Leave room for debate 1 eat seven points full. My mother always told me.
As a child living in a well-off society, I am one of the few people who can feel hunger for three years. My mother always reminds me not to eat too much when watching me eat. If my neighbors see me faltering one day, my mother can only shake her head and explain, "Hey, my child is full."
Time flies, time flies, the children who rolled around in the fields in those days are all adults now. I didn't grow up. The way I used to eat hasn't changed at all. As expected, I walked out of the paunchy appearance again. I don't know if I am old and my stomach can't stand this kind of tossing. At night, I tossed and turned, and the pain was unbearable. So I sat up at night and suddenly translated my mother's words and printed them in my heart.
We have to eat seven full meals, leaving room, not to mention our hearts.
We live alone in this world and look at food with almost paranoid eyes. We are full of dreams, but we forget to stick to them. We only know that we should devote ourselves to success, but forget that letting nature take its course is also an attitude towards life. It took us many years to learn to fight, but we forgot to leave room.
The grass on Nautilus Island is still sad, and the golden willow by the river has already removed its light makeup. I didn't smell the pigeon, and I didn't touch the snow at the sword gate. Snow sealed the mountain and sealed our hearts. The fog covered the river and the inner window. Winter snow trapped many people's day and night haze. Green grass, but it is an illusory mirage.
Thousands of miles away, no one has experienced the dark ages, and no one is eager for their own life to be full of spring and grass. But many times, our paranoid eyes make us can't wait, as if frowning, dejected, decadent and desperate constitute the whole of our life. Therefore, the so-called farewell or redemption is done with a decisive attitude.
Yes, many times, our life is full of paranoid knowledge. We believe in absolute black and white, but forget the gray in the middle. Reality has taught us to think almost paranoid, but life has taught us how to leave room.
We can be sad, but we can't sink; We can shed tears, but we can't be overwhelmed by them. The longest winter will pass, and the most beautiful spring will bring green grass. I want to believe that I can look back at the end of despair. Happiness may be next door, and spring may be tomorrow or tonight.
Leave room for argument. The method of carving is that the nose is as big as the eyes, and the eyes are as small as the eyes. Nose can be big or small, but small can't be big. The same is true of events. -inscription
The sky said: Leave a space for Baiyun to fly freely, so that I can reach higher.
The moon said: Leave a space for the stars to twinkle at will, and my world will no longer be lonely.
People say: leave room for everything and leave a way out for others. Also open a window for yourself.
I remember when I was a child, my grandmother often told me to buy clothes with an extra button. At that time, I didn't understand what grandma meant, and I didn't care much. Until one time, my beloved dress was missing a button, and I couldn't find it after rummaging through the closet. Finally, my heart was broken when I couldn't find the same style buttons in all the tailor shops. Finally got the news of grandma. It turns out that one more button means one more way out. One more choice, one more hope. Similarly, there will be one less regret.
Adolescence is a rebellious period. Looking back on those years, I feel a lot. In adolescence, I became inexplicably impetuous and at a loss. The world doesn't seem as satisfying, comfortable and relaxed as I thought. In my life, my parents' nagging and restraint disgust me; In my study, my parents' harshness and harshness suffocated me. In the face of parents' reprimand, I slammed the door angrily; I turned a blind eye to my parents' expectations. Life seems like a mess. Solidified into glue, every step will be entangled, and every time you want to talk, it will become heavy.
Fortunately, an emotional exchange after dinner made me know myself and understand my parents. My parents adjusted their attitude and gave me a more relaxed study and living environment.
Learn to communicate and understand, leaving room for yourself and your parents. Family will be more harmonious and life will be happier.
In life, every moment. We should all learn to leave room for everything. When we have an argument with our friends, there is no need to win or lose for you immediately. This time is running out, and it will only become a lose-lose situation. "endure a calm moment, take a step back and broaden the horizon", this sentence should not be used only for composition. When we begin to look back, we will find that the so-called dispute at that time was just a little disagreement; When we learn to be patient, the bridge of friendship will become stronger and longer.
Leave room for friendship, and the flower of friendship will bloom more brilliantly. If you have studied sculpture, you must know that when you first started carving. The nose should be big and the eyes should be small, so it can be modified later. Let our works be better.
A small way of carving contains the great truth of life; There is room for everything. We will be more handy.
Leave room for argument 3. Leave room for others, that is, give yourself a chance and hope.
Some people say that being unkind to the enemy is cruel to yourself and you can't leave room for your opponent. People are afraid of the story of Gou Jian, the king of Yue, which is precisely the room left by the king of Wu, and has made Gou Jian serve and revenge in the future. In fact, it should be kind to leave room for others, while the prince of Wu left room to insult Gou Jian and humiliate him. Only leave room in good faith, is a beautiful existence.
Leave room, goodwill and tolerance. Give a noble soul a beautiful home.
Throughout the long history, how many wise monarchs put aside their differences and reused ministers of previous dynasties? Show their wisdom, convince the people and make the country prosperous. This is the advantage of leaving room for others.
We once learned an article from Notre Dame de Paris called A Drop of Tears for a Drop of Water. Quasimodo, an ugly bell ringer with good heart, was instructed by Claude, the ugly deputy leader, to hurt Esmeralda, a kind gypsy girl. Therefore, the bell ringer was brutally punished, but the crowd who watched the bell ringer punished did not leave him room for double harm. Only the kind gypsy girl sympathized with the bell ringer's misfortune and gave him a bowl of water to nourish his dry body and mind. Isn't a girl's behavior a kind of beauty that leaves room? It was her kindness and tolerance that made the bell ringer begin to realize that when the girl was injured, she stood up to protect her.
Beethoven, who was deaf, still composed a beautiful ode to joy. Helen who is deaf and dumb. Keller learned the winning language by his own efforts and persistence; Hawking, who can only move with one finger, founded the famous black hole theory. This is also a way to leave room for God. After God deprived them of some external abilities, he did not deprive them of their inner thinking and perception.
When the ancient Egyptians built pyramids, they always left some openings and put a mirror at the corner of the tunnel to let the warm sunshine shine into the cold grave. This is also a room for maneuver, a yearning for vitality and hope. Therefore, when someone has done something sorry to you, if the other person is close to apologizing, don't haggle over every ounce, leave some room for others, and tolerate others is also an improvement to your heart.
Leave room to make people more harmonious, leave room to make life better, and leave room for beauty is the real great beauty.
Leave some room for argument 4. Be a man, leave more space for yourself. Leave room for yourself and leave room for others. Leave room for others, and there will be more room for effective communication when dealing with others.
Effective communication means that harmony is the most important thing. For example, a quarrel between colleagues and friends should be considered temporary at first, and should be reconciled after all. As soon as there is a contradiction between the two sides, they immediately start to scold each other, dare to expose anything short, dare to say anything ugly, and dare to scold anything ugly. This is not to leave room, but to cut your own path.
In Caigen Tan, there is an example of "attacking people's evil, not being too strict". In other words, in interpersonal relationships, in the spirit of tolerance, rationally eat some losses, others will owe you, so that you will have the basis for establishing good interpersonal relationships. If you want to punish someone and make yourself emotional and grumpy, and think about how to punish that person all day to get back at him for hurting you, then you have a good intention. However, it would be foolish to do something that harms others and does not benefit others.
Many people have experienced the taste of being offended to varying degrees. You may be so angry that your lips tremble and your face turns pale that you want to punch the person in front of you, but in the end, you managed to suppress your anger and didn't make any exciting behavior. It's just that you have a grudge in your heart and you can't forget the moment of humiliation. You want to be a generous person, but you don't know how to erase unpleasant memories. As the saying goes, "adults don't remember villains." It's a pity that you still can't reach the standard of "adulthood" and you are at a loss between "wanting revenge" and "forget it". That's suffering! In this kind of suffering, you forget to leave yourself and others a little more room to enjoy the realm, so you didn't break out in this kind of suffering, just waiting for failure in this kind of suffering!
Nervous emotions will bring you invisible oppression, and your mind will become narrow, suspicious and jealous; Unpleasant memories will evoke all kinds of evil thoughts, and your pain will not disappear, but you will be fooled by yourself. However, in the room, the people you hate will also have a lovely and respectable side. Who is the enemy and who is the friend? This is a very narrow dichotomy.
The same is true when arguing with others. It is pleasant to refute the other side with a rigorous debate, but there is no need to refute the other side to pieces. Because as long as you think about it a little, you will know that it is actually stupid to do so. Not only is it not good for yourself, but sometimes it is even counterproductive. Without the recognition of the other party, one day it will eat its own fruit and be attacked by the other party. When we have friction with others, we must first understand his thoughts, and then state our opinions on the premise of taking into account the other party's face, leaving room for the other party. This must be kept in mind when dealing with interpersonal relationships.
Han Feizi said, "The dragon is an ant and can ride softly, but it has scales under its throat. If a person has children, he will kill people. " Life is measured, and few people say that they can live without children! "Legend has it that when the dragon is tamed, people can ride on its back, but there is a lamella about a foot in diameter under its throat. If someone touches that counter scale, they will definitely eat you. Just like people attacking each other, if you reprimand each other on the pretext of their fault and make them feel ashamed, then you should be careful, because the other party will retaliate against this arrow one day. Therefore, even if we have to reprimand each other, we should leave them a little way out. People who have no retreat and no room are doomed to failure!
Leave room for argument 5. Leave room for everything, leave a way out. Those who say that "only by cutting off their own retreat can they win a better way out" are desperate or decisive. It is undeniable that sometimes if there is no retreat behind them, people will concentrate all their energy and go forward bravely to win a way out for themselves. However, this is a rescue. Under normal circumstances, no one is willing to cut off the retreat. On the contrary, it is best to have more space and a back road.
Leave room for things. Plans are not as fast as changes, and changes are not as fast as telephone calls. Leave room for your daily work, for yourself and others, but you must carry it out as planned. For example, to catch the train, we should arrive at the station ahead of time to leave room for some unexpected things. For example, some things should be prepared in advance so as not to be rushed temporarily-a few more minutes of preparation last night may have saved hours of trouble today.
There must be room for doing things. If you keep getting fat, you can get smaller, but you can't get any fatter. For example, don't talk too much, so as to accommodate some accidents and not be unable to step down; It doesn't matter if you take risks, but when you take risks, don't gamble all your property; You can't do things too well, so you can leave a way out for yourself and not get out of hand. Don't slam the door, because you will probably come back.
In fact, whether there is space or a way out cannot be measured by quantity and size. For example, carving, experts know that the inner distance should be small but not big, and the outer distance should be large but not small. Remember that carving is subtraction. Han Feizi talked about the truth of carving in "Talking about the Forest-Part II". "The way of carving is that the nose is as big as eyes. The nose can be big or small, but it can't be big or small; Small eyes can be big, big eyes can't be small. " The same is true for an event, because if it cannot be recovered, it is a failure. "This passage means that the main point of craft wood carving is to have a big nose and small eyes. The nose can be made smaller if it is carved bigger. If you carve your nose small from the beginning, there is no way to remedy it. Similarly, the eyes should be small at first, and they can be enlarged when they are small. Doing things for people is the same. Leave room for everything and leave a way out. Only in this way will we not fail.
When dealing with people, we should leave room for ourselves and others. Our hometown is a mountainous area, rich in persimmons. One year, when I went back to my hometown and harvested persimmons in late autumn, I found persimmons scattered on the trees on the hillside. I thought it was the negligence of my fellow villagers, but later I learned that it was the fellow villagers who deliberately didn't pick it clean, and the few persimmons left on the tree were for magpies to eat. Because there was a lesson before, one year all the persimmons on the tree were picked, and it coincided with the snowstorm that year. Magpies starved to death because they could not find anything to eat. The persimmon tree was attacked by insects in the second year. It can be seen that everything can't be done to the extreme, and giving up the retreat for others is to clear the way for yourself; To leave space for others is to leave a world for yourself. People don't live in the present, and they don't have only one contact with people. Smart people know how to leave a retreat for themselves and space for others. On the surface, it is to forgive others, but in fact it is to pave the way for yourself. Otherwise, you will fall into a dead end, leaving yourself with no way out, no way back.
We should leave room for ourselves and others. To this end, we should: where the path is narrow, leave a step for people to walk; When the taste is strong, subtract three points and invite people to taste it. Knowing people doesn't have to say everything, leave three points for others, and leave some lip service and self; Don't be harsh on others, leave three points for others and some tolerance for yourself; Don't sell yourself short, leave three points for others and some connotations for yourself; Don't be sharp-edged, leave three points for others and some deep convergence for yourself; Don't ask for credit, leave three points for others, and leave some humility for yourself; Don't argue, leave some room for others, and leave some tolerance for yourself; Don't lean on the situation, leave three points for others, and leave some kindness and self; You don't have to enjoy wealth, leave three points for others and some blessings for yourself; You don't have to do everything yourself, leave some room for others, leave some virtue and yourself. Life can't be too full and life can't be too crowded. Leave more room for yourself when you do things, so that you can turn around calmly. Leave some benefits for others, leave some way for others to walk, and leave some time for yourself to think. Remember to leave some room for your life at any time. If you get it, you won't be complacent, if you lose it, you won't be unhappy, and you will be calm between gains and losses.
Label: There is room for debate.