Everyone grows up differently. However, it is equally important to create a world of your own by relying on your own strength.

As far as I know, our children's self-reliance ability has improved, but compared with other countries, the gap is not small. In the United States, children's monthly expenses are limited, and even very wealthy families will not let their children spend money indiscriminately. If they exceed this limit, they will be recorded by their parents and deducted from their future expenses. If the child is in the shopping mall and wants a toy very much, his parents think that he should not buy it, even if the child sits on the ground and cries, it will not help. Later, his parents will tell him that he can buy that thing by himself when he grows up. Someone wants to say, isn't this indifference? Is it too stingy to treat children? Actually, it's not. Imagine that if children's expenses are not restricted, they will think that their parents' money is inexhaustible and they will develop luxury habits over time; If a child cries, his parents will agree to all his requirements. After that, he will go to the society and cry. Who will sympathize with him and agree to his requirements? But China's parents wouldn't have thought of that. This is the gap between us and other countries in dealing with children's self-reliance.

In the process of growing up, we need to stand on our own feet, or we will lose out one day. I remember a famous saying, "It's better to fall by yourself than by others. We should be self-reliant and self-reliant. "

The phenomenon that two trees are long on the mountain and under the mountain also proves this truth. Why do small trees grow on the mountain and big trees grow under the mountain? In fact, they are originally the same tree species and planted at the same time, but the environment is different. Because the trees that grow on the mountain think that they are taller than others from the beginning, they no longer grow on their own, and they are too lazy to absorb sunlight and rain. On the contrary, the tree growing at the foot of the mountain thinks that it can grow tall and strong only by constantly absorbing sunlight and rain.

Therefore, if you want to grow up, you need to be self-reliant.