1. Don't do anything that hurts yourself. Some people say, "Love is the biggest thing in life." Yes, the love you think is actually the painful love of two people. I didn't know the hardships and pains until I experienced it. So don't do anything that hurts yourself in love, including hurting your feelings, hurting your partner's family or hurting people around you. Only in this way can you be more able to bear all the pain and protect yourself better. Don't think that loving someone means loving all of her. Even if you don't love them, you shouldn't hurt each other. You should protect yourself better.
Don't speak ill of you in front of each other. Nowadays, many people like to speak ill of others. Some people may feel that they don't like being teased by others in their own world, but the fact is that each of us may leave a bad impression on ourselves in front of others. Especially in feelings, the other person is also a person, and it is very likely that he will have a bad evaluation of you. I once saw an example: a girl just started to fall in love with her boyfriend, who may not be together often because of work reasons. After discovering it, she began to say to her boyfriend, "Don't you work hard?" The boyfriend didn't care about the girl either, and finally the girl expressed her dissatisfaction. At that time, the girl's heart must be very uncomfortable, but she didn't tell her boyfriend why, and the result can be imagined. Some people will say that I am wrong and want to change ... but some people will tell her that I shouldn't have done this in the first place ... If a girl says that about me in front of you, it's just because she feels rejected by you, she will find various reasons to refute it. In fact, the girl is also very wronged.
3. If you love someone, you must know how to let go. Many people say that love is selfish and independent. If you love someone, you should think about when he will leave you. Then you must let go. Don't always think that love is unconditional. In fact, love is also a kind of fulfillment. To love someone, you need to fulfill yourself. When a person feels that he has no better choice, he should take the initiative to leave him instead of pestering him blindly. Love needs to be fulfilled, and love also needs to be given up properly. I have such a friend around me. After she talked about a love affair, she put everything in her boyfriend's position as his world, but he didn't care too much about and cherish her kindness, which made him feel very tired. Later, her boyfriend left her, and it was difficult for her to love others during that time, because she really didn't have that feeling and respect in her heart. There are some things we all know that we should put down in time. If the other person still loves himself after that time, then letting go at this time can make the other person know how to cherish us more, so learning to love someone is really vulgar but right.
4. Don't use love to consume your best self. Someone said, "Love is not bread. Love means wanting to be together, getting married, having children, and then being together. " "Love" is an emotional consumption. Love only brings a sense of dependence and caress between two people, but if you use love to consume your best self, then you will never get each other. Some people say that "love means you give everything for me, even if you don't love yourself", but it doesn't matter if you don't love yourself. There is nothing wrong with this sentence. You love someone, which shows that you are willing to give everything for her. But if you love someone, you have to give everything for her? Then this deviates from the original intention of two people ... I think this method can help us get the best of ourselves; But you don't realize this … that's not love ~