When I was in the third grade, my grandmother's mother (that is, the woman I called "Mrs.") died. Grandma's mother is a young lady in the Republic of China. In my memory, she will always be a clean and elegant old lady. Even if the clothes have been worn for many years and are white, they are all washed clean, neatly folded and dressed straight without any wrinkles. When my wife is old, she will bask in the sun and embroider clothes under the window. Later, when she was old and blind, she just sat there in the sun. From time to time, she always fumbled for her collar, smoothed her skirt, and even inserted a willow branch or plum blossom in a small pottery bottle in front of the window. Her childhood and adolescence, even when she gave birth to a child, were in the Republic of China. Although my wife was old when I was born, she was definitely not beautiful, but from her manners, demeanor and temperament, I can imagine her demeanor when she was young. I seem to have seen a small portrait of her when she was young. My impression is a palm-sized photo, yellow and black, and I can hardly see her face. But that gesture and temperament surprised me. Later, when I saw the photos of the famous beauty Xia Meng, I always felt like a wife. But it's been too long, and I can't tell whether my wife really has such a photo, or whether the days when I saw her with my own eyes when I was young were so shocking that I had an illusion of memory. Xia Meng My grandmother's "tacky" life, my wife's eldest daughter, that is, my grandmother, never pays attention to these. My grandmother is a very tacky person. She has a louder voice than ordinary women and works better than men. I've been sweating all the time in the field. As soon as I lift my clothes and wipe them, I'm done. Pants are in a mess and covered in mud. Just cooking, you don't have to learn any tricks at all-talking. An excellent thing is to eat and work quickly in the field. Grandma always taught me: "Eating in a pot can save a bowl. Why are the clothes so clean? It's too hard to wear! What flowers to put? Can you eat it, can you wear it? " Grandma thinks about the vegetable garden and fields all day. At noon, I always bury my head in the field to weed and get a dark brown tan. But grandma's embroidery is very good. She always sits by the window, sewing in the sun, and occasionally sings a few plays, saying that her wife taught her. What grandma does is mostly rough work such as collecting insoles, making lasagna and sewing aprons. It's tacky and rough, far less leisurely than her wife who embroidered flowers on clothes while singing opera. This daughter of my wife really didn't inherit her elegance and delicacy at all. The only thing I can boast about is that my grandmother went to a girls' school and can write very beautiful words. It is said that she had a special tutor when she was a child. She can also write articles, which can guide my composition until I go to middle school. When I was a child, every weekend afternoon, I always did my homework on my stomach, biting my pen and thinking about "suppressing" my composition, while my grandmother was mixing paste and pasting insoles layer by layer. Grandma likes to chat with me endlessly. One minute she told me that Zhang's parents were unkind to Li's family, the next she told me that she would water the vegetable garden when the sun went down, the next she told me my composition, and the next she taught me to study hard and get into college. At some point, I talked about the bitter days of that year. She said that my grandfather went through a political movement and was sent to other places. My parents-in-law were in poor health, so my grandmother took three or four children and planted eight acres of land. It is said that she works very hard and earns a lot of work points, but she is caught in the problem of arm pain; She said that she was also criticized for marrying a "counter-revolutionary" grandfather; She said that she was unlucky and grandpa had a bad temper. She has always been fierce and hit her, but her mother-in-law not only refused to persuade her, but also added fuel to the fire. I can't stand running back to my mother's house (I can't say it's my mother's house because the house is rented) and being beaten. My wife also asked her to go back and said that women are getting married ... When she said this, her eyes were red and she lifted a greasy apron to wipe her face. You see, she is so tacky, and she has nothing to achieve in her life. The theme of life is to have children, repeatedly boasting that she can grow eight acres of land by herself and complaining endlessly. I have to restrain my composition and put up with her nagging. She also likes being in charge, worrying, fighting for work and bossing around. Grandma is really a tacky person, completely different from her wife's elegance and calmness. Later, when I grew up, my wife had died for many years before I knew something about that year. It turns out that my wife is the daughter of the acting county magistrate of Hefei, a real big lady. Grandma said that when she was a child, she really saw the scene on TV that when she got into the house, someone pulled the door and two rows of servants lined up to meet her. Everywhere she goes, people call her "Big Miss" and grandma calls her "Little Miss". The man my wife married-grandma's father-is also suitable, with a house, a car and servants. My wife usually orders clothes when she is free, and watches a play and has tea in the afternoon. There are servants at home and nothing to do. In this way, my wife may really be a delicate and elegant lady in the Republic of China. After all, I have seen her with my own eyes many years later. She is really different from ordinary rural old ladies. Although the appearance is old, ugly and poor, the feeling is just different. At that time, I just went to college and read some articles on the Internet, such as Miss Zhao Si, a famous lady in the Republic of China. My wife who has died for many years has become more and more elegant in my mind. I think I should also learn from her. After suffering and years, I still have a calm temperament. I even had a great yearning for that era, thinking that it was the best time for famous artists to come forth in large numbers and celebrities to bloom. But later, when our generation grew up, the elders were no longer taboo about not telling their children, so I heard more stories of that year, which reflected my childhood memories one by one. It turned out that the marriage between grandma and grandpa was almost "sold" because of the relatively high bride price. Grandpa used to have a child bride who was beaten away by his mother. Grandma only knew that the other party had a daughter when she got married. I didn't expect this daughter to be a few years younger than her. Everyone in the village said that Grandpa had a bad temper and Grandpa's mother had a worse temper, but there was no way. The bride price has already bought fields for his wife and uncle (grandma's brother). She dare not run, and she can't run, because running home is not only useless, but also will be returned to the bride price. However, my mother-in-law is really mean. When a family eats, grandma will never serve. She can only cook in the kitchen and stutter, only dare to order a little. Mother-in-law should lock up all the lard leftovers in the room in case she steals them. Later, Grandpa was labeled as a "counter-revolutionary". In this way, can a family share joys and sorrows? Not really! For the villagers, she became a home for sinners. The villagers let grandma break off relations with grandpa and let her report grandpa; While bullying her at work, she gave her the hardest and most tiring job, which she also called "reform exercise". When I got home, my grandmother was still regarded as an outsider, and my mother-in-law hated it. She thought it was her who reported my grandfather outside, saying that she had stolen things from home ... but my grandmother couldn't help it. Two generations of women jointly wrote a record of the fate of women in troubled times. When the situation was turbulent, grandma's grandfather and father, that is, his wife's father and husband were shot. So, my wife fled to Jiangnan with several children. However, they have free travel expenses, but they have no skills. They rent a house, can't farm, can't do business, and don't even have the most basic skills to make a living. Once, I lost the status of "Miss Big", and my wife suddenly lost everything. In a few years, the travel expenses have been spent and the jewelry has been sold almost, but my son is old and will get married and buy a house and land in the future ... what should I do? It's obvious that you can't make enough money just by washing people's clothes with your two daughters-how many rich people here are willing to hire people to wash clothes? What should my son do as an apprentice? As a result, the wife's three daughters embarked on different life paths. The eldest daughter married a rich peasant landlord, that is, my grandfather. Grandpa is famous for his bad temper, fierce mother, child bride and teenage daughter. Grandma bought land money at the expense of marrying such a family. My second daughter, my big aunt, later married not far from my wife. My husband is also a famous grumpy person. His only advantage is that he is a long-distance runner, which was a very profitable industry in those days. The youngest daughter, that is, my aunt and grandmother, stayed in Jiangbei when she fled and became a child bride for others. I think my wife's life experience is legendary. In such a wandering and turbulent era, just to survive, we must do our best. I admire my wife for her courage. As a former "big lady", she not only escaped with four children, but also ran safely to Jiangnan and arranged her respective destinations. At least her children can live a decent life in their later years. Even my aunt and grandmother who stayed in Jiangbei were later contacted. When my aunt married her daughter, my grandfather took the bus ferry behind my back to attend the wedding. At that time, I was a little girl soaked in sugar water. I secretly despised each other's bed. There was only a mattress and straw under it. Later, their children have their own ambitions. In their twilight years, their sisters can often talk on the phone and get together occasionally. I said my wife was a strange girl, not only because she saved several children in the turmoil, but also because she saved the elegance of her life-even if she rented a house in the countryside, she had to put a bunch of flowers in front of the window. However, there is only one thing I don't respect her: she has never done any work in her life, at least not a day's farm work. This is unimaginable in rural areas. In this family, whether it is washing clothes, doing farm work or working, it is her children who are doing it. She has lived in the field for decades and has never learned to farm. In the countryside, I can't even farm. How does the wife survive and live a long life? After all kinds of "turmoil", you still have leisure to carve clothes and accessories. Are you interested in going to the fair? This is incredible in the eyes of local people. My wife's needlework is excellent, and the pattern is tied well and quickly. She can also guide others to do needlework when she is dizzy. She can also sing operas, and her accent and manners are excellent. But in that turbulent era, what is the use of these abilities in rural areas? It is not as important as beating a bucket of rice in the field. But she can't even recognize leeks and wheat. When the wife was young, it was her father and husband who provided her with superior living conditions; After fleeing, it was the travelling expenses and jewelry that she carried with her to maintain her life for several years; Later, I got the support of the children. It can even be said that the wife got the whole family's land and livelihood by relying on a daughter who is a child bride and two daughters who are married to rich people, and helped her only son get married and have children. But do all her daughters marry well? It looks good, because their in-laws are richer. It's true, okay? One is a child bride (you can ask the grandmothers about the identity of a child bride), and the other two are afraid to run away after being beaten by their husbands, because in those days, it was ok for a daughter-in-law to be "killed". If she runs away, her parents will have to refund the bride price. None of them wants to give their mother and brother this trouble. So my grandmother is tacky, rough and elegant. Because she suffered everything that should have been borne by her parents early. When she was young, she exchanged her beauty for a heavy bride price. Later, she secretly subsidized her family while raising children. Although this behavior made her even more embarrassed at her husband's house, how could grandma bear to watch her mother and brother starve? It is right to support the elderly, but it is too early for her to take on this responsibility. Every woman is a pearl, only careful maintenance can keep its luster, and poor life will slowly wear it off. My wife has been able to keep this honor because her daughters lost it long ago-my grandmother and my aunts and grandmothers. Elegance comes at a price, and someone has to bear the price, either themselves or others. Most of the celebrities you know in the Republic of China are from famous families, because ordinary people can't raise flowers that will never be defeated. Today, you see landscape paintings. In those days, I regarded it as a life-and-death field. I don't judge my wife's life because I can't do better than her. Their suffering is a tragedy of the times, which is beyond her personal control. The environment of her birth, growth and marriage required that she must be a big lady and an official wife, and she did. Later, fate pushed her to a completely unfamiliar environment, and she did not give up raising. Fate is unfair to her, but if the fate of the times has not changed, is this ending fair to her drivers and servants? During the period of the Republic of China, whether it was the upper class or the ordinary class, whether it was a lady or a poor girl, life was precarious, let alone anything else. My grandmother is tacky, but not as tacky as her. Who will keep this family? If you ask me if I want to go back to the Republic of China? I tell you, I don't want to! Better be a peaceful dog than a troubled person. On the second day of junior high school, I saw the Yangtze River for the first time in Wuhu, and it was like a long scroll in the misty rain. After I came back, I excitedly said to my grandmother, "The Yangtze River is as beautiful as landscape painting." Grandma said, "Today, what you see is a landscape painting. At that time, I regarded it as a field of life and death. " Please don't judge my grandfather, grandmother, wife or anyone. Because it wasn't you who lived in that era. Whether you are a young lady or a poor servant girl, in that turbulent period, the most important thing is not whether you are elegant, but whether you have a life. I appreciate grandma's vulgarity more than my wife's elegance. But sometimes, there is no choice in the direction of fate. Today you see that the Republic of China is a long picture with celebrities and masters. But in those days, for them, these were fields of life and death. More true stories unknown in the world are here -T Anonymous Zone (two volumes) (Zhihu praised anonymous nine-year emotional story) 72 Buy.