Case description: One day in my spare time, suddenly Ethan came crying and said, Teacher, Jiajia pinched my hand! He also robbed my little chair! Out of sensitivity to safety, I quickly put down my work and observed the injury of Ethan's left back. Sure enough, red nail bruises have appeared on the back of the hand. My eyes immediately began to look for Jia Jia. At this time, Jia Jia pressed his chair with his hand, like a bully. Seeing my eyes staring at him, Jia Jia consciously came up to me, took Ethan's little hand and blew it, saying, I blew it for her, teacher. That nervous look makes me angry and funny. I quickly took Jia Jia's hand and said that even if you helped her blow it, you did something wrong. You see, you pinched Ethan's hand, and you two are still good friends! Apologize to your good friend quickly. Jia Jiahong turned around and said sorry to Li Yuan. Look at Ethan's hand, it's not a big problem, so I'll let them sit back in their seats! I'm busy with work again. I thought it was over, but when all the children moved their chairs back to their seats, they scrambled for a small chair. Li Yuan, stop it! Which chair is different! Seeing this, I quickly shouted. But Li Yuan didn't mean to let go. Instead, she cried even harder. No way, I began to say hello to Jia again. Come here, the teacher will give you a new chair! Come here quickly! After listening to my words, Jia Jia came to me reluctantly. At this time, his eyes began to blush and his expression began to be unnatural. Jiajia, aren't you a man? What is this? I took his little hand and encouraged his teacher to believe that you are the best! Can we buy a new chair? I held Jiajia in my arms, trying to encourage this broken heart! Chuanchuan listened to my words, raised a small chair with red eyes and returned to his seat.

At this time, I am glad that I didn't lose my temper, and I also observed the emotional changes of my children, which comforted and encouraged Jiajia very well, and I also handled my feelings quite satisfactorily. But when I left the garden, when I talked to Jiajia's mother about it, Jiajia inadvertently revealed a word that made my heart tremble. Today, I am a little angry. Why are you angry? Mom asked. Jia Jia knelt behind her mother shyly and whispered, I don't want to give my chair to Ethan. Isn't Jia Jia a man? You should let the little girl go, right? Besides, the teacher criticizes you and loves you, so how can you pinch the child? .

Education reflection: after listening to Jia Jia and her mother, on the one hand, I am very grateful to my parents and friends for their understanding and positive education! On the other hand, I also began to fall into deep self-reflection! Why should I take pains to mediate and comfort Jia Jia's heart? Why is Jiajia unwilling to accept the teacher's handling result when she leaves the garden? How should teachers intervene in conflicts between children? How to intervene to take care of every child's emotions fairly and equally? How can we protect every young mind from harm? Slowly, in the process of dealing with conflicts, I realized the problems existing in my educational concept, educational role orientation and educational behavior! After careful reflection, I think teachers can try from the following aspects when dealing with contradictions between children:

First of all, an equal and harmonious relationship between teachers and students is the foundation.

First of all, teachers should change their roles. The outline once pointed out that teachers should be supporters, collaborators and guides of children's learning and activities. While learning the concept of the new syllabus, teachers should be clear about their role orientation. When faced with conflicts between children, teachers can no longer appear as high-ranking judges and objectively judge the right and wrong of children, but should appear as instructors and encouragers to help children solve conflicts independently. Secondly, teachers should try to squat down and make friends with children. In fact, squatting is not only a simple physical action, but more importantly, we should also squat while squatting, change the condescending state in the past, maintain an equal, natural and harmonious relationship with young children, and form a new teacher-student relationship of companions and friends, so that young children can feel that teachers are playing with themselves and growing up together, rather than being high-ranking restrainers and managers. Finally, teachers should manage the good teacher-student relationship that has been established with children. The establishment of an equal and harmonious relationship between teachers and students cannot be achieved overnight. Teachers need to work together with children in all aspects of education, teaching and daily life. Once established, teachers need to work together with children to make them have a positive impact on their long-term development.

Second, encouraging children to solve problems independently is a means.

When there is a conflict between children, teachers should not give them a judgment result from the standpoint of adults, but should stand on the standpoint of fairness and justice, fully understand the whole process of things, and encourage them to resolve conflicts independently. For example, when Jia Jia and Li Yuan fought for chairs for the second time, teachers should not subjectively judge the ownership of chairs from the perspective of sympathy for the weak (crying) and solve the consequences of conflicts for children. But to help them sort out what happened, guide them to find ways to solve the conflict and consequences of two people grabbing chairs, and let them think about what to do now. What is the right thing to do? . Only by letting them try to solve it themselves can they accept the consequences of the conflict easily and happily. So what aspects should teachers guide and encourage children to solve conflicts independently?

First of all, we should guide children to learn how to communicate with others. Children who often have conflicts with others in their lives are generally strong and stubborn. They often quarrel with their companions over trifles. The reason is that they don't associate with people and don't know how to be modest in the process of getting along with people. Facing children with similar problems, as teachers, we have the responsibility to teach them how to do it. What is the right thing to do? How to make friends around you like it? Give children a correct behavior guidance and let them learn to get along with others. Secondly, we should improve children's ability to solve problems. Although children are young, they also have their own views and ideas to solve problems. When there is a contradiction between children, the teacher should guide the children to clarify the facts and let them find their own solutions. Teachers had better not interfere or judge too much, but give some encouragement and guidance. This can not only improve children's ability to analyze and solve problems, but also help children resolve their unhappiness in the process of solving contradictions. Third, improve the harmonious relationship between children and peers. Contradictions between children are often caused by trivial matters, and will not become cold-blooded enemies because of temporary contradictions. However, after the conflict, teachers should guide children to treat their behaviors correctly, apologize to their good friends who have had conflicts, and hug or shake hands in a friendly way, so as to enhance emotional communication between peers and promote the establishment of harmonious relations.

Third, it is the purpose to guide education in time.

After all, there are only a few children with contradictions. How to reduce unnecessary conflicts between children and make them live in harmony is the purpose of our education. So what should we do in our daily work? On the one hand, teachers can discuss, communicate and educate other children on the basis of reasonably solving the conflicts between children, on the other hand, they should teach children the correct ways and means of getting along with others through various forms, so that children can gain lifelong educational influence. For example, when a child quarrels over a chair, first of all, after correctly handling the conflict, the teacher can describe the real situation of the conflict in the form of stories or situational performances (it is best not to say the child's real name, so as not to hurt the child's self-esteem), and guide the child to discuss whether he has done it right or not. What's the matter? Why? If you were them, what would you do? Let children know what kind of behavior is right in the process of discussion and communication. What kind of behavior is unpopular with everyone? Let children get positive educational information.