1, the influence of family background
Although family background can't completely determine our life, its influence can't be underestimated. All parents in the world, we should respect and be filial. No matter when we are young or when we grow up, we can't refute our parents, because their purpose must be for the good of their children. Only in different times, different environments and backgrounds, changes in life pressure and emotions, and inappropriate communication and attitude often affect parents' inner feelings about their children's growth. After understanding the problems brought by my family background, I will also pay attention to my own guidance to my children, get rid of the possible harm caused by my subtle behavior, continue to learn and improve my cognition and concept, unload my old burdens, don't be depressed and afraid, feel joy, and express my life with a more open mind. Increase exercise, feel more nature, find a flexible balance and experience what you want.
2. "Self-esteem" warning
On the program, I saw that Song Dandan's son Batu was over 30 years old and was still playing emotional cards with his mother. Everything he says and does depends on his mother's eyes and attitude, which makes me reflect on what I need to pay attention to as a mother. It's not terrible to have shortcomings. The terrible thing is to regard your shortcomings as your own fatal blow. In fact, Batu is really smart. Whether he guesses lyrics or plays games, he has a special temperament of "learning hegemony". Although he performed very well, it was because of Song Dandan's words: "Batu, you are great today"! Batu can breathe a sigh of relief and feel that his mother is happy and he is of some value. Song Dandan changed Batu's cognition with her mistakes. Such a mother is very undesirable. Mentality determines thought. When the external environment cannot be changed, his thoughts determine the strength of self-esteem. I think Batu's self-esteem is seriously frustrated. In fact, he has his advantages. When can he accurately evaluate himself, have a correct self-awareness, and communicate directly with his mother as described in "Descendants" in order to become his true self? Here, I also remind myself how to be a good parent and how to raise children with positive, kind and firm beliefs, so that children can grow up healthily without oppression and happily.
3. The harvest of "control habits"
The 365th power of 0.99 = 0.03, and the 365th power of 1.0 1 =37.78. As long as you change a little every day and work hard, the power of compound interest is amazing. What kind of person you want to be is related to faith, judgment and prejudice. Don't lose enough good in pursuit of the ultimate. Habit is the combination of low frequency difficulty and high frequency. Don't carry it, don't force yourself, don't force children, and start with simple actions to resolve obstacles. For example, during the epidemic, many families did not have regular meals and daily life, nor did they have fixed study tasks, and they developed the bad habit of playing cards and games every day. And it is because of this "black swan" incident that I saw the problem clearly. The achievements brought by prosperity can only be temporary, and the thinking and gains brought by adversity only point out the direction. At this time, we should keep a low profile. Children should stop studying, studying and exercising, and pay more attention to nutrition and health.