I. Background

Growing children, because of their immature physical and mental health, have no comprehensive understanding of the things around them. Once influenced by certain factors, they will take some barbaric behaviors, that is, aggressive behaviors.

Xiao Songsong is a lively little boy. Because his parents are busy at work, they live with their grandparents from Monday to Friday, have story classes on Saturday morning and English classes on Sunday morning, so they have little contact with their parents. Because of the doting of his ancestors, Komatsu is willful and overbearing, doesn't like sharing very much, and gets angry easily.

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Second, the case description and analysis

Can't suffer-"Grandma said that others hit me and I must fight back."

In the process of "clingy" game, Komatsu and Bob both want to stand with Jerry. Xiao Songsong took Jerry's hand and said, "Let's stand together!" But Bob said, "I stood next to him first. Go away! " This sentence angered Xiao Songsong, who pointed to Bob and said, "Go away!" " "In this way, you quarrel with me sentence by sentence. In the process, Bob accidentally stepped on Song Xiao, and Song Xiao immediately stepped back, and stepped on more than one foot. Later, I asked Song Xiao, "Why did you step on Bob's foot so violently?" Xiao Songsong stubbornly cocked his head and said, "He stepped on me first." "But he obviously walked next to Jerry first, and he didn't mean to step on you. "Xiao Songsong said:" Grandma said that others hit me and I had to pay it back. "

There is a reason for Xiao Songsong's quarrel and the "strike back" incident mentioned above. The reason is that Xiao Songsong's grandmother usually "educates" him like this, instilling in him the idea of not losing money from an early age. In his grandmother's view, perhaps this is a sign of loving and doting on his grandson, because he is afraid that his grandson will suffer and be bullied outside. In fact, it is this incorrect educational method that leads to the frequent aggressive behavior of Xiao Songsong, so that this behavior has become a habit of Xiao Songsong and turned him into an out-and-out "savage" child.

Third, educational strategies.

-Training social skills.

Before training Song Xiao's social skills, Song Xiao's parents, especially grandparents, should change the way of doting on their children, instead of guiding them to fight back in the wrong way just because they are afraid that their children will suffer. They should reason with Song Xiao, let him understand that "it is a rule not to hit people", and let him realize that "it's not all people's fault, sometimes it's their own fault". However, you must not beat and scold easily or use simple and rude methods. ?

On the basis of changing the way of family education, Komatsu's interpersonal conflict resolution ability is gradually improved, thus effectively controlling his aggressive behavior. For example, if Xiao Songsong wants to play while others are playing, he can be taught how to ask others politely in a consultative tone: "Can you help me play for a while?" You give it to me for the time being, and I'll return it to you later. "This is the most ideal way, and the effect achieved in this way is far better than forcibly pushing the child away.