Actually, the event should be a small probability event. The most frightening thing is that in reality, many of us have cockroaches in our eyes. As a result, cockroaches are everywhere in our field of vision.
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An American research institute conducted a famous experiment. They declared to the volunteers that the purpose of the experiment was to observe how people would react to strangers with physical defects, especially strangers with facial scars. Each volunteer was arranged in a small room without a mirror, and a professional makeup artist drew a bloody and scary scar on his right face. Volunteers were allowed to check the effect of their makeup with a small mirror, and then the mirror was taken away. After a while, the makeup artist said that a layer of coagulant should be coated on the scar surface to prevent the scar from being accidentally wiped off. In fact, the makeup artist is secretly wiping off the marks just painted on his face with a paper towel. However, the volunteers were completely kept in the dark about all this. Then, send it to the waiting room of the hospital in a unified way. Their task is to observe people's reaction to their facial scars. After staying in the hospital for several hours, the experimenters interviewed the returning volunteers one by one and asked them what they met in the hospital. As a result, without exception, everyone complained that "people look at them more strangely and coldly than before, always staring at their faces!" Of course, we know that their faces haven't changed at all, so the problem is coming! Why on earth do they feel discriminated against? Because they all have a cockroach in their eyes-a virtual scar.
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But everyone remembers that Sister Xianglin told people her tragic story repeatedly: "I'm so stupid, really," she said. "I only know that in snowy days, wild animals have no food in the mountains and will come to the village; I didn't know there would be spring. I opened the door early in the morning, took a small basket, filled it with beans, and told our hair to sit on the threshold and peel the beans. He is a very obedient child, listening to everything I say; He's out. I'm chopping wood and washing rice at the back of the house, and the rice is out of the pot. I'm going to steam beans. My name is Mao!' No response. I went out to have a look and saw beans scattered all over the floor, without our hair. I asked everywhere, but there was nothing. I am in a hurry. I'm going to look for it. Until the second half of the day, several people went to the ravine and saw one of his little shoes hanging on the thorn wood. Everyone said, it's over, I'm afraid I was attacked by a wolf; Go in again; Sure enough, he was lying in the grass nest, and all his insides were eaten up. Poor him, still clutching that little basket in his hand. "Mr. Lu Xun said that she may not know that her sorrow has been chewed and appreciated by everyone for many days, and it has already become scum, which is only worth being bored and spurned. But why does she still love to talk? Because all she sees is Amao, she thinks the whole world is Amao.
I have a female colleague who only has a son in her heart. No matter what topic she talks about, she will bring it to her precious son. The example in the class also revolves around her son: speaking of production safety, she said that her son fell in the shower yesterday; Talking about employees' salary, she said, how much does her son spend a month? Speaking of enterprise training, she said that her son can read the three-character classics, and so on. The student joked that after a semester, she learned nothing, but witnessed her son's growth. In fact, to put it bluntly, she still has a "cockroach" in her eyes-her precious son.
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A magazine organized a meeting of all editors to discuss the topics of articles, and asked them to list the topics that they thought were the most important and most interesting to readers. Results Editor A was taking part in academic education and studying for a master's degree. He chose how to write his graduation thesis. Editor B's daughter is in kindergarten, and the topic is "Analysis of Preschool Children's Education"; Editor C is a football fan, and his topic is "Where is the Way Out for Football in China"; Editor D is a fruit fan, and his topic is "The Secret of the Hidden Function of IPHONE8".
There is a story that a lamb invited a puppy to dinner, and he prepared a table of fresh grass. As a result, the puppy barely ate two bites and couldn't eat any more. A few days later, the puppy invited the lamb to dinner. The dog thought, I can't be as stingy as a lamb. I must treat it with the most splendid banquet. So the dog prepared a table of good ribs, and the lamb couldn't eat a bite.
A girl told me the other day that she was very wronged. Relatives who came to visit during the Spring Festival this year asked her how she had talked with the last boy, and there was no more. She had to say awkwardly that her personality was inappropriate, and then turned around and went back to her room. The moment I closed the door, I heard the comments of my relatives. "This girl is not young, and I can't be too picky." She said, actually, I was very picky there. Dating countless times, I have never found the right man. My relatives all say that I have a high eye, and what I want is someone I can get along with.
In fact, psychology has already studied this kind of behavior, and named it "projection effect", that is, a person reflects the values and emotional likes and dislikes in his inner life to people, things and things outside. Many people think that they have certain characteristics, and others will certainly have the same characteristics as themselves, projecting their feelings, will and characteristics on others and imposing them on others.
The projection effect reminds us to reflect on ourselves at all times, whether we forget to understand the feelings of others because of selfishness, whether we make preconceived decisions for others because of negligence, and whether we judge others with self-centeredness as a matter of course. The projection effect also reminds us that we should be good at empathy, jump out of our own small circle, look at other people's words and deeds from the standpoint of others, and understand and appreciate others more.
In short, it is the greatest respect for others not to judge others by yourself and not to tell others what to do.