If a person's "first birth" is to leave his mother's body and come to this world, then his "second birth" is to leave his parents' supervision and become an independent self. This is the weaning stage of adolescence, and the child completely cuts off the "umbilical cord" of the psychological connection between the individual and his parents and moves towards adulthood.
However, children who are accustomed to dependence and protection still bear the brand of parental rearing patterns, and parents often cannot completely let go of their children because of fear. Many children get along with their parents in this way, which seriously affects the development of family relations.
There are many reasons for family conflicts, most of which are caused by the gap between children and parents, which is the so-called "generation gap".
There is no denying that the "generation gap" is inevitable, which is a historical reason.
After all, parents have come from hard times, and they are probably a little behind the times. Just because they are old-fashioned doesn't mean they don't know the world better than you. Even if you have a higher education and earn more money, don't look down on your parents. What they can do, you may never do, but all your achievements belong to them. You may not listen to them, but you must respect them.
In fact, parents are not as unreasonable as we thought. We must understand their psychology as parents: watching their children grow up slowly, and finally we must break free from our own protection. Parents' psychology must be full of reluctance and worry. Children are often "newborn calves are not afraid of suffering", full of momentum and prone to contradictions. In this case, it is wisest to exchange your honesty for your parents' understanding and trust. Put forward your reasonable requirements to your parents and explain the reasons, leaving them an opportunity to express their views. In this case, the success rate will definitely increase greatly.
If you hold your parents' attitude from the beginning, you will certainly not understand your attitude, even if you argue with them, it will be in vain. Parents very much hope that their children will discuss some things with themselves to show their attention. If they are satisfied, they will naturally leave you with greater democracy.
Understand and respect your parents. As long as you work hard, the generation gap can be bridged!
Parents' educational level, status, life experience and psychological quality will affect their upbringing. Modern parents are divided into cold type, autocratic type, protective type, painful type, superman type and centrifugal type, which determines their relationship with their children.
No matter what kind of parents you are, if you can master some skills, being a filial boy is often a magic weapon to get along with your parents.
Parents sometimes need their children to love them. Now many of our friends' parents are not young, and some have even retired. Many times, they have to face the reality that their children are not around. At this time, their mood is also complicated. It may be lost, or it may be lonely.
At this time, a greeting, a small card that is often brought home from afar, will be their greatest happiness and comfort. Maybe they will be happy for your letter for a few days, and even tell friends and relatives, but in front of you, they say don't write if you have no time; Buy them a birthday cake. They may complain about waste, but in fact they are very happy. Parents, sometimes you are more like a child than you are now! Your little ideas will make them proud and excited. No effort, no effort. Why not?
Of course, life is not always smooth sailing. What should I do if I have problems with my parents?
First of all, we must analyze who is right and who is wrong. If it's really your parents' problem, you should explain it to them sincerely. After all, we have grown up and can have our own independent views, but don't resent your parents for not understanding you! If you are wrong, admit your mistake and please them again. In any case, you should break the deadlock, because your parents will always be your elders and you should respect them.
In addition, there is another problem, that is, sometimes you might as well listen to your parents' suggestions. Many times, we find that our hasty decision is only a young impulse, and often lacks comprehensive consideration. It's no use thinking "I should have listened to my parents" afterwards. After all, parents have rich experience in dealing with the world and see things more comprehensively and objectively. You can't understand these until you have experienced them.
"Every family has its own problems", and family relations are always so complicated. When you are bored, I suggest you find some family photos or look through some childhood treasures, and you will be full of confidence again! Home is always the loveliest!