Facing the future, college students often need a balance between reality and ideal. Full of enthusiasm and ideals, the students who have just stepped into the university campus are all in high spirits. Time flies, and four years of campus life have passed by. Some people are marching towards their dreams step by step, and some people's dreams are swallowed up by more and more reality.
What is an ideal? Ideal is what you want to do or what you want to get. Everyone will have ideals in his life, and people in different industries will have different ideals in different periods and different environments. When a mother's children are young, her ideal is to hope that they can grow up healthily. When her children grow up, her ideal will become the hope that their children will become talents as soon as possible. When entrepreneurs first step into society, the ideal is to have a stable job. When he has certain capital, his ideal is to become an entrepreneur and own his own company.
What is reality? Reality is objective. Whether you like it or not, accept it or not, you have to face it. No matter how noisy and clever the Monkey King is, he can't ignore the spell that Tang hated. No matter how cunning and heartless the criminal is, he still has to be afraid to face the shiny handcuffs in the hands of the police. Reality is reality, leaving you nowhere to hide and nowhere to escape.
Ideal and reality, sometimes very close, sometimes thousands of miles apart. For example, if you live in a city, you just want to have a hearty dinner with fish and meat. Just make a phone call or leave home, and your wish will come true. But if you live in a remote mountainous area, it may become an unattainable luxury. On the other hand, if people in the city want to breathe fresh air without pollution, others may say that you are dreaming, while people living in big mountains can feel it through the cracks in the surrounding walls without leaving home.
It is common sense that there is a distance between ideal and reality. No rational person will doubt its correctness and be serious enough to admit it. However, admitting this sentence is not a compromise to reality, but to better adhere to the ideal. A person, in reality, even if he can't lead the way, he can't stay still, and he must never go with the flow and be a walking corpse.
How to face the conflict between ideal and reality is a simple but complicated problem.
Ideal and reality, in the eyes of some people, are a pair of contradictory bodies, because ideal and reality are always very different, and sometimes even contradict each other. In the eyes of others, it is an inevitable causal relationship for success. Tiger Woods, a generation of professional golfer, was immediately moved after watching the TV program introducing the great golfer nicklaus. Since then, "becoming a great professional golfer like nicklaus" has become his dream. For this ideal, he worked hard and became the champion of Orlando Junior Golf Championship in just three months. However, when he turned his ideal into "buying a beautiful villa for his mother", he was loudly reprimanded by the first teacher Fei Erman. "Is your ideal only worth a villa that you can afford for $500 a week?" 65 years old, 438+08, suddenly woke up. Since then, he has worked harder and finally became the greatest golfer to date and the highest-paid sports star in the world, with an annual income of 1 billion dollars.
The ideal now is to do the job you don't love the most, but work hard on the job you don't love, earn enough money, solve the problem of eating, and then do the job you love the most. ...
In fact, ideal and reality can often have both. But you must have a plan, you must pay, and you must stick to it. 360 lines, each line is the best, so we can't say what work is good and what work is not good. Many people who make achievements actually start from small things and succeed only after hard work. A job, as long as you like it, is a good job, and it is especially suitable for you and can give full play to your strengths. I don't quite agree with not looking for a job. It is good to be able to choose a job while working, but it is difficult to choose a job while working under the severe employment situation. In this case, it is not necessarily a good thing to choose a job after getting a job. In this process, you will find that you have accumulated a lot of social experience and a lot of professional skills, and now enterprises pay more and more attention to experience. So accumulate experience first, which will also help you find a more ideal job in the future. Work, practice, save, and develop on your own under certain conditions. The distance between reality and ideal will become smaller and smaller. Keep on, and one day, you will have your cake and eat it.
Determine your goals, find your interests, give full play to your potential, and make your ideal close to reality, and your life will surely shine. When we pursue our ideals, of course, we can't ignore the practical problems. The most perfect thing is to combine ideal with reality. For example, finding a job that you love most can be divided into three steps: 1 Facing the reality, as long as you have enough food and clothing and a certain income, you can get material enjoyment from it. Proceed from reality and do the work you dislike the most. Do the work you don't like "well enough", and then talk about what ideal to pursue. brick by brick
People are sometimes very fragile, and it is difficult to convince themselves, which is the so-called "bystanders see clearly, but the authorities are fascinated." As the old saying goes, "It is a true gentleman to watch chess without saying anything". Is that really the case? It's hard to say. As Bernard Shaw said, "There are two tragedies in life: one is not getting what you love, and the other is getting what you love." Such easy words can't hide the heaviness inside. The conflict between ideal and reality is probably like this. It is either gain or loss, but between gain and loss, both are sad. After getting something, it is the pain of loss, and after losing it, it is the complaint that there is no good start. Based on the world, people will never be satisfied, spend their lives complaining forever, and are doomed to suffer all kinds of torture. Many people don't know the true meaning of life until they are robbed. Why can people know everything only when they are dead or suffering? Mencius' lesson that "if you want to be powerful, you must first suffer from it, work hard on its bones, starve its body, empty its body, and do whatever it takes" is that. I still haven't mentioned how to deal with the conflict between ideal and reality here. Did I say something irrelevant? Definitely not. Handle the relationship between the two, only after the loss outweighs the gain can we understand that this is a person who knows nothing about the past. "Drums don't need a heavy hammer", and people who know it can easily climb out. Wang Anshi wrote in "Visiting Cicada Mountain": "It is rare to see that the world is always in danger and people are rare. Therefore, those who have no will can't reach it, and they are interested in strength, and Fukashi also. " It is impossible for ordinary people to achieve the organic combination of ideal and reality.
The word "memory" is just like the word "nostalgia". The past often brings people a longing and yearning for the moon. Time often filters out a lot of things that people don't want to recall, leaving things worth remembering in their imagination. Therefore, the ancient memories in Memories of Time Past are wonderful, especially when memories of time past are not so satisfied with reality, and memories of time past become a mirror of their reality. Most intellectuals, who take criticism as their responsibility, often regard distant ancient times as an era of pinning their ideals because of their dissatisfaction and complaints about their own times. They put too many ideal colors in their imagination, turn the real feelings in front of them into distant visions, and then regard the distant stories in fantasy as mirrors of the world in front of them. Therefore, in their works, it is often the joy and tranquility of ancient times, just like the Peach Blossom Garden written by Tao Yuanming in later generations. -Ge Zhaoguang's History of Ancient China Thought. Knowing the hardships of "in ancient times, there were fewer people and more animals, and people were overwhelmed by animals, insects and snakes", I understood the hardships of "in ancient times, people and animals moved to avoid the cold and gathered in the shade to escape the heat", and felt that "the former king had no palace, lived in a camp kiln in winter, lived in a nest in summer, did not cremate, ate vegetation and drank the blood of birds and animals." I found that ancient times was not an ideal paradise. People's yearning for ancient ideals is far from the real life in ancient times.
Ideal and reality, in which the most important thing is to grasp the direction and opportunity, but also to respect the facts and suit our own reality. It is understandable that we say that one loves the countryside. But a person who loves with idealism should say that his love is very fragile. Once he stayed in the countryside for a long time, when he understood the "loopholes", it was completely different from what he beautified, and the mental and even physical collapse was bleak. It's like falling from a very high place and never getting up again. Even worse. In an idealized world, what is cherished is his relatives, even his life. We often say that the injury between relatives is the most serious, which is why. Furthermore, there are loopholes in a person's life. Does he still have the courage to live when he finds that it is irreparable? What people are most afraid of is not external interference and blows. The biggest pain is that the world where they send their feelings suddenly explodes and they are unprepared. It was the collapse of the whole spiritual world. Without direction, you will always be lost in the contradiction between reality and ideal. Give up on yourself, broken cans and broken falls.
Back to the topic of our college students, most of us have lofty ideals, full of illusions and hopes for the future, and often "design" ourselves for some specific things, such as study, job hunting, love and marriage. However, whether this "design" can finally be realized is limited by many realistic conditions. For example, although applying for a university major is "voluntary", it also has physical conditions and other conditions. If the conditions do not allow, you will have to give up reluctantly. Therefore, college students must face up to the contradiction between ideal and reality and improve their psychological quality and social adaptability. Specifically, the following points should be achieved: 1. Improve the level of understanding and establish a correct world outlook and methodology. We college students should be fully aware of the contradiction between ideal and reality, admit it and accept it. You should know that a bright future is always full of ups and downs, and setbacks and conflicts are inevitable in one's life. In this case, don't walk into a dead end. You should think that "everything will come naturally" and "a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise", and firmly believe that victory will come eventually, and the sunshine will be brighter after the storm! 2. Draw nutrition from books and set up lofty aspirations. Excellent novels and biographies encourage college students to make progress. College students should follow the example of those who have made great achievements in adversity at home and abroad to spur and encourage themselves; Taking the famous sayings and aphorisms that inspire enterprising as the motto ... all these will help college students to form a correct outlook on life, become useful talents, enrich their cultural life and cultivate their sentiments, so as not to fall into a negative and decadent spiritual situation. 3. Be an "optimist", not a "alas" person. Optimism is the golden key for college students to keep their emotional health. To be optimistic, we must proceed from reality and be good at using materialism and dialectics to analyze and deal with problems; If you are optimistic, you must always be ready to meet difficulties. As Mao Zedong said, "It is fun to fight against heaven; Fighting the ground is interesting; It's fun to fight others. " You should be able to feel happiness and happiness in the struggle against difficulties. 4. College students should consciously hone themselves and cultivate strong will and good psychological quality. According to the characteristics of being easily stimulated and impulsive, learn to control passion and form the habit of doing things according to reason. Whether an individual's desire is satisfied or not often does not depend on human will. Therefore, college students should cultivate patience with unsatisfied desires. In this way, even when there is a sharp conflict between ideal and reality, we can maintain a healthy mentality.
Ideal is not only an ideological problem, but also a practical problem. If reality is this shore and ideal is the other shore, then practice is the bridge connecting the two, and ideal is not equal to reality. The realization of the ideal depends on down-to-earth and persistent struggle and a tortuous road full of difficulties and obstacles. Practice is a bridge to the other side of ideal.
The ideal flower is brilliant, and the ideal fruit is sweet. Ideals must be watered with hard sweat if they want to blossom and bear fruit.
Ideal and reality, in your heart, face it correctly! Reality is at your feet, and ideal is at the end of the road. Go forward on the scales and never look back to realize your dreams!