We are all ordinary people with almost the same IQ, but our achievements in life are quite different. The reason lies in the difference of vision and pattern, which is attributed to the family and school education we received since childhood.
There is a saying that boys should be poor and girls should be rich. It means that we should educate boys with more suffering, while for girls, we should let her see the world more and cultivate noble integrity. Children who grow up in this way will have a broader understanding of the world.
But not all parents have the conditions to support their children. Therefore, when we grow up, we need to enrich ourselves and take the helm of our lives.
How long can it be bright and fresh? Once wandering, it's hard to find. Appearance is just the tip of the iceberg for girls, not worth mentioning. An attractive woman is more attractive because of her inner self-confidence and the atmosphere between her gestures.
A noble woman can always make people feel calm and secure. She won't get into endless disputes or get together in groups of three or five, but she likes to get out of the noise and find her own world.
All along, we all think that the phrase "a woman without talent is virtue" means that a woman should cultivate virtue rather than talent, but it is not.
The real meaning of this sentence is that if a woman has no talent, she must have good virtue, that is, she is required to pay attention to the cultivation of virtue, but she is not required to ignore talent. Excellent women should account for at least one of them. If they have both talent and outstanding personality, it is naturally the most rare.
But today, some people still say that girls' high academic qualifications and strong ability are disadvantages, because few men can grasp such women and people dare not approach them.
This is obviously intended to suppress women's enthusiasm for self-improvement.
Ancient authorities used this idea to constantly exaggerate the argument that "a woman's talent is a disaster".
In their eyes, once women have knowledge, they will yearn for freedom and have the ability to think independently. Not only will it be difficult to control, but it will also begin to oppose feudal ethics and become disloyal.
Therefore, we can see that in ancient times, women became the accessories of men, without self-awareness and autonomy in marriage and love, and only a handful of women were lucky enough to meet true love and have a happy life.
And those talented women who know how to hyphenate are even more unlucky. They are often unlucky.
A woman must first enrich her spirit. Knowledge and thought are a person's most powerful weapons. When we are questioned and hurt, it can make us get out as soon as possible.
Understand that a woman's greatest strength is never a man, but an independent and confident spirit.
When Yu Xiuhua appeared on the stage of The Reader with her poems, this truth became clear.
When I first saw Yu Xiuhua, normal people would frown unconsciously. She was born poor and ugly. She was born with cerebral palsy. She slurred her speech and shook her head uncontrollably. Even normal walking is a problem.
But when she picks up a book and reads her life from her own poems, you will find that this woman, although seemingly fragmented, is full of stubborn courage, romantic feelings and hope.
19 years old, parents took the initiative to find a husband for Yu Xiuhua. At first, she fantasized about relying on this man, and she wanted to experience the sweetness of marriage. However, after getting married, she soon found that her husband was unreliable. He was drunk and hit people. He didn't like her writing poems. He always laughs at her.
How much I like loneliness, and I like to wash away my scars by the river at dusk. What I can't do in this life, I will write on the epitaph, let me leave, let me be free. "
Yu Xiuhua, who wrote this poem, felt nothing but pain and despair about marriage.
But Yu Xiuhua dare not divorce. The villagers have been waiting for her jokes for a long time. Divorce is a scandal in the neighborhood. Not only his parents will be pointed at, but also his son will never get well.
Yu Xiuhua worked harder and spent all possible time writing poems, earning enough publishing fees. She gave her husband a suite and filed for divorce.
Yu Xiuhua was born again after suffering. She is no longer a vassal of Nuo Nuo and has endured the hardships of marriage, but she still boldly believes in love. From then on, when she meets someone she likes, she will bravely pursue it. This confidence and courage also made her lucky.
The saddest thing for a woman is to give up her self-worth and regard herself as an accessory of a man.
Women can't live without their own social circle. If your life always revolves around the man around you, then one day you may be mercilessly abandoned, and then you will have nothing.
"Sister of milk tea" ZhangZetian just got the news that she is in love with her boss Liu. On the Internet, she almost slandered ZhangZetian.
Everyone said that ZhangZetian was young and beautiful, and he was attached to a boss worth hundreds of millions when he was still at school. The age difference between the two is so great that I am afraid I will not be able to return to Liu.
However, for many years, ZhangZetian did not defend himself. After marrying Liu, she silently played every role, whether it was a wife, a mother, a student or an entrepreneur. She gradually forged herself from a young female student to a stable corporate partner.
She not only attended the entrepreneurs' summits and charity dinners with her husband, but also generously entered the fashion circle and entertainment circle, held a private fashion dinner in new york, and met half the people in the American fashion circle.
Today, ZhangZetian is no longer the little girl promoted by the entrepreneur's husband in the media, because she has developed her own business territory and has great social influence.
It can be said that ZhangZetian's success is largely due to her clever social mind.
When she was studying at Barnard Women's College in the United States in her early years, she frequently went in and out of Columbia University's photography circle, and at that time, she met her current husband Liu.
The book "Don't Eat Alone" tells us that your circle will expose your level, and it will also help to improve your level and establish a high-quality social circle, which is very important for a person.
Only in high-quality circles can we meet Bole who can lead us to a wider world, and meet people who can change our destiny, so as to give full play to our talents.
Smart women don't always spend time chatting with others about boring gossip. They know how to create opportunities to make better friends, get more high-quality information and realize the continuous leap of life.
Inward growth is as important as outward growth. Elegant women know how to talk to themselves and cherish every time they are alone.
There are always too many temptations in the outside world, and we often squander our money to attract our eyes. We can't tell right from wrong. A smart woman knows how to be kind to herself in this troubled times. She will sum up the experience of failure through introspection and recovery, and refine the rules and methods that suit her.
Labouille said, "All the misfortunes we have suffered are because we can't be alone. Loneliness always makes us feel sad and sad, so we are afraid of being alone. "
A woman who knows how to be alone, even enjoys being alone, must have a very rich spiritual world. She doesn't need to be busy or hardworking through noisy socializing and frequent chatting, because she always knows clearly what she wants to do, what she can do and what she is doing.
Such a woman is her biggest backer. They are not obvious, they are never arrogant, they are easy, because the hardships of life have already calmed them down.
Being alone gives us more time to study and summarize. Some people like reading, some people like writing, some people like singing, and some people are used to sports. In short, during this period, life belongs to us alone, which is a very good opportunity for self-improvement.
Therefore, people who like to be alone often work hard in silence and make a blockbuster.
There are many stories hidden under the unassuming appearance. Such a woman, like a book that can never be read, is not only attractive to the opposite sex, but also has great charm to the same sex.
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