You were born different.
Remember, it's not that you are better or worse than others, but that you were born different. You are you, you are special, you must rely on yourself and create a different life for yourself.
How many students are determined to be what they want to be? In fact, more than 95% of students don't know what kind of person they want to be in this life. I am an example. I don't know what kind of person I want to be, and I don't know where my ultimate goal in life is. From the past to the present, I have no specific and clear goals.
However, if you don't have any goals, you will be confused and feel that your life lacks vitality. What can give you energy? Expectation for the future. If there is any expectation in my life, it is probably two things that have brought me to this day.
First, I always try to make progress.
I will never see me today or yesterday. This matter is very important. You must let yourself grow, grow and grow again. If you want to be different, the most important thing is not to compare with others-there are always people who are better than you and there are always people who are worse than you. This comparison is meaningless, it can't change the status quo, it will only make you addicted to being narrow-minded. You should compare yourself-whether today is better than yesterday, and whether tomorrow is better than today.
When you learn to compare with yourself, you make progress every day, you gain more experience and knowledge, your thinking is more open, and your vision and temperament will become completely different. After four years of college, it is better to plant rich grasslands and pursue horses all over the world, and horses will come naturally.
Second, I always have phased goals.
Why set a goal for the future? In order to improve the present. When we are confused and feel powerless, it is because nothing in life gives people energy. What can give you energy? It is an expectation for the future.
In retrospect, my life had many unexpected results. The reason for this is that I have been setting short-term goals for myself and have made enough efforts. Many life goals are not conceived, but naturally appear after you work hard to that extent.
As you all know, I have participated in the college entrance examination three times, and what once held me back was my English score. I only got 33 points in English in the first college entrance examination. When I repeat, my goal is to learn English well. In the second year, I got 55 points in English. Although I have made progress, my total score is still low. In the voice of doubt, I insisted on reading the third year of high school. I got 95 points in this English test and was admitted to Peking University.
After entering Peking University, I can't get up in academic performance, nor can I do sports and literary activities, so I feel inferior. As a simple rural child, the only way I thought at that time was to study hard. College students read too much, so I set myself a goal. After reading 800 books in four years, I bought more than 1000 books when I graduated from college.
I got tuberculosis in my junior year and stayed in the hospital for a whole year. For the first month or two, I was very confused and particularly painful. But the biggest advantage of this disease is that I have figured something out in confusion and pain. What is fate? Fate is the suffering that God inadvertently imposes on you and the attitude you take in the face of it. I can't suffer forever. I want to choose a road and work hard with a goal. At that time, the first goal I chose was fitness.
In the hospital, I did two things that had a great impact on my life. The first thing is reading. One year in hospital, reading a book almost a day. I read all the famous works of literature, philosophy, poetry, prose and history in the hospital. The second thing is memorizing words. In order to kill time, I recite 50 words on average every day. By the end of the year, my vocabulary had increased from over 8,000 to over 20,000. This unintentional thing directly contributed to the birth of New Oriental. I am confident in teaching vocabulary, and became the first person to teach GRE vocabulary in China in the late 1980s. Have you ever found that life will be confused, but when you are confused, you can't stop moving forward. There will always be a turning point in your progress. That's how life turns.
Considering the distribution of graduation, I don't want to join the government, and I don't want to live a nine-to-five life, so I want to be a teacher, with only eight hours of classes a week and three months' vacation every year. I spent a year and a half writing my thesis in English and found the most severe teacher's guidance. This paper finally became a paper approved by the teacher. When I graduated from college, I stayed at Peking University to teach.
Later, I wanted to go abroad for further study and contacted an American university. The other party only gave me a scholarship of 20 thousand dollars, and I need 30 thousand dollars. However, based on my monthly salary in 60 yuan at Peking University, it took me 100 years to save enough 1 10,000 dollars. So I decided to start New Oriental, the original intention is very simple, that is, to save money to go abroad. In the third year of New Oriental, I had the money to study in the United States, but then I suddenly decided not to go. Why? Because I found that New Oriental is probably a career. At that time, many students in China wanted to study abroad. They all have to pass several exams, such as TOEFL, GRE and GMAT, but the corresponding education is still blank. So, I asked some friends who studied in the United States to go back to Beijing and start a business together. In this way, by 20xx, the market value of New Oriental will reach several hundred million. At this time, we suddenly thought, why doesn't New Oriental go public? So it changed its structure, reorganized and listed in new york.
When New Oriental was listed, it was only RMB 800 million. We set ourselves the goal of annual income of RMB 654.38+000 billion within ten years. September 7th this year marks the 10th anniversary of the listing of New Oriental in the United States. The annual income of New Oriental has officially exceeded RMB 654.38+0 billion. I didn't set this goal at first, but in the end, it came. Looking at everything in the past together, I found that it was no accident, because the phased goals I set together would be higher and higher.
There are only two States in life: happiness and misfortune, and any confusion in the middle is lifeless. I hope that in a few years, when students look back, your life will be different. Have you lived a good life in another way? The so-called cost performance does not mean the standard of utility, but the standard of living well. There is only one thing that is not cost-effective, that is, in this matter, you have killed your fighting spirit and forgotten your dreams. This is an uneconomical life.
Life is like climbing a mountain. If you walk on the flat ground, you don't have to spend your life, but the scenery you see is the same. Every day is the same from the first day of birth to death. You didn't get what you expected because you didn't work hard. We may say that students who get high scores in GRE and GMAT exams may have high IQ, but what is more important is their hard work. They have the spirit of never giving up and keep working hard until they get a satisfactory score.
I saw my own shadow in them. I am not a person with high IQ. If I had a high IQ, I wouldn't have been admitted to Peking University for three years, and I wouldn't have to study longer than other students before each exam. I felt this way when I was a child. I have a good natural environment. My home is near the Yangtze River. I have a unique advantage. I can watch the ships coming and going in the river from the river. When a person has the heart to yearn for the distance, his feet will definitely be in towards the distant, so there is a story that a poor child like me is admitted to Peking University every year. Although I graduated from Peking University with the fifth lowest score in my class, I tried to make New Oriental the largest English training school in China.
I always believe that people's dreams and passions will lead you to towards the distant. When I went to the American embassy and was refused a visa again and again, I was discouraged and thought that there might be no other country in the world to give me a visa except Afghanistan. But now I have more than ten countries on my passport, and the United States has given me a business visa valid for ten years. It's no use complaining in life. You may be born with many gaps with others, which is irrelevant from the perspective of life. For example, it doesn't matter whether you were born in a peasant family or a minister family. Since you were born, you have been an independent life. As long as you have a seed, you can stand the rain and the sun to grow. Whether you can grow up depends on the care of your parents, the cultivation of your teachers, and more importantly, what kind of seed you are.
Whether the students here can succeed in the future does not depend on your current state, but on whether you have that kind of mentality, and turn your complaining mentality into your own positive struggle mentality. You should believe that all the success, happiness and harvest in this world come from yourself and the seeds in your heart. It's never what kind of teachers, parents or social environment you meet. In any social environment, people can find experiences and spirits that inspire them to struggle. The external environment we face is the same. A great man creates his own world of existence and expands it. Instead of complaining after you enter a ready-made life world.
Facing the future development, studying abroad is undoubtedly a good way to expand. Of course, we can't say that we can't do anything without studying in China, otherwise I'm not qualified to stand here and talk. Jack Ma, Shi Yuzhu, Liu Chuanzhi and I have never stayed in school, but they have done many successful things. There are always successful people and great people growing up in this world. No matter what kind of soil, beautiful plants can grow. Generally speaking, if our life can be expanded, what we need to expand most is to know the world when we are young.
If family conditions permit, high schools can study abroad. In order to save money, you can also study abroad at the postgraduate stage, that is, you can complete the GRE or GMAT exam when you are an undergraduate. Graduate students don't study abroad, but they should constantly look for opportunities to broaden their horizons after work. In the future, China will play an increasingly important role on the world stage. In this case, you will find that the most needed talents in the world are those who understand the integration of Chinese and Western cultures, language, technology and tradition. After living in China for so many years, you have a good understanding of China's cultural traditions and China's way of doing things, and naturally you have a reaction to China's culture. But now even if your English ability is excellent, even if you get full marks in GRE, there is still a gap between you and the western world. The biggest problem for overseas students in China, especially graduate students, is that they only engage in research and their own majors after going abroad, but they are not integrated into American society. For example, don't deal with Americans, or even American classmates, just do experiments and research. In the end, my English didn't improve much. On the surface, I got an American degree, but in my mind, I am still a native turtle. Starting to study abroad from the postgraduate stage is not only to study courses, but also to use this time to truly become a person who is completely compatible with Chinese and Western cultures, languages and other scientific and technological aspects. Because only such people will have a stage in the future, and they can make great achievements in both the western stage and China. Everyone I meet now has a saying that as long as China gives me a platform, I will not hesitate to return to China. China now has a big platform, and China's national strength shows that China will invest more and more in science and technology in the future. The environment and treatment of scientists who return home to devote themselves to research will not be worse than that of the United States, so a large number of scientific and technological talents will return home.
Why do I encourage studying abroad? It's not just about changing the knowledge structure and life state, but you shoulder the responsibility of changing the life state and mental state of the Chinese nation. So I think studying abroad is a very important thing for China people.
Good evening, dear classmates and friends!
When someone stands on such a stage, many of our classmates will envy them. I think so, too. Maybe I can speak better than him. But no matter whether the classmate standing on the stage faces failure or eventually succeeds, he has already stood on this stage. And you, just a bystander, the core element here is not whether you can speak, but whether you dare to stand on this stage. How many things have we not done in our life because we dare not?
There was once a boy who had never been in love in college for four years and had never participated in the cadre election of the student union class. Who is this boy? He is me.
Didn't I want to fall in love when I was in college? Then why not? Because I looked down on myself from the beginning. I'm thinking, if I want to chase a girl, the girl may say, you pig, how dare you chase me? It is the toad who wants to eat swan meat. If this happens, what can I do but hang myself, dig a hole and jump? So this fear prevents all the emotional beauty that should have happened in college.
In fact, now that I think about it, what a ridiculous thing it is. How do you know there are no girls who like pigs? Even if you are rejected by girls, so what? Will the world change because of this? We call a self-righteous person arrogant, but an inferior person must be worse than an arrogant person. Because arrogant people may be able to seize opportunities that don't belong to them in life, but people with inferiority will always lose opportunities that belong to them. Because of inferiority, you will be afraid, you are afraid of failure, you are afraid of other people's eyes, and you will feel that people around you are looking at you with sarcastic and insulting eyes, so you dare not do it. So you belittle yourself with an element that shouldn't have belittled yourself, making you lose your courage, and all the doors in this world are closed.
When I resigned from Peking University, as a teacher who was about to become a professor at Peking University, I was immediately replaced by a person wearing a Pojun coat and carrying a paste bucket to Peking University to post small advertisements. At first, my heart was filled with fear. I thought these were all my students, and sure enough, the students came. Hello, Mr. Yu, you posted an advertisement here. I said, yes, I went out from Peking University to hold training courses and put up advertisements myself. The student said, don't worry, teacher Yu, I'll post it for you. I suddenly found that the student didn't look at me with demeaning eyes. The students just said, Mr. Yu, I'll post it for you, and also said, I'm not just posting it for you, I'm still watching here and I won't let others cover it. I gradually understand that in this world, you can only grow up if you overcome your fears and don't care about other people's eyes. It is with this growing courage that I have my own career, my own life and my own future.
In retrospect, I think a friend of mine, Ma Yun, who is very popular all over the world recently, is much greater than me. Ma Yun and I have many similarities, but of course we are not similar in appearance. As we all know, there is still a gap in this appearance. He looks more distinctive.
We both passed the college entrance examination for three years. I was admitted to the undergraduate course of Peking University, and he was admitted to the junior college of Hangzhou Normal University. Everyone immediately found that in this sense, I should be better than him anyway. But a person's Excellence is not because you were admitted to Peking University, not because you were admitted to Harvard, nor because you look better. A person's truly excellent quality comes from a strong desire to become better and a fiery passion for life. These two things are on Ma Yun.
If Ma Yun was successful, successful, Ma Chenggong and successful at that time, we were all from ordinary families. Today, you have a hundred times more resources and information than we did at that time, and you have no reason not to succeed.
When we have the courage to take the first step, we must first overcome our inner fears, because in this world, only you can hear your progress.
So I hope students can seriously think about: what kind of fear I have now, what kind of fear I have now, am I too concerned about other people's eyes, and is it because of these things that my quality of life has been affected? Because of these things, I dare not take the first step in my life and let my life never go far. If so, please bravely say no to your fears and other people's eyes! Because I am myself.
Thank you!
We often act in a hurry when we are waiting, or wait there when we are waiting, and finally miss the opportunity. ...
Whether it is happiness or pain, it is a precious gift in our life, which needs us to cherish it with our heart and treat it with a positive attitude. ...
There are many regrets in life. To this end, we should make a lot of efforts to enrich our lives. I think the best way is to wait.
There are many things in life that can't wait passively. Waiting is just to gain more initiative. Waiting for the best opportunity requires the greatest patience. The so-called can't wait passively, which means that any waiting has a purpose. The most thrilling movie I have ever seen in Animal World is about South American pythons. Because this python is too big, it doesn't move very fast. In order to hunt, its only way is to lie in the middle of the jungle and wait for the animals to pass by. Usually, no animals pass by for a day, two days or even a week. But it knows that as long as it waits there, animals will pass by. Finally, animals pass by. It jumped up and bit the animal, because it couldn't catch up with the animal. Only when the animal reached its mouth could it jump up. I was deeply impressed by this story. Everyone needs to wait for their own opportunities and their own future. There must be a way to wait. But when the opportunity comes, we must seize it very quickly. On the surface, the boa constrictor is motionless and completely passive, but in fact, it keeps alert all the time, even when sleeping, listening with its ears and feeling whether animals pass by with its body. Python knows the importance of waiting better than any animal.
The cheetah is the fastest animal in the world, but it must stay in the grass until the antelope gets close to it, then it can jump up and catch up with it. Although cheetah is the fastest animal in the world, its speed can reach 100 km per hour, but it can run for 10 minute at most. If it can't catch up with the antelope within 10 minutes, it will starve to death, so it has to lie in the middle of the grass and wait for the best opportunity.
Many times, animals are worth learning. We often act in a hurry when we are waiting, or wait there when we are waiting, and finally miss the opportunity. And because of premature exposure, let others know your weaknesses and shortcomings, others will no longer be willing to deal with you, and as a result, your life opportunity will be lost, because people usually only give you one chance. For example, I regard you as a true friend, and later I find that you are not sincere enough. Some behaviors make people feel stingy and mean, which makes me feel that you are no longer my true friend. No matter what you do, I will be wary of you. There is a simple reason. In English, it says, "Once you become a teacher, you will always be a teacher." In China's words, "Once bitten, twice shy" is the same concept. In fact, you need to have enough wisdom to get opportunities and keep good relations with friends around you forever.
Of course, the best time also requires you to wait with the greatest patience. If you don't even do your job well and want others to recognize you, you have chosen the worst time. When you make your work perfect and get the approval of everyone around you, you don't need to wait at all. Your waiting itself becomes the process of showing your best side to others. Anyway, each of us should take every opportunity in life seriously, including your opportunity to work in New Oriental. Maybe the job in New Oriental is not the best job you have found, maybe the job in New Oriental is not your final job, but once you recognize this position, once you accept this job and accept this salary, you should seize this opportunity to create happiness and achievements that others cannot create in this position.
At the same time, any failure and pain in life may be the best opportunity you encounter and can teach you true wisdom. Depends on how you look at failure and pain. Some people are devastated after failure, while others become greater after failure. This is because different people look at things from different angles. When you look at things from a positive perspective, your mentality is positive. My attitude is that both happy and painful things are precious gifts in our lives, which need to be cherished by our hearts and treated with a positive attitude, because these are some inevitable processes in the process of waiting for opportunities and pursuing success.
When we face a thing or a state of life, we can make different choices. Different choices make our lives move in different directions, leading to different fates and endings.
All high school graduates hope to study in famous universities such as Peking University and Tsinghua, but only a few students can study in Peking University and Tsinghua, and most students can only study in ordinary universities. It is not your choice to enter Peking University or an ordinary university, and it is not necessarily your decision whether to study hard in high school. There is a difference between people's IQ and memory, so sometimes you can only get into ordinary colleges and universities despite your 100% efforts. Does that mean that entering ordinary colleges and universities means that the future is not as good as that of Peking University graduates? Certainly not! After entering the university, we can choose to work hard or give up on ourselves. Some college students, through their four-year efforts, can be admitted to graduate students in key universities such as Peking University, while some students think that they are doomed to give up their efforts and become homeless after graduation. I have a friend who only graduated from technical secondary school, but he never gave up his efforts. Through his own efforts, he first got the diploma of self-taught college entrance examination, and then he was admitted to Peking University Graduate School. Two years after graduation, he was admitted to the Kennedy School of Government of Harvard University and became a real success. Therefore, what kind of university you enter is not the most important, what matters is whether you choose to work hard or give up.
When we were looking for a job after graduating from college, we found that some students seemed to find a good job easily. Some students found a good job because of their real skills, but some students seemed to be purely lucky. You can't figure out why fate is so unfair to you. The only job you can find is cleaning and so on. But even in this situation, you can choose to work hard or not. Different work attitudes will bring you completely different results. If you have a positive work attitude and do a job like cleaning very seriously and excellently, you may eventually be promoted to a very important position. If you choose to be sloppy and perfunctory, you may eventually lose your job. There is a graduate of New Oriental University. When he first came to New Oriental, he only found a job to help students send and receive headphones. However, he chose a positive working attitude, while helping students send and receive headphones, while listening carefully to each teacher's class. Two years have passed, and his English level has reached a high level. At the same time, he has unconsciously mastered many teaching skills because he has listened to many teachers' classes. One day he came to me and told me that he wanted to be a teacher. I was shocked. I think how can a person who sends and receives headphones be a teacher? But after giving him a trial lecture, I found that his teaching ability is already very high. Finally, he became a famous teacher of New Oriental, and later became the principal of a branch school of New Oriental. He didn't give up, but chose to grow up. His life is different from others.
If one day, the different choices you make will also make your quality of life completely different. On a Sunday, you can choose to sleep in or go climbing. You can choose to go shopping or read books. This small choice also reflects your inner value orientation. Finally, people who may choose to sleep late become lazy, people who choose to climb mountains become climbers, people who choose to shop become businessmen, and people who choose to read books become professors. These choices can also reflect your character, whether lazy or determined, whether material or spiritual. Even if you are given an hour, you can choose to make your life dull or surprising. Once, Xu Xiaoping and I gave a speech in Fuzhou. After the speech, we drove to the airport and rushed back to Beijing. After changing the boarding pass at the airport, there is still one and a half hours before the plane takes off. At that time, the only choice we could make seemed to be to walk into the waiting room and wait for the plane to take off. But I remember, I came all the way and saw the sea by the side of the road. Fuzhou Airport is located by the sea. So at my initiative, we walked out of the airport and went to the seaside. The seaside is picturesque, and the sea beats against the rocks and makes a surging sound. The beach is almost endless. We were so excited that when we saw no one around, we took off our clothes and jumped into the sea, swimming happily to the sea. Later, we sat on the plane and talked about the excitement of jumping into the sea. This matter is often mentioned today, and this day has become a memorable day in our lives.
Our life is full of choices. Your choice is not only related to your mood, but also to your destiny. If you choose a positive, hard-working and upward lifestyle, your fate will get better and better, but if you choose a negative, passive and lazy lifestyle and work, your fate will get worse and worse. What kind of life and work style you choose depends on you, and your choice now determines your future.
After the listing of New Oriental, my focus shifted. In the past, more work was internal coordination, but now more work is dealing with external relations, including investors, capital relations in the international market, government cooperation, and various social activities.
But whether in the past or now, I prefer to think about some problems alone, although it is difficult to have such time. I think the busier you are, the easier it is to lose the general direction; The more trouble you have, the more likely you are to do something wrong. If you are restless, you can't reach the distance. What I need most now is to give myself the space and time to think about the New Oriental independently, and at the same time grasp the development pattern of the world and China, because grasping the big pattern is much more important than grasping the direction of the organization itself.
For New Oriental, transcendence is gradual, not abrupt. New Oriental has changed from a small training class to a national and large-scale education group company. From a small company that doesn't know what the shares are, it became a joint-stock group company and finally went public in the United States. It can be said that every step of New Oriental has surpassed yesterday.
I have been thinking about how New Oriental will surpass itself in all aspects in the future. In my opinion, the next step of New Oriental's transcendence is definitely not the accumulation of wealth; This is not to say that there are 6,543,800 students this year and 6,543,800 students next year, but a kind of transcendence. In fact, the strategic goal of New Oriental now is to combine the education of parents with the education of children.
Because, half of children's education problems in China can be attributed to their parents' education methods. Therefore, in the next 3-5 years, New Oriental may become the largest parent education institution in China. At first, our parental education will be realized by social welfare, but in the long run, combining parental education with student education will inevitably turn these students into customers of New Oriental.
If the behavior system of parents and children in China can be changed by the influence of New Oriental, parents and children are as polite as advocated by traditional China culture, and they know the pattern of western society and the trend of the world, then New Oriental will do something for China. But this goal needs to be combined with the commercial operation of New Oriental, which is a relatively arduous task.
We have all our ideas and plans, and the New Oriental Family Education Research and Guidance Center has also been established. Next, a series of parents' books will be published, and a group of experts will be trained to speak for parents and sent to all parts of the country to give speeches. Now I am a semi-expert in this field, and I happen to have practical experience-my daughter goes to middle school and my son goes to primary school. I am a typical parent.