In recent years, with the improvement of people's living standards, many families have become increasingly wealthy, and children's pocket money has been rising unconsciously.
Some students are experts in dressing. Nike's coat and shoes, Adidas' schoolbag and Sony's MP3…… are all famous brands. Other boys usually carry a few hundred dollars with them every day for so-called "eating, drinking and having fun", surfing the Internet in Internet cafes, playing games and making friends with unhealthy teenagers. Some people already have their own mobile phones ... these phenomena are no longer uncommon.
Why is this happening? I think there are several reasons for this situation: first, the people's living standards have improved, and the family's economic situation has been greatly improved; Second, most families are only children at present, and their parents are too fond of them; Third, the influence of bad social atmosphere. Among them, parents' excessive doting on their children is the main reason. In the tradition of family education in China, parents always use pocket money to cultivate their children's good behavior habits and concepts, such as frugality and financial self-care. However, this advanced consumption consciousness is not suitable for middle school students and will bring them many adverse effects.
First, it will encourage them to form some bad habits. First, the habit of eating snacks. In front of the school gates of some schools, there are many snack bars selling snacks and drinks, and there are also many stalls selling cheap popsicles, cotton candy and fried food around. Eating snacks is not good for your health, what's more, in this environment, there are often some three-no foods for sale. This is not only a waste of money, but also unhealthy.
Second, the habit of wasting. Many students think they have money, so they don't cherish many things. For example, if you buy a hearty lunch and say "no appetite", you will "recycle" it intact; A bite of steamed bread for breakfast was generously left to the "trash can", and so on. The resources on the earth are limited; How much blood and sweat his parents gathered with the money he spent carelessly.
Secondly, it is easy for children to compare with each other, which leads to psychological imbalance of some children. Today, you have a meal in KFC, which costs tens of yuan; Tomorrow I'll set up a table for several hundred dollars in XX restaurant to see who is more graceful. Nowadays, children don't have much pocket money in their hands, and they are always envious and embarrassed to see their peers often spend money on this and that. Dealing with this kind of envy and embarrassment is luck. If it is not handled well, the consequences will be unimaginable.
Thirdly, it will set a bad example for others and put pressure on parents. Some children, because of their immature psychology and insufficient ability to distinguish right from wrong, see that other students have so much money to spend, so they also ask their parents for it. However, not all parents are rich. I believe that many parents are ordinary workers with average income now, but in order to satisfy their children and even safeguard their "dignity", they have to pinch a little for their children. But children don't feel bad, and it's impossible to spend money where it shouldn't be spent.
Fourth, it will make children form a wrong view of money, thinking that "money is everything" and "money makes the mare go", and they don't know how to study hard and take responsibility. Some children ignore their parents' advice and teachers' instruction and only know how to eat, drink and be merry. Forget the responsibility of living independently, supporting parents and making contributions to society in the future.
Finally. It is also the most serious, which may lead some children to commit crimes. The so-called "from frugality to luxury, luxury is hard to be frugal." Your family may be relatively rich today, but no one can guarantee to be rich forever. If you form the luxury habit, how will you face poverty in the future? Maybe some people can survive by their own will, but some people will be hard to extricate themselves.
As parents, who doesn't love children and who doesn't want to pay for them? But what should parents give their children? This is a question worth pondering. It is obviously wrong to give money blindly, but we should give them knowledge and correct guidance. Money is a double-edged sword. Poor use will hurt people-parents must fully realize this. On the issue of dealing with children's pocket money.
The first is to cultivate labor consciousness. Parents can use pocket money as a reward. For example, what housework children have done and what achievements or progress they have made in their studies can be rewarded as pocket money according to the prior agreement. Let children form the most glorious concept of labor.
The second is to cultivate a reasonable consumption concept. Spending money is also a profound knowledge. If children are not allowed to master and use pocket money by themselves, they will not spend it reasonably when they go to school, which is not conducive to their stepping into society and living independently in the future.
The third is to cultivate self-reliance ability. Many parents don't realize that giving their children pocket money is their "growing need". It is of great significance to let children take their own cars, buy stationery and books, and cultivate their independent living ability through "purchasing", the most basic social lifestyle.
Pocket money is an unavoidable problem for every family. How to treat "money" is an important pillar of moral construction in life. Children's attitude towards pocket money directly affects the formation of their moral values in adulthood. As parents, first of all, we must never indulge our children economically and cultivate their frugal thoughts from an early age; Secondly, on this basis, teach them how to spend and allocate pocket money and master some basic economic knowledge. In a word, children should use their pocket money reasonably.