We also have separation anxiety.
Calm down and think about it. Actually, it's not just children who have anxiety. We also have: for a while, we are worried that our children are ill, and for a while, we are worried that the admission materials are not ready. From morning till night, the whole person is manic in Mao Mao. When something goes wrong, it explodes, and they lose interest in what they like! This is the performance of separation anxiety, which is highly contagious and will aggravate children's anxiety. Therefore, before you want your child to get rid of anxiety, you must first adjust your state!
Letter of recommendation-The funniest "Big Day of Fiona Piglet"
Today is school day, Fiona has changed! However, instead of becoming anxious, she became extremely excited. What about her parents? But he became very sad, unable to eat or sleep, and suffered from serious anxiety about entering the park. After reading this book, everyone who is also facing the anxiety of entering the park must have a loud voice-isn't this the true portrayal of my heart! Finally, after seeing Fiona spend her first day safely, her parents' anxiety was calmed down.
In fact, parents' love for their children will always be "separated" love. As Kazuo Kawa, a Japanese psychologist, said, "We'd better allow children to pester themselves as much as possible and allow them to leave at any time." Therefore, in order to prevent anxiety from getting hotter, the difference before entering the park should be simple and firm. Going back will make the baby's heart worse! Because this is a growing separation.
Accept and affirm the child's emotions.
Children are separated from their parents, and it is inevitable that they will have anxiety when they go to a strange environment alone. Therefore, when children cry unconsciously, parents should be more patient and understanding. This kind of acceptance will not make children weak, but will make them braver!
Letter of recommendation-I'm so worried teaches us about love.
Xiaoli, the mouse sister in I am so worried, is worried every day, every night and every moment. On the playground, she was worried that the chain was too old. On her birthday, she was worried that there was not enough cake. After going to kindergarten, she became more worried. She was worried that no children brought dolls, she couldn't find the toilet, and she couldn't help crying. She was really worried. ...
This picture book tells the children's inner worries and makes their emotions affirmed, accepted and released. This helps them adapt to the new environment. Because every moment that is affirmed is the greatest encouragement to him!
Give him a "love" to carry with him.
Separation anxiety is mainly because the person you love the most is not around. At this time, if you can give him a mother in your pocket and a "love" that you can carry with you, then this is undoubtedly the best comfort. Like this raccoon mother—
Letter of recommendation-the warmest and most magical "magic kiss"
Mother raccoon printed a kiss on Kiki's hand and told him that the kiss was her mother. Wherever she goes, she will never leave and stay with him forever. This is the reassurance that you can walk. As long as you like it, there is also a book "The Kiss Saved", which is also very warm after reading ~ See which style of painting you like, choose that one.
Who will answer? When will you pick it up?
Finally, there is a key issue, which is to tell the child "who will pick him up and when". This is an agreement, in order to let him know that separation is temporary; Soon, we can be together again!
Letter of recommendation.-mom's back from school.
Liz's mother is always careless and forgetful. She is not looking for glasses, or the key she left on the door, or the wallet she left in the bakery. Even the meat in the oven, she will forget. Because of this, Liz is always fidgeting and listless after school, and she can't seem to hear what the teacher says in class. She has been worried that her careless mother will forget to pick her up one day.
Finally, Liz's mother forgot! But don't worry, what she forgot was "Dear … Sorry, we can't go to the bakery to buy you snacks. I can't find my wallet ... "
As Liz's mother said, "I will never, never, never forget to pick you up from school." You are my favorite little baby! "Since you are so sweet, you might as well tell your children more!
There is a story of mom leaving school, and naturally there is a story of dad leaving school-"Daddy with Long Legs". In the book, the question and answer between father and son Matthew is full of imagination and innocence, and also shows the deep affection and love between father and son.
Reminder: When we tell our children when to pick him up, we can't just say a few points, because they don't have a good concept of time yet. We should make an agreement with him with a reference he can understand, such as ringing the bell after school and seeing the teacher tomorrow.
Finally, as Ji Bolun wrote in his poem: Your children are not your children, but children born of life's desire for themselves. They came to this world through you, but not because of you. They are by your side, but they don't belong to you. What you can give them is your love, not your thoughts, because they have their own thoughts. What you can shelter is their bodies, not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow, which you never dreamed of. ...
When a child takes every step of his growth, the world will show him more wonderful things! All we do is allow them to leave at any time. The first step into the park, let's move forward bravely together!