It turned out that she was not a grandmother, but a girl who claimed to have been depressed for ten years.
However, it is disgusting to wash the white with depression, which virtually cuts the knife to the real depressed patients.
Why do you say that? Zhi Hu said to the Lord:
Like other people who call themselves depression to gain sympathy, she is pushing depression further and further on the road of stigma. "
Let those patients who should be concerned suffer more discrimination and ridicule. When they finally got up the courage to tell the truth, what they got was:
"I usually look cheerful, how can I be depressed?"
"Young, what depression!"
As everyone knows, it is these short words that are pushing them into the abyss and there is no way out.
You don't feel pain, you don't care, but please don't use depression as a shield.
Over the years, more and more young people have suffered from mild or severe depression.
I can't help feeling, what's wrong with contemporary young people? Why are they depressed?
There is a question in Zhihu: "The society is progressing, but why is the pressure on young people increasing?" ? Even depressed? "
Many netizens retorted: "Who told you about social progress?"
Indeed, the progressive productivity is the labor force. In recent years, the labor force in China has reached a peak.
However, the available resources have not increased much, and some industries are even declining.
As early as the middle of this year, some netizens concluded: "In 20 19 years, you will either be unemployed or on the way to unemployment."
"Male, 30 years old, Beijing coordinates. In September, he left the state-owned enterprise due to project failure, and finally joined in June 165438+ 10/5, with an intermediate interview of nearly 50 points. "
"In 1992, a married woman, unemployed for nearly 12 months, was confused and afraid that hr would refuse because I planned to have children."
"In 97, the coordinates of Beijing, unemployed twice. Unemployed at the beginning of the year, I found a new job after looking for two months, and I didn't find a formal job after six months of internship. I am still sending my resume, I am very anxious and my family and friends are also very anxious. "
Whenever you lose your job, it's not easy. At the end of the year, I was either fired or resigned because I didn't want to accept the transfer.
Even if there is no unemployment, the sense of anxiety closely surrounds contemporary young people.
According to the report on urban residents' stress released by CBN Weekly:
30.24% of the respondents feel pressure several times a day, and 43.3% think that the pressure they are under is too great for themselves.
High work intensity is one of the reasons for mental stress.
Excluding work and sleep, the average leisure time of China people is 2.27 hours a day. Residents in Shenzhen, Guangzhou, Shanghai and Beijing have less leisure time every day, which are 1.94, 2.04, 2. 14 and 2.25 hours respectively.
The reduction of leisure time per capita in Guangzhou, Guangzhou and Shenzhen is also attributed to the long commuting time and overtime work of Pixing Dai Yue.
In addition, rent or mortgage is also one of the sources of anxiety of contemporary young people.
According to the survey data report, 72. 1% of young people who work hard in cities need to spend more than a quarter of their monthly salary on rent or mortgage.
17.2% young people spend one third of their monthly income on rent/mortgage, and 9.5% young people need to spend half or more of their monthly income on rent/mortgage.
I can't save money, I'm too lazy to socialize, it's difficult to take off my bill, hair loss, sub-health and a series of other problems. , are integrated into one, forming a vicious circle.
Unbearable stress and depression may also come to you quietly.
In the face of pressure, escaping from the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen has become a category for contemporary young people to consider.
But most young people who just graduated are reluctant to go back to their hometown to work.
Because big cities have dreams and want to change the life of the next generation. Because I dare not face it, I am afraid of jokes from my hometown.
After graduating from undergraduate or graduate school, I ran into a wall again and again outside, just because I didn't want to go back to my hometown, but I was afraid of hearing a "loser".
Therefore, it doesn't matter if you want to fight when you are young, even if you fail. So even if you go back, you won't regret not having fought in a big city.
It's best to make some achievements and return to China in clothes.
Therefore, the reasons for returning home for development are basically these two-either success or failure.
These two ways of seclusion have deeply influenced every generation of young people, whether good or bad.
Good is good, positive, motivated and motivated;
Bad is bad, pay too much attention to fame and fortune, and even become a slave to face.
A reader once wrote to the author Lian Yue, saying that he "graduated with a bachelor's degree, but he didn't have any skills". After graduation, I drifted north and sent resumes to several excellent enterprises. Finally, he sighed: "If I go to be a waiter, what will I tell my parents?"
Pursuing dignity is human instinct.
We can't recognize the reality, but we mistake the waiter as a legitimate industry as a shame or "unexplained". This is the pressure caused by face.
If you can't see and let go, you will become a slave sooner or later.
A slave who has no face can embrace freedom more.
Li, a post-90 s woman who was once questioned, is now called "Oriental gourmet lifestyle".
After grandpa died, she dropped out of school and went out to work for 8 years. Later, grandma became ill, so she didn't want to leave any regrets, so she resolutely returned to the countryside to live.
She doesn't care about other people's opinions, including the later videos being said to be "fake, definitely fake", and she doesn't care.
She poured the beauty of life into food and constantly created beauty with her heart.
To make a bamboo sofa, she started from selecting bamboo and cut and assembled it step by step; Fried peanuts will be made from the cultivation of peanuts. ......
She immersed herself in everything she did and enjoyed every step.
It is this beautiful communication that attracts the majority of impetuous society. Her lifestyle of dealing with only one thing at a time is in sharp contrast with the young people in the noisy space.
People who work hard in big cities have too many things to deal with in a day and are very tired.
So when we saw her immersed in doing a "small thing", we also felt at ease. "It seems that I am temporarily divorced from my normal life, put down my impetuousness and wander in the countryside ..." (PS. For more stories about Li, please look forward to tomorrow's tweet)
I don't want you to stay away from Beishangguang immediately, but I hope you can actively pursue the life you want like Li. If you can't find it, you can create it yourself.
Learn to ignore the sarcasm of others and try friends with pressure.
Every generation has the pressure of every generation. But since childhood, we have received all kinds of education and learned a lot of skills, but we have not learned how to deal with pressure.
Everyone's psychological endurance is limited, but the pressure seems to be everywhere and lingering.
Since pressure is so popular, can we try to get along with it and turn it into motivation?
Kelly Magnag, the author of Self-control, mentioned in another book, Self-control: Making Friends with Pressure: We should not fight against pressure, but accept it and make friends with it.
When we can treat stress as a friend, it won't bother you.
What can be done?
Create a notebook about stress.
Buy a notebook and write down your emotions and pressures. About 20 minutes a day, no one bothers you, and record it truthfully. You can also write down your views on the sources and effects of stress. When finished, you can tear it up or keep it a secret.
The function of reservation is to compare and reflect, so as to avoid similar situations.
If you write for three days in a row, the pressure will be relieved to some extent. When you feel stressed, you can talk to your friends.
However, research shows that when people write, they use more emotional words to express themselves. Not everyone wants to listen to us all the time.
In addition, there are some conventional decompression methods:
First, cultivate the hobby of decompression.
Cultivate a hobby after work. When we are absorbed in a hobby, we will pay little attention to or have no time to take care of other things that may be annoying.
Good hobbies can not only divert attention, but also fill the gaps in life.
Second, don't be a slave to mobile phones.
For example, when eating with family and friends, put away your mobile phone; Put down the phone when doing homework or playing games with children;
For example, don't look at your mobile phone half an hour before going to bed.
Third, get enough sleep.
From the sleeping environment to the bedtime ceremony, create your own sleep mode. For example, the indoor temperature should be controlled at about 17 degrees, incandescent lamps should be avoided indoors, and soft lights should be used.
Fourth, keep the habit of exercise.
The last and most effective way is to exercise regularly.
Especially when something goes wrong, jogging can quickly divert attention and temporarily put down depression.
It's not terrible to have pressure. Terrible is that if you don't know how to relieve the pressure, it will also lead to excessive self-blame and anxiety.
Sometimes, we will be frustrated by a little mistake at work and begin to deny ourselves, mistakenly thinking that everyone will remember your mistakes.
These are the negative effects of stress. In fact, not many people care what you did wrong.
Paying too much attention to other people's ideas is tantamount to taking the initiative to be enslaved.
Not worth it.