1. In the early Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a hermit in Fufeng Pingling (now Guanbei, Xianyang, Shaanxi). His surname is Liang, his name is Hong, and his word is Bo Luan. When he was very young, his parents left their lonely son and the world. Since then, the family has been declining and finally poor. But his interest is unusual and extremely lofty. Once, he went up the mountain to put pigs, accidentally caught fire and burned down a farmhouse. Hongliang compensated with pigs, but there were too few owners. Hong Liang said, I have no other property, so I have to pay it back with my own body. He went to that house to work day and night. Neighbors, both near and far, think that the host has gone too far, and everyone is talking about it. The owner of that family found it difficult to offend people, so he wanted to return the pig to Hongliang. Hongliang doesn't want to go home empty-handed Hongliang is poor, but he has never received charity. Neighbors felt sorry for him when they saw him alone. Sometimes he is invited to dinner when the meal is ready, and he always declines politely. After the kitchen fire went out, he borrowed the kitchen fire and cooked by himself. Because of this, coupled with his intelligence and erudition, many people proposed to him, and he declined them one by one. The Meng family in the same county had a daughter named Meng Guang, who was ugly and fat, strong enough to lift a mortar, dressed simply on weekdays, never dressed up, and refused to get married at the age of thirty. Her parents urged her, but she said, "Only people like Hongliang will marry me." Hongliang heard about it and married her. Meng Guang married his Mr Right, so he was very happy. He wore silk clothes again, trying to make Hongliang happy. However, after seven days, Hongliang ignored her. Meng Guang felt very wronged and asked her husband to tell her why. Hong Liang said: "My wife should be able to live in seclusion in the mountains with me and live a poor life;" And how can you suit my heart when you wear such luxury and paint? " Hearing this, Meng Guang changed into plain cloth and stopped painting on his face. She just tried to do housework and waited on Hongliang carefully. Hong Liang said happily, "This is really like my wife! "So they went to Baling Mountain to live in seclusion. Every day, men plow and women weave, and whenever they have time, they sing poetry and play the piano, which is enjoyable. Life is very happy. Hongliang loves his wife very much, while Meng Guang respects her husband. Every time when eating, Meng Guang always holds the tray filled with rice high in front of his eyebrows and invites her husband to dinner as a token of respect.

This is the origin of the allusion of "quoting Qi Mei".

2. "Take Qi Mei as an example" is a famous idiom. From the interpretation and application of history, it is considered that it summarizes the touching story of husband and wife's mutual love. In fact, this is a big misunderstanding.

"Take Qi Mei as an example" comes from "Who is Han Shu? 6? "Biography of Liang Hongchuan" 1 Biography of Yimin. Hongliang (word Luan) was born in a poor family and had to work for others, but he was honest and praised. Some people want to marry their daughters to Gao Jie after they know him. But Hongliang doesn't want to get married.

"Montague, the same county, had a daughter who was fat, ugly and black. She asked for a stone mortar and chose whether to marry until she was thirty. When his parents asked him why, the woman said,' Be virtuous like Liang Boluan.' "After loud know married Meng Guang. Meng Guang dressed up to get married. Unexpectedly, Hongliang didn't say a word to his new wife for seven days. As a last resort, "my wife knelt under the bed" and asked why. Hong Liang said, how can you live with me when you are dressed so well? Meng Guang hurriedly put on rough old clothes, according to the work clothes to dress up. At this time, Hongliang was overjoyed and said, "This is really Hongliang's wife. You can serve me! "

Please pay attention to the word "feng". It turns out that it is not her personality or her ugly appearance that Hongliang takes a fancy to Meng Guang, but her strong physique that can serve herself.

Later, Hongliang offended the emperor by writing poems, so he changed his name and surname and fled to Qilu with his wife. When life is unstable, Hongliang goes to work for others. Working outside is a servant, but "every time I go home, my wife has food to eat, and I dare not look up and lead in front of Hong".

In other words, she mentioned the rice case in Qi Mei, not out of respect, but out of soul mate, but actually "dare not look up". I can only bow my head and wait on my master.

The above is almost all the information that records the life of this couple. After reading it, I really didn't realize the breath of respect and love between husband and wife. I only see an arrogant man who is very masculine and regards his wife as a slave, and I also see a respectful and extremely cowardly woman image.

Why has "Qi Mei" become synonymous with love, blind date and respect? I think this scene is too attractive to the poor. Not everyone has the pleasure of "drinking tea and reading day and night", and "taking Qi Mei as an example" can satisfy men's vanity to some extent. This is also a reflection of the status relationship between husband and wife in the old society, and it should be regarded as a model of "men are superior to women".