One to seven years old: self-centered
In the first seven years, the child was self-centered, and he seemed to be the center of the world. The whole family revolves around him, and he will meet everything he needs at once, otherwise he will lose his temper.
He is like a king, a real king.
Mom and dad are his servants, and the whole family exists for him.
Of course, for the larger world, he also thinks so. The moon rises for him, the sun rises for him and the seasons alternate for him. For seven years, the child is completely self-centered, and he is an absolute egoist.
Ask a psychiatrist, and they will say that during those seven years, the child was in a state of satisfying himself. He doesn't need anything else or anyone else. His experience is complete.
Seven to fourteen years old: Same-sex friendship is the most important.
After seven years, there will be a breakthrough. The child is no longer self-centered. More truly, he left that track, that is, he deviated from the original center and began to turn to other people, who became very important-friends and classmates ... At this time, he was no longer so interested in himself, and his interest was in others. In that bigger world, he began an adventure to find out what "others" are.
After the seventh year, children become very good at asking questions. In the end, he will ask questions, and he becomes an out-and-out skeptic. The little creep bored his parents to death because of his ubiquitous problems.
His interest lies in others and everything in the world. Why are trees green? Why did God create the world? Why is this happening? He is more and more like a philosopher-explorer.
Ask questions, question and insist on getting to the bottom of everything.
He will kill a butterfly and see what's inside: break the toy just to know the principle of the toy; Break a clock just to find out how it ticks. What's in it? He is interested in others, but this other person refers to the same sex, and he is not interested in girls. If other boys are interested in girls, he will think they are sissies.
Girls are not interested in men either. If a girl likes to play with boys, she will be considered boyish, which is abnormal and faulty.
Psychoanalysts and psychologists call this second stage the homosexual stage.
14 to 2 1 year: sexual development is vigorous.
Fourteen years later, the third door opened.
Boys are no longer interested in boys and girls are no longer interested in girls. They are friendly to each other, but they are no longer interested.
This is the most profound reason for the friendship established between the ages of seven and fourteen, because at that time, the mind was gay, and that kind of friendship in life could not happen again. Those friends are lifelong friends.
You will be friendly to other friends, but they are all casual acquaintances, not as deep as the friendship between the ages of seven and fourteen.
However, after fourteen, boys are no longer interested in boys. If everything goes as usual, if he doesn't get stuck somewhere, he will start to be interested in girls. Now he is heterosexual.
Not only interested in others, but also really interested in "another person"
Because when a boy likes a boy, he may be "someone else", but he is still a boy, just like himself, not really someone else.
When a boy is interested in a girl, this moment is really interested in the opposite sex. This is the real person: when a girl begins to be interested in a boy, the world begins.
The fourteenth year is a big stage, when sex is partially mature, one begins to think about things from the perspective of sex, and fantasies begin to appear frequently in dreams. The boy becomes a great lover, starts flirting, starts writing poems and begins to fall in love, and he is entering this world.
Twenty-one to twenty-eight: the pursuit of success and material ambition
By the age of twenty-one, if all goes well, children will not be forced to do unnatural things by society. By the age of twenty-one, children will begin to be more interested in ambition than love.
He wants a Rolls-Royce, a mansion, a successful person, another Rockefeller, or the prime minister of a country.
His ambition has grown, and he is full of longing for the future. All his attention is focused on how to succeed, how to compete with others and how to win in the struggle.
Now he has entered not only the natural world, but also the material world of human beings and a crazy world. The most important thing for him is material things.
His whole orientation is secular-money, power and prestige.
28 to 35 years old: pursuing comfort and safety.
If everything goes well, of course, things will never go well. What I'm talking about now is definitely natural growth.
At the age of 28, a person no longer wants to live an adventurous life.
From twenty-one to twenty-eight, he was taking risks. At the age of 28, he began to realize that not all desires can be satisfied, and he can better understand that many desires are impossible to satisfy.
If you are a fool, you can pursue these desires, but a wise man enters another door at the age of 28.
People began to be more interested in safety and comfort than adventure and ambition, and they began to settle down. Hippie life ended at the age of 28.
Twenty-eight is the age when hippies end. Revolutionaries no longer rebel. They began to settle down and live a comfortable life. They have some money in the bank, and they no longer want to be Rockefeller. That desire is gone.
They should have a comfortable nest to live in, and there is some money in the bank to make them feel safe, at least they can have these things forever.
Twenty-eight-year-olds will start buying insurance, will start to settle down, and vagrants will no longer be vagrants.
He bought a house and began to settle down and live a civilized life.
The word civilization comes from civis, which means citizen.
Now he is a part of the city, no longer wandering, no longer wandering.
He won't go to Kathmandu or Goa Beach again. He's not going anywhere.
By the time it's all over, he's seen enough and knows enough. At this time, he will calm down and rest.
Thirty-five to forty-two: advocates of tradition
At the age of thirty-five, a person's life energy will reach a peak, the circle has been completed halfway, and the energy will begin to decline from here. At this time, he was not only interested in safety and comfort, but also a conservative. Not only does he not want any reform, but he also opposes reform and all changes now. He only supports stability.
He doesn't want any reform, he just wants to maintain a stable state, because now he has settled down, and if there is any change, everything will be brought up again, so now he opposes reform and rebellion, and he has officially become a part of the system.
This is normal, unless something goes wrong, one can't be a hippie all one's life.
This is a stage. It's good to have experienced it, but it's not good to stop there, because it means you are stuck at a certain stage.
It is good to be gay from the age of seven to fourteen, but if a person is gay all his life, it means that he has not grown up, he has not grown up, and he must contact women, which is part of life.
The opposite sex is an important part, because only through the opposite sex can you understand each other: conflict, pain, bliss-both crazy and ecstatic. This is a kind of training and necessary training.
By the age of thirty-five, a person will eventually become a part of the secular world, begin to believe in tradition, history, Vedas, the Koran and the Bible, and completely oppose change, because any change will mean that your personal life will be disturbed, and you can't afford to lose now.
You can't support reform, because you want to protect yourself, you will support the law, the court and * * *, you are no longer an agnostic, you will support * * * and regulations.
Forty-two to forty-nine: eager for religion and spirituality
At the age of 42, all kinds of psychological and mental diseases will suddenly pop up together, because life is going downhill and energy is approaching death.
At the beginning of life, your energy begins to flow, you become more and more energetic and vital, and you become more and more energetic.
On the contrary, you are getting weaker every day, but your habits are still the same. You can eat before you are thirty-five. If you continue to eat like this now, you will start to gain weight.
You don't need much food at this time. You used to need it, but now you don't need it, because your life is dying and you don't have to eat so much.
If you fill your stomach as before, you will have all kinds of diseases: high blood pressure, heart disease, insomnia and various ulcers. These diseases all occur around 42 years old, which is the most dangerous age. You start to lose your hair and grow white hair, and your life is dying.
Religion becomes important for the first time when people are approaching 42 years old. You may have dabbled in some religions before, but now religion is an important thing for you for the first time.
Because religion has a deep relationship with death, and death is approaching at this time, you have a desire for religion for the first time in your life.
Fifty-six to sixty-three: getting rid of the fetters of society
At 56, there will be another revolutionary turning point.
At this time, it is not enough to just look at the Himalayas. One must really travel and really escape.
Life is coming to an end, and death is coming.
49-year-old people become uninterested in the opposite sex, and 56-year-old people will lose interest in others, social practice and community activities. A 56-year-old should quit all clubs or lions clubs. These things look silly and naive now.
Sixty-three to seventy years old: returning to childlike innocence
At the age of 63, you are a child again, and all your attention is on yourself.
This is meditation? **Z) Be close to your inner self, as if everything is scattered, only you exist, and you become a child again.
Of course, at this time, you have been enriched by life itself, you are mature, knowledgeable and wise, and you are innocent again. Do you begin to understand? **Z), only seven years left. You must be prepared for death. You must be prepared for death.
What to prepare for death? It is to prepare for death with a celebration, and to meet death with a happy attitude is to prepare for death.
God gave you a chance to learn and live your life, and you learned. At this time, you will want to rest, and at this time, you will want to go back to the ultimate home.
Everything in the past is only temporary shelter. You are wandering in a strange land and living with some strangers. You like strangers and learn a lot. Now is the time: the prince has returned to his own kingdom.
Sixty-three years old is the age when a person completely closes himself in, and all the energy just keeps turning inward, inward and inward.
You have become an energy circle, no longer wandering to other places, no longer reading, your words have become less and less, more and more quiet, become only with yourself, no longer involved with everything around you, and your energy is slowly fading.
At the age of seventy, you are ready. If you keep following this natural pattern, just before you die, nine months before you die, you will begin to realize that death is coming.
Just as a baby needs to go through nine months in its mother's womb, you must repeat the same cycle exactly. Nine months before you die, you will begin to realize that you have entered the uterus again, but this uterus is no longer in your mother's womb, it is on you.