities, and quickly take the most reasonable behavior according to the information he has, so as to avoid danger and strive for initiative. On the contrary, some people who lack good psychological endurance often have panic, fear, anxiety and fidgeting before participating in major communication activities, and some even have rapid heartbeat, trembling limbs and abnormal tone after the communication activities begin. Then, educating college students on social etiquette so that they can master all kinds of behavioral norms that meet the social requirements can not only meet the needs of college students going to society, but also promote their socialization better; But also can cultivate college students' ability to adapt to social life and improve their social psychological endurance.
3. Social etiquette education is conducive to ideological and moral education for college students and improve their ideological and moral quality.
At present, there is a phenomenon in many colleges and universities: students have learned high-level moral norms, but they often fail to reach the basic moral level in practice. This is inseparable from the lack of social etiquette education. Because etiquette is a social norm and a code of conduct to adjust the relationship between social members in social life. Social norms mainly include legal norms and non-legal norms. Etiquette is a non-legal norm, which mainly includes moral norms, religious norms, customs and habits, and * * * life norms. Among them, ethics has a special position and function, because it is a conscious social ideology summarized and refined from social life, and it is maintained by social public opinion, traditional habits and personal inner beliefs. Social etiquette reflects the most common moral relationship in people's life and interaction, and is an important factor to ensure the smooth progress of communication activities and the normal order of social life. Social etiquette is a practical and practical subject. Systematic etiquette education for college students can enrich their etiquette knowledge, let them clearly grasp the etiquette norms that meet the requirements of socialist morality, and guide them how to restrain their behavior according to social etiquette norms in real life, so as to truly achieve "being sincere in China, being explicit in behavior, and being wise in words", organically unify their internal moral quality and external etiquette forms, and become a truly modern civilized person with high moral quality.
4. Social etiquette education is conducive to educating college students on humanistic knowledge and improving their humanistic quality.
Cultural quality education mainly refers to shaping and cultivating the inner character and accomplishment of college students through humanistic education, that is, shaping the noble spiritual realm and high-grade cultural realm of college students. Humanistic education has obvious enlightenment function. It affects people's emotional state, affects and changes people's values, outlook on life, personality and so on. The ultimate goal is to learn how to get along with others and learn to be a civilized person. It is generally believed that humanistic quality education permeates literature, art, history and culture, philosophy, ethics and other disciplines. Social etiquette education covers the cultural education and moral education of all ethnic groups in China. It can be seen that social etiquette education can directly teach college students how to get along with others and how to be civilized people. Therefore, the course of "social etiquette" should be fully integrated into the curriculum of humanistic quality education in colleges and universities. As a compulsory course for college students, popularization in colleges and universities will help to implement humanistic quality education for college students.
5. Social morality is conducive to strengthening the civilized behavior of college students, improving the quality of civilization and promoting the construction of socialist spiritual civilization.
Social etiquette education is the most basic content in the socialist spiritual civilization education system. Because politeness is the actual embodiment of human spiritual civilization. Popularizing and applying etiquette knowledge is the need to strengthen the construction of socialist spiritual civilization. Through social etiquette education, college students can clearly know that their speech, manners, appearance and clothes can reflect a person's ideological cultivation, civilization and mental outlook. However, everyone's civilization is not only related to their own image, but also affects the spiritual outlook of the whole school and even the spiritual civilization of the whole society. Through social etiquette education, we can further improve college students' etiquette literacy, cultivate their practical ability to deal with rewards, develop good etiquette habits and have basic civilization education. Let the flowers of civilization bloom everywhere in our campus. If everyone speaks etiquette, our society will be full of harmony and warmth. It can be seen that the fundamental goal of social etiquette is to educate and guide all citizens to consciously abide by the socialist polite and moral norms and corresponding social etiquette forms, improve people's awareness of civilization, develop people's habits of civilized behavior, promote the formation of good social customs, achieve a high degree of harmony and order among people and between people and society, and strive to improve the spiritual civilization level of the whole society.