Every child can be a swift horse, and every parent should be a child's bole. "Maxima is common, but Bole is not common." . If you can't recuperate in the way of a swift horse, it's worse than a mediocre horse.
To identify treasures and cultivate maxima, parents should have their own insight, the ability to carve and cultivate maxima.
BMW can't be practiced in a few days, and treasures can't be produced in a few years. To cultivate talents, I think it is the first to cultivate strong willpower. In fact, today's children are gifted, educated and have similar intelligence. In the case of equal intelligence, it is often emotional factors and many factors such as interest that determine their success, but not everything can be done by interest. Practicing the piano is the most representative. As long as both hands are sound, everyone can jingle on the keys and knock out beautiful notes. Therefore, children often rejoice and express their interest in learning the piano; Parents are naturally happy, thinking that a young musician is about to be born at home. However, parents and children soon discovered how boring it is to practice the piano. How many children are still interested? How many children can make it to the end? When we look at Di Yun and Mandy with envy, we don't know how many holidays these two young performers have given up and what they are interested in. "Heaven rewards diligence". What perseverance their parents have.
Will quality can be cultivated through everyday dribs and drabs. Morning exercise is a good method. In the process of getting up early to exercise, you not only gain a strong body against diseases, but also become a brave man who struggles ahead despite the cold.
Cultivating children is a marathon, and no one can take it lightly until the end. What is needed in this long process is persistence. Success belongs to the persevering. If you give up, you will only regret it. But persistence means that in this long process, we have to endure boredom and monotony, and we have no time to take care of the roadside scenery. Since children's growth is not a 100-meter race, cultivating talents is a century-long plan, so we must have enough patience and persistence, abandon quick success and instant benefit, abandon vanity and face, and start with cultivating people's character, cultivation and emotion.
The "short board effect" tells us that the maximum capacity of a wooden bucket filled with water depends on the shortest board. It reveals a simple truth: learning can't be partial. Every course is a basic course in primary and secondary schools. Have to try to favor some courses prematurely; Moral education and physical education cannot be neglected in moral, intellectual and physical aspects. You should know that "poor intelligence is a defective product;" Poor sports is a waste product, and poor morality is a dangerous product. "
Be a child's first teacher.
Class 1 (2) Tong Haosheng's parents and children
As the saying goes, "Parents are teachers' first teachers. "So, how to be a good teacher for children? Here, I want to talk about my personal experience.
First of all, we should cultivate children's good moral concepts and behavior habits.
In today's society, most children are only children, and the family structure is basically it runs in the family. Children have become the apple of their elders' eye, and their love for children has exceeded the limit. This encourages children to develop a bad tendency of "being the only one". Children become the masters of the family. Their elders must listen to them, otherwise they will be at a loss, not their elders, but their children. I don't think this is normal. For children, there are only disadvantages and no benefits. For example, they don't care about their elders and others, they just take what they want at will; You can litter, spit and so on as long as it is convenient. These will all become bad lines in their growth. It is difficult for such a child to become a responsible person and an upright person when he grows up. In this way, what are the benefits to children and even to society? At present, the juvenile crime rate remains high. As parents, should we think deeply and reflect? Therefore, I think that as elders, we like children only in our hearts, and we must never let them go with the flow. We must stop their bad behavior. Ask children not to tell lies and empty words. If you do something wrong, admit your mistake and give appropriate punishment when necessary. For example, once, my children brought my little cousin's childhood toys home from his uncle's house. After I found out, I severely criticized the child and asked him to take other people's things without permission. This is not taking, this is stealing. And fined 15 minutes. Since then, he has never taken other people's things casually. So I think that children's good words and deeds should be cultivated from an early age. At the same time, the words and deeds of elders are also subtle to children. For example, a couple in a neighboring village in our hometown like gambling, and they are lazy and unreasonable to people. When children quarrel with others, they always think that their children are right and scold others. Because of a small matter, it caused a quarrel and even a fight between adults. As a result, when his children grow up, they are almost like his parents. They are unreasonable and lazy. What is this? This is the role model of parents!
Second, we want our children to succeed and our women to succeed. We are elders, but we can't rush into it. Some parents are happy to see their children's excellent grades. If your grades are not satisfactory, you will scold your child for being stupid, playful and even hitting him. Physical pain is visible, but who knows how deep the child's heart is? Children may lose interest in learning and other hobbies, which is not desirable.
The measure of children depends on comprehensive ability, not just scores. Parents should change their ideas. Even children are playing with toys and origami. As long as children do it themselves, it is also an ability and a child's hobby. We can't hurt him. We should encourage him to play more and do more homework after school. At all times, many great men and scientists were lively and active when they were young. It is natural for children to like to play, but the scale of play needs the correct guidance of our elders. We can take various ways to guide children and cultivate the habit of sitting quietly. For example, writing, drawing, reading storybooks, doing handicrafts and playing math games are all conducive to children's intellectual development and improving their interest in learning.
In short, a child's healthy growth is like a small fruit tree growing into a big leafy fruit tree. It needs the careful cultivation of our fruit farmers. If the overgrown branches disturb and affect the normal growth of other branches, fruit farmers will cut them off. Otherwise, it will destroy the molding of the whole crown. The purpose of pruning is to let the sun shine inside the fruit tree and let other branches enjoy the warmth of the sun. So the fruit can be big and sweet.
Children grow like fruit trees. The bad ones should be rectified, the good ones should be kept and development should be encouraged. Only in this way can children thrive and become useful talents!
Don't let love deteriorate.
One (4) class's parents Qiu Meizhen
If someone asks you such a question: Do you love your children? I believe that every parent's answer will be yes, but in reality, many parents' love for their children is distorted and stale, and some love even hurts children. Today, as a parent and teacher, I will talk about my personal feelings and opinions with real examples, and discuss with you in order to attract more attention.
There are several wrong love patterns in modern family education, which have a great negative impact on children's mental health and perfect personality shaping.
Mode 1: I am afraid that my children will suffer, and instill some wrong interpersonal methods in my children.
Most of our children are only children, and almost all parents take good care of their children. They dare not hold it in their hands or put it in their mouths. After their children go to school, they are always afraid of being bullied and miserable. So some parents have some extreme education methods.
One Sunday, I took my daughter to eat KFC, and happened to meet my colleague who also took my son to eat KFC. The two children are very happy to see each other. While I was chatting with my colleagues, they went to play on the slide. Later, there was the cry of the child. In the past, a little boy's hands were covered with blood. After understanding, it turned out that the son of a colleague bit his hand hard. Usually this child is very aggressive. At school, he either hits other children or bites them, which is "thanks" to his grandmother's education method: it doesn't matter if you hurt others, just give some money and never let others hit him.
Nowadays, some children are very aggressive, and they fight whenever there is a slight problem. The means are very cruel, which is inseparable from the extreme education methods of parents.
Mode 2: Parents' doting narrows the space for children to grow up and creates a batch of flowers in the greenhouse.
A little girl described the reason why she was called "Jiao Jiao Girl" by her classmates: her mother never allowed her to participate in various activities organized by the class (including various public welfare work) for fear that she would get a little hurt. The girl has a strong sprint ability, so the PE teacher asked her to participate in the training of sports teams. When her mother found out, she lied to the PE teacher that her daughter was in poor health. The doctor said that she couldn't take part in strenuous exercise and dropped out of sports team training. The little girl is in the fifth grade. Although her home is close to school, her mother takes her to and from school every day, and never lets her go to school alone or go home from school.
It is precisely because of parents' excessive concern and care that children are not regarded as people with independent learning and living ability, depriving them of the environment for growing up in exercise, and children become flowers in greenhouses, which can't stand any wind and rain. There are many only children who live a superior life of reaching out and having clothes to wear and living beyond their means. Once the environment changes, they will be acclimatized. According to the survey, the reason why a large number of college students drop out of school or dare not enroll in schools far from home is their poor self-care ability. Experts say: only by liberating children's hands and feet can children walk independently; Only by emancipating children's minds can children create miracles.
Mode 3: Pay too much attention to scores and ignore the cultivation of character and ability.
The competition in modern society is becoming more and more fierce. Parents see this and are deeply afraid that their children will be eliminated in the competition in the future society. There are also parents who do this imaginative reasoning with their children: "If you can't get into the top three at work, you won't get into a key middle school or a key university, and you won't have a good job; Without a good job, you can't get a high income; If you can't get a high income, you can't live a happy life ... "In a child's life, as long as you get high marks and good grades, you are regarded as a good boy. As long as you do well in the exam, you will agree to all requirements, satisfy all wishes and honor all promises. Low moral character is not taken seriously. Some children are lying, selfish, indifferent, lonely, lacking in love and compassion, self-centered, without considering other people's feelings. This love for children is worrying. It is reported that a graduate student of Fudan University committed suicide by jumping off a building. He was the champion of liberal arts college entrance examination in a province. It can be seen that the score can only explain the child's ability on the one hand-the ability to restore knowledge on paper, which is not the child's comprehensive ability at all. It is just a branch of a child's life tree, not all branches of a child.
My daughter is more sensible and independent. I don't have to worry about many things. I teach children to pay more attention to the following points.
First, cultivate children's love. I have cultivated her habit of caring for flowers and animals since I was a child. I once taught her that if you step on the grass, it will hurt, just like cutting your hand with a knife. Does it hurt? In our school, we often see such a phenomenon that children are loudly accusing their parents. Can you expect a person who doesn't even love his parents to love others? Without love in his heart, will he still care for others and think for others?
Second, cultivate good habits, including living habits and study habits, so that she can learn to do her own thing from an early age.
Third, let children live happily. People often think that children nowadays have no childhood and no happiness. In our childhood, there were no toys, televisions and computers, but we don't regret it. Why? Because we have many friends, we have fields, mud and free time to play. So, I won't force my children. I don't force her to learn things that she is not interested in, but try to make her feel that learning is a happy thing.
Educators say, "Without love, there is no education". I think it is an art to love children. Love for children should convey a positive emotion to children and guide them to become qualified citizens in the future society, rather than a selfish or deteriorating love.
May our love not become a chain that binds children's growth, but become the driving force for children to fly high.
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