Some people complain that they are unlucky, while others are lucky.
Some people spend their lives as insignificant soldiers under others. Some people still strive to achieve their ultimate goal and make themselves masters even if they work in the lowest mail room.
Some people are masters of their own destiny, while others are passers-by who drift with the tide.
Last week, I attended a seminar in Los Angeles and sat down to listen to the worst speech I have ever seen. An 82-year-old man is selling some kind of trading software, claiming that if you give him $5,000, he can guarantee you to make a lot of money. However, at the end of the seminar, he ended his speech with a classic line, that is, "anything is possible, the decision is up to you." I don't know why, this sentence aroused my interest.
I thought of SaraBlakely, a fashion icon who invented Spanx body-shaping underwear. A few weeks ago, she appeared on the cover story of Forbes magazine This 4 1 year-old woman is now a self-made billionaire, thanks to great ideas, good attitude and the motivation to persist in starting a business.
Every successful great entrepreneur will face insurmountable obstacles-despite their success. There are always countless people telling them that they are wishful thinking and should give up this idea and find a "real job".
Hammer or nail?
Are you a spectator drifting with the tide or a strong master of your own destiny?
Psychologists say that some of us are born with a "strong tendency of internal control". These people believe that they can control their own destiny. For them, every setback is an easy problem to solve-let them achieve their ultimate goal. They don't care about being shut out because they believe it will bring them closer to success.
Others are born with a "strong tendency of external control." They believe that their position in life is certain. Fate depends on the master of others, not yourself. If something good happens to them, it is luck, not the result of their efforts.
Last week, I watched a good play. greg smith, the former vice president of Goldman Sachs, published his resignation letter in The new york Times Review, attacking the cultural changes of Goldman Sachs in the past 12 years.
When I saw this news, I had this idea: Boy, it's disgusting that there has been no substantial progress somewhere for so long. I'd better resign or leave the industry altogether (although I don't know Mr. Smith's future plans). If this happens, I may want to slap my employer.
However, this is to see the world from the perspective of nails.
The story of Sarah blakely or Jeremy Lin looks at the world from the perspective of a hammer. We are all faced with unexpected bad news. The way we choose to deal with these difficulties determines the success of our long-term career.
The following are 10 rules to ensure that you can control your own destiny and not be a passer-by in life:
1. Remind yourself every morning that you are in control of your own destiny. So, did you try your best? Are you stepping up your efforts to find a new job, sales or promotion? Still not taking action and waiting for good luck?
2. Be unswervingly optimistic. We all have bad times in our lives, and things don't develop in the direction we hope. I usually go to bed as early as possible, and when I wake up, I have a new perspective and can get rid of negative emotions. This may sound like a cliche, but you must always be optimistic, even if your chances of success are slim. Your emotions will infect others.
Attitude determines height, not talent. My former boss wrote this sentence in the footer of the email. He doesn't always follow these words, but it is right. If you have the wrong attitude, your intelligence, academic qualifications of famous schools and a series of work experiences of famous enterprises are meaningless. The wrong attitude is worse than the bad smell.
4. Set goals that exceed your greatest expectations for the future. We always set ourselves various key restrictions.
Be modest and listen to other people's opinions. People who cheer themselves up through positive thinking, or people who achieved a lot when they were young, sometimes feel tall. According to my personal experience, the most successful people are good at listening to opinions. They know themselves and all their strengths and weaknesses.
6. You can do anything in life-as long as it makes sense to you. Whether it's the queen of body shaping underwear, the king of used cars in Glenfolk, the best food critic in Glenfolk, or the heiress with huge wealth who wants to help homeless pets. The family we were born into, the education we received or didn't receive, and our humble origins can't determine our ultimate orientation in life. As long as you love your career, you are moving towards your long-term goal.
7. The frustration from heaven is not God's rejection. You don't have to be a religious person to make a sound for this sentence. Fundamentally speaking, this means that we usually hope that things will develop according to our expectations. When things don't go well, we feel depressed and disappointed. However, several years later, when we look back on the "professional killer" we once thought, we realize that fate has opened the door in another direction, and in the long run, life will be better.
8. You don't have to be your own boss to be a hammer. You can achieve your ultimate goal by working for Goldman Sachs or other big companies. The key is to remember where you want to develop and how to make full use of your present conditions. Sometimes, we work under a great boss for a period of time and learn a lot of experience to make ourselves a great boss. Sometimes, we can learn how to be a good boss by working under a bad boss. We know all the things we can't do.
9. Failure is not terrible-but deal with the risks you take skillfully. In order to succeed, we must try. Sometimes, we will fail completely when we do this. The most successful people have experienced failure. But they persisted. Most of them don't take reckless risks. In fact, they try their best to minimize the risks on the way. They can always learn from their failures, which usually lays the foundation for their future success.
10, persevere. Don't lose heart when you are in adversity. If you can see hope when you are sad, then hope will eventually come and future success will be better.