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In a family with many children, parents' love for their children is always saying: the palms of their hands are all meat.
But in life, there are really few people who can really make a bowl of water flat.
In the eyes of parents, the younger children may always be the objects they need to care about, and the older ones should make way for the younger ones.
This kind of parents' partiality will hurt children's hearts when they were young.
If only the love given is eccentric, what is even more frightening is that many parents will kidnap their children morally when their children grow up, and use the hard-earned money of the older children to make plans for the younger son's life.
It is parents' nature to hope that their children will have food and clothing all their lives, but please don't be too partial to each other, and please don't consider only one child in love and material.
The palm of your hand is covered with meat. When children are young, they will be more or less partial to younger children, thinking that older children should be obedient and sensible, and even help themselves to take care of younger children. This is the psychology that many parents will have, but it would be very wrong if parents still prefer the younger one after both children are adults or even married.
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AARON Li (pseudonym) and Wang Juan (pseudonym) have been married for more than ten years. They bought a house in the city, and after they got pregnant and gave birth in Wang Juan, they took AARON Li's parents from the countryside. First, they let their parents enjoy themselves. Secondly, when Wang Juan is alone at home, his in-laws help to look after the children.
Li Hui has a younger brother who goes to college, and his parents have always loved him.
Although the in-laws live in the eldest son's house, they have been thinking about the younger son. They hope that AARON Li can help his younger brother pay the down payment to buy a house, and he can go to work directly after graduation without worrying about buying a house all day.
But the conditions in AARON Li are very limited. Although he is the director of the company, he earns 20 thousand yuan a month. However, since she became pregnant and gave birth to a child, Wang Juan has never had a stable job. The whole family is pointing at him, and life is not easy.
Before the Mid-Autumn Festival last year, my brother who went to college called to say that he would go home for the Mid-Autumn Festival.
Mother was naturally happy to hear that her youngest son was coming back. She immediately called AARON Li and asked him to buy meat, fish and delicious food on the Mid-Autumn Festival.
On weekdays, Wang Juan washes vegetables and cooks at home, but on the Mid-Autumn Festival, when AARON Li bought everything according to her mother's instructions, AARON Li's mother was so happy that she didn't need Wang Juan's help, so she did it herself.
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There is a mother-in-law washing vegetables and cooking at home, so Wang Juan went to buy some nuts and moon cakes, and then came back to help her. But when everything was ready, AARON Li's younger brother called to say that he would not come back, and he would travel with his friends.
AARON Li's mother was a little disappointed. After hanging up the phone, she pointed to the meat in Wang Juan's hand and told her not to cook it yet. She put it in the refrigerator and waited for everyone to eat it when her youngest son came home one day.
Wang Juan was very unhappy at that time. She knows that her mother-in-law loves her youngest son, but she can't let everyone have a holiday just because he is not alone. Can't she eat something good this holiday? Besides, even if my brother comes next time, just buy fish and meat. These are not fresh in the refrigerator.
Wang Juan was very upset, and her mother-in-law was so strange. This kind of thing is not once or twice. In the details of life, all the delicious food and drinks should be left to her youngest son, for fear that he will not be able to eat or drink well. In short, everyone in the family should protect and pamper their youngest son.
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If it's just a quirk in life, what AARON Li's mother wants to solve most is the house problem of her youngest son.
My mortgage in AARON Li has been paid off, so I plan to buy a car for myself. One day when I go to work, I will squeeze the bus and transfer to the subway, and take taxis everywhere, which is a waste of money.
But he still needed 50,000 yuan for the down payment on his luxury car, so AARON Li thought of his parents' savings and wanted to borrow their money to turn around.
As a result, AARON Li's mother said, "Where do we have so much money? I have 10 thousand yuan on me at most. You can take it if you want. Besides, if you have money to buy a car for yourself, why not buy a house for your brother? "
AARON Li was speechless, but said nothing.
Later, AARON Li's car purchase plan was put on hold, but AARON Li's mother wanted to buy a house for her youngest son.
AARON Li's mother said to her eldest son, "Your father and I have to pay the down payment for your brother's house now, and there is still a shortfall of 300,000. If you don't buy a car first and give this 300,000 yuan to your brother as a house down payment, your brother will have less pressure to find a job. You can buy a car slowly in the future. "
AARON Li didn't comment on what his mother said. He knows that his parents have always been partial to his brother since he was a child.
When they got married, their parents didn't subsidize Wang Juan except the change fee. After their marriage, he and Wang Juan tried to save money to pay the down payment on the house. After the house was renovated, Wang Juan got pregnant, so he took his parents to live. First of all, he wants them to enjoy some happiness. Second, he goes to work by himself. When Wang Juan is too busy, their parents can help with the children.
But who knows, since they took it, they have been worried about their youngest son all day. They just want to eat something good and wear something good. Now they want him to pay the down payment on the house. AARON Li felt that his parents' partiality had seriously hurt him.
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Looking at her son's silence, AARON Li's mother got angry and said, "Will you give it or not?"
AARON Li said, "I don't have that much money." Three hundred thousand, for Li Hui, is a lot of money. Even if you don't eat or drink, you have to save for two or three years, not to mention he has a family.
AARON Li's mother said angrily, "How did I give birth to a son like you? Your brother wants to buy a house now. Is it so difficult for you to make a down payment? I raised you for nothing. "
AARON Li said, "Mom, I am filial to you. I don't care if you give him money to buy a house, but you can't do this to me! Hours later, you hurt your brother. When you grow up, all your money will be left to your brother. I don't care. How to buy a house for my brother now? Maybe my brother will give you a pension alone in the future? I also have my family, and I also have my difficulties. When I bought a house, you had no money. Now you want me to pay 300 thousand to buy him a house. I have no money and I don't owe him. "
AARON Li's mother was so angry that she didn't know what to do. She scolded AARON Li for being heartless and not caring about his parents' kindness, and complained that he cared about his younger brother. Then he accused the eldest son of being unfilial for not helping his younger brother, and even complained that Wang Juan couldn't make money, which made AARON Li save less money, which made Li Hui so angry that he wanted his parents to go back to their hometown in the countryside.
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Sometimes what hurts you the most is the people closest to you.
You have the same parents as another child, but you can't get the same love. Even ask you to take care of and love that child, and even use your own efforts to give that child a better life.
The harm caused by parents' eccentricity will stifle the filial piety of children who love their parents at last, and even if they have children, they are unwilling to see their parents again.
In fact, no child will mind the existence of brothers and sisters. What they care about is that their parents transfer all their love and energy to their younger brothers and sisters, and what should belong to them is given to another child by their parents.
Parents tend to be partial, and parents change their children's personalities. In the end, it is parents who point fingers at heartless people.
In life, in a family with many children, I am most afraid of parents' partiality.
The same child was conceived in 10. Why do parents divide love in an unequal way?
Many people can accept that when I was a child, my parents loved the younger one more, which is not difficult to understand. Because you are young, you naturally need someone to look after you. But what I can't accept is, as an adult child, why should I give my hard-earned money to my brother or sister?
So parents don't have to take exams, but I hope you understand that it's your right to have multiple children, but it's your fault that you neglected the first child because you gave birth to the second child and made him feel hurt.