A poetess in Qing Dynasty once wrote a poem describing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: "Women are often lovely, and daughter-in-law is often disgusting;" Advise the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the world to love three points and three points. Every time my wife listens, every kiss is the opposite; May the son of man be a little obedient to his wife in the world. " The poem is: mother-in-law should love her daughter-in-law as much as her own children; As a son, we should also weigh both sides, not just the feelings of one side. This poem has profound implications and summarizes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
0 1 mother-in-law's career
In Beijing, a thing happened that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was not good. After quarreling with his wife, Zhao Lei (pseudonym) abandoned his pregnant wife and walked away. It was not until 10 that the wife learned that her husband had become a monk in the temple. At present, the two sides have reached an agreement to divorce and the daughter is raised by the mother.
Zhao Lei was born in Miyun County, Beijing, and has been very quiet since childhood. In 2004, Zhao Lei was introduced to his wife Lili, who was 6 years younger than him. After a year of love, they tied the knot and entered the marriage hall. After marriage, the two loved each other and looked forward to a better life in the future. The following year, their daughter was born. Unfortunately, when she was 6 months old, she died of illness, which made the couple very sad.
After that, the two slowly walked out of the bronze drum where they lost their daughter and planned to have another child. During Lily's second child's pregnancy, there were frequent quarrels between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which put Lei Zhao in a dilemma. According to Li Li's dictation, my mother-in-law is very strong, and everything in the family must be approved by her. If she is slightly dissatisfied, she will swear. Once, Lily was scolded by her mother-in-law for not cleaning the room. Lily quarreled with her mother-in-law. Just when Lei Zhao came home from work, her mother-in-law cried to Lei Zhao about Lily's fault. Lily fought back not to be outdone, so it was reasonable, and Zhao Lei was helpless.
The husband couldn't stand the quarrel between his mother-in-law and his daughter-in-law, so he chose to become a monk, and his mother was very supportive.
After that, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became more and more tense, and there was a lot of noise at home every day. After the quarrel between mother and lily, Lei Zhao finally left a note and ran away from home. Lili was pregnant for more than six months. Lily thought her husband was just angry and would come back soon. Unexpectedly, there was no news of her husband leaving.
/kloc-When her daughter was born 0/0 months ago, Li learned from her mother-in-law that her husband had become a monk, which surprised Li Li. Because Li Li couldn't find her husband, she sued for divorce, hoping to find her husband's whereabouts through the court, but the judge said there was nothing they could do, and Li Li dropped the lawsuit. Regarding her husband's becoming a monk, Li Li said: My mother-in-law is very supportive.
After many inquiries and searches, Lili finally found her husband in a temple in Hangzhou. At this point, Zhao Lei has been a monk for a year. The moment she saw her husband, Lei Zhao said, "I will never go down the mountain again. Go back. " Li Li saw that her husband was so determined and disheartened, and they discussed divorce. Because Zhao Lei refused to go down the mountain, Li Li applied to the court for a court session in the temple. Considering the particularity of the case, the court also agreed to their request.
Divorce court, a temporary building at the foot of the mountain.
Zhao Lei and his mother.
It was raining in Mao Mao on the day of the trial, just like Li Li's mood was gloomy. The altitude of the temple is 1300 meters, and everything seems very calm. Li Li holds her babbling daughter with a hint of melancholy in her eyes. Soon, a car came down from the mountain, and Zhao Lei got off in a monk's robe. When Zhao Lei's eyes saw his daughter, a smile appeared on his face, which was the first time Zhao Lei saw her daughter. Lily came here with her daughter to show Lei Zhao their daughter, but she still has feelings for Lei Zhao.
The scene of the divorce was improvised. In court, both parties agreed to divorce. At this time, Li Li was in tears. We have always had a good relationship after marriage, but today the fate has arrived. Zhao Lei seems a little cold. I chose the path of becoming a monk, and I will keep going. A property under Zhao Lei's name was also left to Lili. Zhao Lei has borrowed 20,000 yuan from his parents. If Lili doesn't want to live, she will sell the house and pay her parents 20 thousand yuan.
Zhao Lei also said: Sorry parents. Pay attention to your health in the future. My son is unfilial. Regarding children, Zhao Lei said: Children can also be raised by him, and temples will also support children. Lily is naturally opposed. She insisted on raising her daughter by herself. The trial ended soon, Li Li thanked the judge, and Zhao Lei was expressionless. After signing, she turned away without looking at her family and children.
Conclusion:
Li Li couldn't figure out why her husband did this at first, but she was relieved to see that his mind was made up. After all, everyone has their own ideas. For children, Li Li said that she would take good care of them and hoped that her daughter would grow up healthily.