Zhang Fang, in exchange for obedience; Cao Cao was kind to Guan Yu in exchange for Guan Yu laying down his life on Huarong Road. Washington, the founding father of the United States, took the initiative to forgive Payne's fist hatred in exchange for Payne's fanatical worship of himself. These tolerant actions turn hatred into friendship and obstacles into support. It can be seen that tolerance is a great driving force for change.
Tolerance does not mean indulgence. My father has been very strict with us since childhood. Whenever we are a little rude, he always scolds us severely. He taught us to cultivate independent personality from an early age. I remember one time when I was cooking, I ran to play without paying attention to whether Mars had fallen out, which led to a big fire at home. I thought I was sure to be severely criticized by my father. Just when I was uneasy, my father only said to me: "Remember to be careful in the future!" " "I was deeply moved by my father's tolerance. I will be careful and try my best in my future life, and at the same time lay the foundation for my independent ability. Therefore, I have been dealing with my own affairs since the third grade of primary school, and my parents have been working in the south with confidence since then. What would I be like now without my father's tolerance that day? Nowadays, parents always scold and beat their children, which is an infeasible method of discipline. Nowadays, teenagers' self-esteem is getting stronger and stronger, and some of them can't even tolerate a little injustice. A thick wall is virtually built between parents and children. Tolerance should be everywhere in life. Dear parents, please use your tolerant heart to melt the wall of estrangement with your children!
Wu Zetian is a woman, but her measurement can't make a man. Rebellion, he is a great genius-Luo, one of the four outstanding figures in the early Tang Dynasty, wrote an article for him. The article is wonderful, and his words of scolding Wu Zetian are also mean. A movement spread to Wu Zetian. After reading this article, he was not angry, but appreciated it. When she read, "What can I do for a six-foot orphan before a piece of rotten soil is dry?" She changed her face and said, "It is the fault of the Prime Minister that such talents are not needed." After reading it, he repeatedly praised: "Luo's article is great, but his martial arts may not be comparable." This means that as far as propaganda work is concerned, King Robin carries a lot of weight, and that pen is worth100000 soldiers. However, Xu Jingye's strength is not mediocre, so it's hard to lose. She really wants to use Luo for her own use. As the only female emperor in the history of China, Wu Zetian's great success cannot be said to have nothing to do with her broad mind and tolerance.
A generous person can achieve great things, and a generous person is relaxed and happy. This is the same as before. In dealing with people, there are often unsatisfactory places. If there is not enough tolerance and mind, there will inevitably be a lot of inexplicable pain. Narrow-minded people tend to be competitive, haggle over every ounce, envy and criticize others, and are narrow-minded and vengeful. Such people often lead a very heavy and painful life. Confucius said, "an upright man is open and poised, I am always worried."
A more tolerant attitude will make things better. The so-called "turning the war into a jade silk" and "the prime minister can hold the boat in his stomach" is a state of tolerance. A person full of personality charm must have a tolerant heart!
"Tolerance is a kind of elegance, a kind of free and easy, a kind of maturity. The mountains are silent because of tolerance, and the natural scenery is harmonious and moving; The sea is magnificent because of tolerance, and it has a profound and broad foundation; The ear of grain bowed its head because of its tolerance and persistence in heavy fruit. Everything, with its tolerance, is creating miracles for the world and giving life new vitality. " The speech of geographer Hou Renzhi gave us profound enlightenment.
It is because I understood its connotation that I changed my attitude towards life. I always treat complaints and accusations in my life with a tolerant attitude, and I can always face them calmly.
I often read Buddhist books, and what impressed me the most was three couplets: "A big belly can accommodate you, and Heaven can accommodate you. Why can't you accommodate yourself?" Open your mouth and laugh. Laugh over and laugh. Now, laugh at everything. ""a big belly can accommodate things that are difficult to accommodate in the world; Open your mouth and laugh at the ridiculous people in the world. " "Laugh at the past, laugh at the East and the West, laugh at the South and laugh at the North, and laugh at your ignorance; Look at things, look at the sky, look at the moon, look at it, and see how high and low others are. "These three couplets left a deep impression on me. He told us that we should be tolerant of others, tolerate things that are hard to tolerate in the world, be strict with ourselves, be tolerant of others, always see our ignorance of ourselves, and strive to explore the strengths of others. Only in this way can we see people's advantages, tolerate people's shortcomings and establish good interpersonal relationships with people. In life, there are inevitably no shortcomings and mistakes. When a person says something wrong or does something wrong, he always hopes to get the tolerance and understanding of others. I once read Zhu De's poem: "The world is big, and in the belly, people often cross the boat. "Visible, tolerance is a kind of mind, a kind of grace, a state, a kind of charm.
There are often scenes in life where others accuse and complain about you. If you don't treat it calmly, argue with the accuser or abuse it, things will get worse. If you are calm and let the complainer finish, you can explain calmly or simply don't quarrel with it, and things will not quarrel with it for the time being. Naturally, after waiting, he will find that what I have done is correct.
Tolerance in life is a kind of high-profile, high-style and tolerant person, which makes people feel cordial, natural and respectable, willing to be close to it, willing to work with it, convinced and sighed with relief. This naturally contributes to the success of the cause and is also the foundation of the foundation.
When I read the story of American President Lincoln's tolerance for others, I couldn't help but be impressed by Lincoln's way of being a man. His story has always infected me. Lincoln was born in the civilian class, cultivated land and worked as a shop assistant, and has been running around in trouble. Therefore, when he first arrived at the White House, none of the rich people in the cabinet looked up to him. In this regard, Lincoln didn't mind at all and showed great generosity. Treasury Secretary Chase was unconvinced by Lincoln's rule in the White House and coveted the presidency from time to time. He secretly dismantled Lincoln's platform, spread discontent, and threatened to resign five times in a row. Although Lincoln approved his resignation for the fifth time, he always thought he was a very talented person. Lincoln said, "Chase is a very talented person. Although he foolishly opposed me behind my back, I will never eradicate anyone. " Finally, according to his ability, Chase was appointed as the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court. Once, he and his son went to the street and met a group of soldiers. They casually asked a passerby, "What is this?" The idea is to ask which state legion it is, but it is not clear. The man thought he didn't know the army, so he replied rudely, "This is a federal army. You are such a fool! " In the face of reprimand, Lincoln didn't get angry, just said "thank you". The son is puzzled. He said to his son seriously, "It is a kind of happiness to have someone telling the truth in front of you. I am really a big idiot. " It is really commendable that Lincoln was so tolerant when he was president. It is also his tolerance that won people's trust and respect, thus achieving the success of his career.
Family needs tolerance, and the happiness of marriage cannot be separated from tolerance. Tolerance includes understanding, sympathy and forgiveness, that is, accepting each other to the greatest extent. Tolerance is the link between husband and wife's harmony and happiness in marriage, and it is the display of love and trust. To love a person, we should appreciate his advantages and accept his shortcomings. If you can't tolerate and understand your spouse's shortcomings and faults, the other party can't accept them. If this goes on, love will be in jeopardy.
Of course, tolerance does not mean that you can ignore principles and tolerate all unreasonable behaviors. "Major events stress principles, minor events stress style". "Big things are smart, small things are confused." Tolerance is a kind of understanding and consideration, honesty and kindness without violating major principles. This kind of knowledge and understanding is not to abandon principles, nor to adhere to the truth; This kind of honesty and kindness is not to be a good person, nor to want justice. Endless tolerance is weakness, endless accommodation is incompetence. Therefore, life needs tolerance, and you need to grasp the degree of tolerance so that you can be calm in this society.
The vastness of the sea lies in the gathering of streams, and the Wang Yang of life lies in the tolerance of fate. Heart, because of tolerance and become calm; Love is great because of tolerance.
Tolerance is a state of mind, a self-restraint and a realm; It is the experience of dealing with the world, the art of dealing with people, and the mind of being a man. Setbacks in life are inevitable. When you fail, tolerate yourself more, stop complaining about yourself and dispel the shadow of "once bitten, twice shy". There will be less regret and depression in my heart, and there will be masturbation of "winning or losing is a common thing for military strategists" and "just do your best", and my heart will help me get up.
Tolerance is a kind of giving, which can comfort others and enrich yourself; On the contrary, being stingy means haggling over every ounce, which not only harms others, but also harms yourself. People often do permanent harm to both sides because of some persistent. If we can all look at others with goodwill and put ourselves in each other's shoes, I believe you will understand each other's helplessness and helplessness. At this time, as long as we are tolerant, we can heal the wounds between two people. In fact, if you forgive others, it doesn't mean how great you are or how noble you are. In fact, you just care about others, because when you think and feel, what you want from others is what you want from yourself. It turns out that helping others open a window is to let themselves see a more complete sky.
Tolerance is the fossil of feelings. "Only tolerance can win people". Tolerance can finally make the person who hurts you go to the dock of the moral court, or be greatly encouraged by tolerance, give up the harm and surrender to a better life. Tolerance is still a wonderful thing. As long as you have it around you, everything in your life will be subtly influenced by it. This is a force that no one can resist, for the simple reason that no one is willing to give up the opportunity to treat life with a smile.
Everyone will be more tolerant, more understanding, more kind, more cherished and beautiful about life, and the ups and downs in life will turn into colorful music and play people's melodies.
Tolerance is an open-minded mind, a rare virtue, an art of life, an invisible appeal and cohesion, and the most shining light in the aura of personality charm. I am willing to praise all my life and follow forever.
"A great man," Carlisle said, "expresses his greatness by treating little people."
Bob Hoover is a famous test pilot and often performs flying at air shows. One day, he flew back to Los Angeles after performing at the San Diego Air Show. As described in Flight Magazine, at an altitude of 300 meters in the air, two engines suddenly stopped. Because of his skill, he controlled the plane to land, but the plane was seriously damaged. Fortunately, no one was hurt.
After the forced landing, Hoover's first act was to check the fuel of the plane. As he expected, the propeller plane he flew in World War II actually contained jet fuel instead of gasoline.
After returning to the airport, he asked to meet the mechanic who repaired the plane for him. The young mechanic was deeply saddened by his mistakes. Hoover burst into tears when he walked up to him. He caused the loss of a very expensive plane and almost killed three people.
As you can imagine, Hoover will fly into a rage, and it is expected that this highly respected precision pilot will denounce the negligence of the mechanic. However, Hoover did not scold the mechanic or even criticize him. Instead, he put his arm around the mechanic's shoulder and said to him, "To show that I believe you won't make mistakes again, I want you to help me maintain the plane tomorrow."
However, in real life, there is a kind of person who is rude and violent, and everything is as unforgivable as a heinous crime. They did it not out of a moment of anger, but out of their own nature. They condemn everyone, either because of something that this person has done or because of something that he will do. This reveals a more hateful temperament than cruelty, which is really terrible. They are so exaggerating to embarrass others that they can make a sesame-sized problem as big as a watermelon and take this opportunity to completely deny it. They are unreasonable "foremen" who can destroy heaven into a prison. In a rage, they pushed everything to the extreme. Good-natured people can forgive all mistakes, and they will insist that others mean well or just make mistakes because of carelessness.
A broad-minded person will tolerate other people's mistakes with a tolerant attitude, even regardless of personal gains and losses, and seek solutions to conflicts. He will also be understood and tolerated by others when he is in lq. I remember that the author and his friend Liu Jun were red-faced over a trivial matter, and no one would give in. So, I punched the tile in the corridor behind me to express my dissatisfaction. Who knows, a stream of bright red blood flowed down from the finger along the arm. Although I knew I was wrong, seeing my blood, I felt that I had won invisibly, so I quarreled with him more unreasonably through blood and pain. His face was full of surprise and anger. I thought I won, but he grabbed me and ran to the water room. I feel guilty watching him carefully clean my wound. Facing his sincere eyes, I was speechless. My friend's tolerance does not mean his weakness, on the contrary, it makes me realize my shallowness and ignorance. I took the initiative to communicate with him and apologized. We became good friends again. From then on, I cherish this precious friendship even more.
I wonder if you have seen Maitreya? Long earlobe, round body, always with a kind smile on his face. People all over the world say that they envy Maitreya for smiling at life without making trouble or getting angry. In my opinion, Miller's way of life is to "be pregnant, pretend things that are intolerable in the world, laugh often and laugh at ridiculous people in the world."
This is not to say that Maitreya stuffed everything into his stomach, no matter how big or small, no matter how mercilessly the world laughed at it. I think Maitreya can always laugh because of moderate tolerance.
Tell a story first! Guan Zhong and Bao are good friends. When they do business in partnership, Guan Zhong shares most of the money. People asked Bao why he was allowed to do so. Bao Shu Ya said that Guan Zhong's family is very poor, and his old mother must support him. It is natural to do so. In other things, Bao also gave way to Guan Zhong everywhere. And also recommended Guan Zhong to be an official. Finally, Bao went to Guan Zhong first, in exchange for Guan Zhong's sincere words: "I am born, my parents are also;" He who knows me, Bao also. "
Is Uncle Bao stupid? Not stupid. Like Maitreya, he has tolerance. Forgive other people's small shortcomings. Find the bright spot in others. So, is Bao still stupid?
Like Bao, Maitreya's tolerance is not appeasement, but is built on a deeper level. Correct tolerance and moderate tolerance are sometimes a good thing.
Let's talk about Maitreya's smile again! I think this is a tolerant smile and an ironic smile.
A tolerant smile is to tolerate your own shortcomings and explore the advantages of others; A sarcastic smile is to laugh at all kinds of people and satirize some self-righteous people. Just like the emperor in "The Emperor's New Clothes", he is self-righteous and cheated unconsciously, so he should be cynical. There are many people like the emperor now. Shouldn't Maitreya laugh?
Tolerance means that the sky embraces the free flight of birds; It is the sea that embraces the fish and braves the wind and waves; Is a broad heart, containing a colorful world. Tolerance is like warm and bright sunshine, which illuminates the heart surrounded by darkness.
We should learn to be tolerant. There are many unpleasant things in life, people you don't like. On the right, from another angle, you will find that the sun is shining and the sky is vast.
Don't say that others will not be tolerant. If you want others to forgive yourself, learn to forgive others first! Like Maitreya, tolerate others and yourself, and you will embark on a bright road and meet many people who pursue light.
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